1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
I'm glad you qualified that with "luckily for her", Kittycat. Whatever anyone's views on abortion, surely you can't escape without at least some lingering doubt that terminating a life is in some way wrong. Doing it seven times coz you can't be arsed to take precautions evidences a complete lack of conscience. I'm no advocate of eugenics, but what moral standards is she going to impart to her children?
Not have a go, Kittycat, just IMHO.
Not have a go, Kittycat, just IMHO.
If you think I was sounding frivalous regarding abortion i am far from it, personally I agree with you- without going into too personal details the choice for me to have children is not straight forwards, I chose from a young age that it is something I will never do unless there are medical advancements relevant to my personal circumstances. I consider being able to have kids a gift, to dismiss a pregnancy as an inconvenience for me is heartbreaking. In the UK it is nigh on impossible to adopt and the criteria to adopt rules out a high percentage of people who want to adopt.
I'm not here to judge anyone and everyone makes decisions that are right for them at the time, however life is precious and I find the fact that the UK has one of the highest abortion rates in Europe very upsetting. I am not some abortion activist, I would never dictate to anyone that I think what they are doing is wrong because only they can decide what is right for them but for me being able to have children is a luxury that sadly too many women take for granted and abuse.
No offence to anyone that has had an abortion, it's just my personal view from my personal background- as they say you don't know what you've got til its gone.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
She was south african if that explains things better...
If you think I was sounding frivalous regarding abortion i am far from it, personally I agree with you- without going into too personal details the choice for me to have children is not straight forwards, I chose from a young age that it is something I will never do unless there are medical advancements relevant to my personal circumstances. I consider being able to have kids a gift, to dismiss a pregnancy as an inconvenience for me is heartbreaking. In the UK it is nigh on impossible to adopt and the criteria to adopt rules out a high percentage of people who want to adopt.
I'm not here to judge anyone and everyone makes decisions that are right for them at the time, however life is precious and I find the fact that the UK has one of the highest abortion rates in Europe very upsetting. I am not some abortion activist, I would never dictate to anyone that I think what they are doing is wrong because only they can decide what is right for them but for me being able to have children is a luxury that sadly too many women take for granted and abuse.
No offence to anyone that has had an abortion, it's just my personal view from my personal background- as they say you don't know what you've got til its gone.
If you think I was sounding frivalous regarding abortion i am far from it, personally I agree with you- without going into too personal details the choice for me to have children is not straight forwards, I chose from a young age that it is something I will never do unless there are medical advancements relevant to my personal circumstances. I consider being able to have kids a gift, to dismiss a pregnancy as an inconvenience for me is heartbreaking. In the UK it is nigh on impossible to adopt and the criteria to adopt rules out a high percentage of people who want to adopt.
I'm not here to judge anyone and everyone makes decisions that are right for them at the time, however life is precious and I find the fact that the UK has one of the highest abortion rates in Europe very upsetting. I am not some abortion activist, I would never dictate to anyone that I think what they are doing is wrong because only they can decide what is right for them but for me being able to have children is a luxury that sadly too many women take for granted and abuse.
No offence to anyone that has had an abortion, it's just my personal view from my personal background- as they say you don't know what you've got til its gone.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
adoption rules for whites are you should be married (preferred), under 40, non smokers, have a healthy BMI ( if you are classed as fat you will get rejectedso women a BMI of over 25) etc, Once having applied for adoption in the UK it takes upto 4 years to go through so you have to be under 36 to apply as if you've just turned 40 as the adoption goes through you'll get rejected. If you are from a minority race then there is a higher chance of adoption as they prefer to put kids into a same race family. If you apply and get rejected thats it you can't go off and give up smoking or lose weight your chance has gone.
It all comes down to how many kids are in need of homes in your district.
Foster caring is much easier and I've always thought I'd like to foster when I'm older amd settled.
It all comes down to how many kids are in need of homes in your district.
Foster caring is much easier and I've always thought I'd like to foster when I'm older amd settled.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
adoption rules for whites are you should be married (preferred), under 40, non smokers, have a healthy BMI ( if you are classed as fat you will get rejectedso women a BMI of over 25) etc, Once having applied for adoption in the UK it takes upto 4 years to go through so you have to be under 36 to apply as if you've just turned 40 as the adoption goes through you'll get rejected. If you are from a minority race then there is a higher chance of adoption as they prefer to put kids into a same race family. If you apply and get rejected thats it you can't go off and give up smoking or lose weight your chance has gone.
