2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

Hi all - Just joined the forum today.

Just coming to the end of my 2nd year in Dubai and whilst I have enjoyed the experience for the most part so far, the same can't be said for my wife.

I was lucky in that I was dropped instantly into a circle of people through my work when we arrived (through my job that brought us here), but sadly my wife has struggled in finding a solid reliable job and therefore to build friendships with more than a handful of people.

Understandably she doesn't want all our socialising to be done with people from my work (which invariably have an element of 'talking shop'). We have some lovely neighbours and live in a great community, but all the girls have kids (& we don't), so nights out for my wife where she enjoys letting her hair down and partying generally end early (shooting home for baby) with lots of baby talk in between.

I'm just wondering, just like there are "mum" groups, whether there are forums/sites for childless women that aren't full of pervs on the 'lookout'?

I don't want her to stay here feeling miserable and I fear my other half not being able to have downtime to let her hair down socially will end up with her moving back to the uk while I see out my contract here.

Would be interested if its a common thing for the girls/ladies without kids to feel so isolated out here...? And if so, how they've overcome that.

Thanks folks,

S

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

No, ta. (You read my post, right?)

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There's the expat woman forum, but they're usually hateful catty women.

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Tell your wife to look at Meetup.com. Scores of groups on there including for singles or childless couples of all ages. It's a great way to meet people, especially if it's tied to a common activity she enjoys.

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

Deffo try meetup - There are a few couples (you may want to pick them carefully!) groups too

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Highly recommend Igglesxxx or SexyIgs. :rofl::rofl::rofl:

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women are way to much drama out here.....I only have 2 women friends out here....the rest of my friends are all blokes....and I personally prefer it like that....guy friends are easy going, tell it how it is, no bullsh*t and no biatchy drama.


but yeah I agree with the others, try meetup....I actually met one of my female friends from meetup.

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:lol:

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It is definitely not just the Ladies.

Dubai is non-stop drama at every turn. It's like being at school again sometimes.

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

Thanks.

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

How old are you and your wife?

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Me, 45 and my wife 35.

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

What about through social stuff, maybe through sport or something? Does she play netball or golf or anything?

Does she work?

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

SCAMPY the OP has already mentioned his Mrs doesn't have a job/work.

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I would suggest finding a job being the main requirement. Without kids, nappies and mum talk to fill the day, it'll be shit boring. Especially as the only people not working will be those with kids, nappies and mum talk.

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Sorry Mum.

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After living 5 years here I have come to the realization (well got that 3 years ago actually) that the need for camaraderie / friends to hang out with is very strong, especially in a place like this where 8 months of the year, you really cant go out for a walk / outdoor activities / just go to the park etc. I get where she is coming from and can empathize as I make it a point to make sure I go out atleast once a week to keep myself sane :D
I think a hobby is important in this case. Anything that can be practiced indoors with a team and by joining a club I guess. Muay Thai? Painting? Gun Club? By the way I would love to join an indoor gun club if anyone can recommend one and also something thats not too far out of Dubai / cost an arm and a leg.

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Back in the 1990s I was with my wife living on a nice compound in Jeddah. She found it very difficult - until she got a job. After that things were much better for her.

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there's a gun shooting rang in Jebel Ali, i'd be up for that.

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I can't recommend the one in AD (Officers Club?). Took my boys there; we were offered laser clay pigeon shooting because ... they'd run out of bullets. :blink:

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Dunno about currently but it was the same at Jebal Ali a while back. They were having a hard time getting supplies into the country and so were limiting the shooting range to members only and even then only a set amount of rounds.

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Sharjah Golf and Shooting club might be an option, unless you're going on an evening you're against the traffic?

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Hello

There are friendly women's groups here. Is your wife on Facebook? If you want to drop me a PM I can give you the links to friendly groups that might be useful. Some are just chat pages, others organise nights out, meet up etc.

There are plenty of genuine women here but they can take a bit of hunting down. :)

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Dont I know it :ohmy:

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Sounds like a good sporting event. Does one have to dress?

Re: 2 years here, wifey struggling to make real solid (girl)friends
 

yes but your red dress doesn't count sunshine ;)