Can men and women ever be just friends?
#1
Can men and women ever be just friends?
So can grown adults ever be just good friends or is there always a sexual undercurrent?
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Re: Can men and women ever be just friends?
QUOTE=kittycat1;9162322]So can grown adults ever be just good friends or is there always a sexual undercurrent?[/QUOTE]
This is always a hot potato. 80% of the people I work with are women. Some of them are my friends, others are just colleagues. Some I fancy, most I do not. My best friend joined work the same day as me and there is no sexual undercurrent as far as we are both concerned. In her words "we are good mates". She is a brilliant latin dancer & we always took to the floor at work's parties, but even with the nature of the dancing, it wasn't sexual between us. I always looked out for her, as 2 senior managers were giving her a bad press behind her back. Both, sadly, were also females. My friend went on a 2 year secondment as a result. Is the expression sexual undercurrent the same as sexual chemistry?
This is always a hot potato. 80% of the people I work with are women. Some of them are my friends, others are just colleagues. Some I fancy, most I do not. My best friend joined work the same day as me and there is no sexual undercurrent as far as we are both concerned. In her words "we are good mates". She is a brilliant latin dancer & we always took to the floor at work's parties, but even with the nature of the dancing, it wasn't sexual between us. I always looked out for her, as 2 senior managers were giving her a bad press behind her back. Both, sadly, were also females. My friend went on a 2 year secondment as a result. Is the expression sexual undercurrent the same as sexual chemistry?
Last edited by Elmer Fudd; Feb 8th 2011 at 7:23 pm. Reason: removed end bracket
#3
Re: Can men and women ever be just friends?
This applies whether or not they're in a relationship/married or not and whether or not this is a hetero or other relationship/partnership.
There may, of course, be the 'frisson', that possible 'spark' that one person my feel when meeting another person. How the indiviual deals with it (and whether or not it is reciprocated) is an entirely different question.
Platonic friendships are the best - if you're ever fortunate enough to have one you're among the luckiest people ever.
#4
Re: Can men and women ever be just friends?
Why are women so paranoid in thinking men couldn’t possibly have a motive for friendship outside of sex? Is it a kind of primitive need for constant male approval? I can only imagine how distraught women will be when they realise how many men are faithfully married or gay or just not that into women and so really couldn’t care less.
We don’t usually have the same kind of friendships with women as other men but on balance I don’t think women would really appreciate the shared pursuits that strengthen male friendships.
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Spugsy will be very disappointed. As for myself, I was raised with three sisters and no brothers. As a consequence (perhaps), I have always been more comfortable and relaxed around females rather than males. I frankly find most guys boring and I expect they find me boring too.
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Re: Can men and women ever be just friends?
Can't they ever be just enemies?
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Spugsy will be very disappointed. As for myself, I was raised with three sisters and no brothers. As a consequence (perhaps), I have always been more comfortable and relaxed around females rather than males. I frankly find most guys boring and I expect they find me boring too.
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Re: Can men and women ever be just friends?
Spugsy will be very disappointed. As for myself, I was raised with three sisters and no brothers. As a consequence (perhaps), I have always been more comfortable and relaxed around females rather than males. I frankly find most guys boring and I expect they find me boring too.
Saying that when I was ut with kittycat, mrs spugsy and 4 other lasses over christmas and they were going on about shoes and work and stuff I did want to pluck my eyeballs out and fill my ears with guacamole.
#13
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I think that it is entirely possible. In fact, I prefer the company of women to men. They are just so much more interesting.
Men, in general, are dull and mostly talk about work, football and women. While I love the latter conversation, the former two are so so dull. Women talk about everything, including other women.
I have many female friends - some, I would love to jump on, some I wouldn't. Further, I am pretty certain that all of them have no interest in me.
Men, in general, are dull and mostly talk about work, football and women. While I love the latter conversation, the former two are so so dull. Women talk about everything, including other women.
I have many female friends - some, I would love to jump on, some I wouldn't. Further, I am pretty certain that all of them have no interest in me.
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Re: Can men and women ever be just friends?
I think that it is entirely possible. In fact, I prefer the company of women to men. They are just so much more interesting.
Men, in general, are dull and mostly talk about work, football and women. While I love the latter conversation, the former two are so so dull. Women talk about everything, including other women.
I have many female friends - some, I would love to jump on, some I wouldn't. Further, I am pretty certain that all of them have no interest in me.
Men, in general, are dull and mostly talk about work, football and women. While I love the latter conversation, the former two are so so dull. Women talk about everything, including other women.
I have many female friends - some, I would love to jump on, some I wouldn't. Further, I am pretty certain that all of them have no interest in me.