It all comes down to how many kids are in need of homes in your district.
Foster caring is much easier and I've always thought I'd like to foster when I'm older amd settled.
It all comes down to how many kids are in need of homes in your district.
Foster caring is much easier and I've always thought I'd like to foster when I'm older amd settled.
My father always used to decry mixed marriages (until shortly after I married my Japanese fiancee)--"We'll all end up coffee coloured. Tsk." Sounds like a bloody good solution to me, then the race issue ends. My neighbours (both very "white") have two adopted black kids (now grown up), and that seems to have been an all-round success.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
I don't really see the problem. Better than bringing an unloved/ unwanted child in to the world.
I also believe that the statistic is probably about right.
I also believe that the statistic is probably about right.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
I know that's not what you mean--but I was unwanted (at least by my natural parents). With increasing infertility rates surely its got to be possible to strike some sort of balance between children up for adoption and couples who want to adopt. I'm shocked to hear that its done on a regional basis--I'm about to buy a car for my wife (in Yorkshire), and I'll travel down to London to get the right one. I'd probably push it to Sussex for the right child...
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Bahtatboy,
If there is an area with 1 kid that wants a home and 1000 couples looking to adopt they can afford to be picky. The adoption services are regional so it varies from region to region. In my home town - East Anglia there is a very low number of children up for adoption so they can be very very very picky!
Millhouse on one hand I agree with you- on the other hand if you don't want kids then you should be more careful! Morning after pill can be bought over the counter without a doctors prescription. accidents happen but 1 in 3 is more stupidity than a accidental.
If there is an area with 1 kid that wants a home and 1000 couples looking to adopt they can afford to be picky. The adoption services are regional so it varies from region to region. In my home town - East Anglia there is a very low number of children up for adoption so they can be very very very picky!
Millhouse on one hand I agree with you- on the other hand if you don't want kids then you should be more careful! Morning after pill can be bought over the counter without a doctors prescription. accidents happen but 1 in 3 is more stupidity than a accidental.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
If you read Kittycat's post a little more carefully, you will see that her friend could not take the usual precautions for medical reasons. So was she supposed to remain celibate all her life as a result?
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
So latex condoms and the pill are the only contraceptives available? Wake up LH.
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Bahtatboy,
If there is an area with 1 kid that wants a home and 1000 couples looking to adopt they can afford to be picky. The adoption services are regional so it varies from region to region. In my home town - East Anglia there is a very low number of children up for adoption so they can be very very very picky!
Millhouse on one hand I agree with you- on the other hand if you don't want kids then you should be more careful! Morning after pill can be bought over the counter without a doctors prescription. accidents happen but 1 in 3 is more stupidity than a accidental.
If there is an area with 1 kid that wants a home and 1000 couples looking to adopt they can afford to be picky. The adoption services are regional so it varies from region to region. In my home town - East Anglia there is a very low number of children up for adoption so they can be very very very picky!
Millhouse on one hand I agree with you- on the other hand if you don't want kids then you should be more careful! Morning after pill can be bought over the counter without a doctors prescription. accidents happen but 1 in 3 is more stupidity than a accidental.
the point is people should have options. There will always be people who abuse those options, not much you can do about that.
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Ok so my point probably wasn't well made. There are reasons for and against. My best friend had an abortion... she fell pregnant within 2 months of having the first one and they (correctly in my mind) decided that it wasn't the right time as they wanted to be devoted to number 1.
the point is people should have options. There will always be people who abuse those options, not much you can do about that.
the point is people should have options. There will always be people who abuse those options, not much you can do about that.
And yes its easy for me to sit all high and mighty, if I fell pregnant now it would be an utter disaster, and I would hate to be in the position of having to decide what to do when pregnant, so I make sure I don't fall pregnant!
We live in a throw away disposable convenient way of life, for me this is an area that shouldn't be considered as such.
I'm stepping away from my soap box now...
Last edited by kittycat1; May 20th 2010 at 12:19 pm.
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Re: 1 in 3 British Women Will HaveAn Abortion In Their Lifetime....??
Don't think this is entirely true, if at all. Have good friends who live in the West Midlands, who 2 years ago adopted a 4 year old from East London, complete with cockernee accent.