Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
Mar 11th 2009, 5:16 pm
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Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
Hi folks
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia
....but I can't help it 
As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia
....but I can't help it As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
Last edited by Kapri; Mar 11th 2009 at 5:18 pm.
Mar 11th 2009, 6:53 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
Hi folks
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia ....but I can't help it
As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia
....but I can't help it As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
In my opinion all that OZ has to offer is more sunshine, the rest is just the same (or worse in our case)..
Mar 11th 2009, 7:03 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
The logical side of me definitely knows that but another side of me thinks sod it, you only live once
Do you feel you gained anything from your experience and was it worth it?
Mar 11th 2009, 8:06 pm
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Nah, stay where you are and go to Aus for holidays. If your Dh doesnt want to go then it really isnt worth it and in this financial melee it would be silly if you are secure where you are. We all have a need for adventure but that doesnt have to be uprooting a family and putting yourself into penury for the rest of your days - make the best of what you have I reckon.
Mar 11th 2009, 9:09 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
So in that respect we are definately better people for it, appreciating what we have instead of moaning and being too greedy.
You live and learn, we certainly did, a very expensive mistake though.
Mar 12th 2009, 9:26 am
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No, absolutely NO regrets about having emigrated.
Maybe, the question you should also have asked..........
Do you regret having returned?
You don't even want to think where my head is these days, but the fact that I am on here, and that you are on here, probably says alot.
You've got stacks of time, so don't beat yourself up about it now. Remember it took me 18 years to get there.
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Maybe, the question you should also have asked..........
Do you regret having returned?
You don't even want to think where my head is these days, but the fact that I am on here, and that you are on here, probably says alot.
You've got stacks of time, so don't beat yourself up about it now. Remember it took me 18 years to get there.
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Mar 12th 2009, 11:10 am
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
No, absolutely NO regrets about having emigrated.
Maybe, the question you should also have asked..........
Do you regret having returned?
You don't even want to think where my head is these days, but the fact that I am on here, and that you are on here, probably says alot.
You've got stacks of time, so don't beat yourself up about it now. Remember it took me 18 years to get there.
P
Maybe, the question you should also have asked..........
Do you regret having returned?
You don't even want to think where my head is these days, but the fact that I am on here, and that you are on here, probably says alot.
You've got stacks of time, so don't beat yourself up about it now. Remember it took me 18 years to get there.
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You're not regretting coming back are you?
Mar 12th 2009, 12:02 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
Hi folks
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia ....but I can't help it
As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia
....but I can't help it As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
Fear of regretting going back to the UK will probably keep me in Aus forever. Once you've made one really big decision that you've regretted, it makes you reluctant to make another big decision like it again. Once bitten, twice shy etc.
Mar 12th 2009, 1:42 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
I'm still in Aus, and I think that, on balance, I do regret coming here in the first place. It wasn't really my choice (OH is Aussie), which perhaps makes me feel less happy with the decision, because I don't feel it was 100% mine!
Fear of regretting going back to the UK will probably keep me in Aus forever. Once you've made one really big decision that you've regretted, it makes you reluctant to make another big decision like it again. Once bitten, twice shy etc.
Fear of regretting going back to the UK will probably keep me in Aus forever. Once you've made one really big decision that you've regretted, it makes you reluctant to make another big decision like it again. Once bitten, twice shy etc.
Knowing that you won't get the perfect mix anywhere can be hard to live with.
I feel like that just having lived in different places in the U.K and travelling a lot
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Mar 12th 2009, 1:46 pm
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One thing is certain looking at all the posts. This is tough whichever way you lean!
Mar 12th 2009, 8:40 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
Nah, stay where you are and go to Aus for holidays. If your Dh doesnt want to go then it really isnt worth it and in this financial melee it would be silly if you are secure where you are. We all have a need for adventure but that doesnt have to be uprooting a family and putting yourself into penury for the rest of your days - make the best of what you have I reckon.
I always wanted to go on a holiday and think I would have been happier with that. so if i were you save up and go on a nice holiday instead.
Mar 12th 2009, 10:54 pm
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Nah, stay where you are and go to Aus for holidays. If your Dh doesnt want to go then it really isnt worth it and in this financial melee it would be silly if you are secure where you are. We all have a need for adventure but that doesnt have to be uprooting a family and putting yourself into penury for the rest of your days - make the best of what you have I reckon.
...but I've already had a holiday there
One thing is sure - we won't be going anywhere until the recession(s) over!
Mar 12th 2009, 11:14 pm
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
When you move abroad usually, you are in a honeymoon period for the first few mths anyway. And then reality starts to kick in
Some people cope and others dont..........And i truly think that comes down to personality and bank balance in the end...........
Moving abroad for us was financial suicide and didn't do our health to good either.......So twas big mistake.....But what we did get out of it was knowing that we belong in the Uk and to appreciate it in full and that has made us very happy to be back.
So in some ways it wasn't such a big mistake after all
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Mar 13th 2009, 12:12 am
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
I'm still in Aus, and I think that, on balance, I do regret coming here in the first place. It wasn't really my choice (OH is Aussie), which perhaps makes me feel less happy with the decision, because I don't feel it was 100% mine!
Fear of regretting going back to the UK will probably keep me in Aus forever. Once you've made one really big decision that you've regretted, it makes you reluctant to make another big decision like it again. Once bitten, twice shy etc.
Fear of regretting going back to the UK will probably keep me in Aus forever. Once you've made one really big decision that you've regretted, it makes you reluctant to make another big decision like it again. Once bitten, twice shy etc.
Mar 13th 2009, 3:15 am
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Re: Those who have returned ...do you regret having emigrated in the first place?
Hi folks
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia ....but I can't help it
As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
I spent 2 years researching Australia and was almost at the end of the visa apllication when family circumstances meant I had to drop it. My OH told me he was relieved, that he hadn't really wanted to go at all.
He is quite right when he says it would be financial madness. Although, as a nurse, I would be fine for work his job doesn't transfer and he would have to pick up unskilled work or spend at least 2 years retraining. i would also have to take a step back in my career.
Despite all this I can't stop thinking about going. I feel that even if we ended up coming back at least we would have had the experience. He is adamant that it would leave us broke (it would!)and therefore is a risk not worth taking.
I think I'm mad for still thinking about Australia
....but I can't help it As people who have emigrated then returned what are your thoughts?
Hi,
stay put, moving here was my only aim in life for 3 years (other half is a nurse too) - been here since 1 Dec 2008 & despite the short time know its not for our family, it has been such a huge mistake with big consequences that are proving difficult to sort out now. Thankfully we undertook a home exchange to come here as despite me living in other places before had not done so with kids, so at least we will have our home & possessions to return to. Australia does not seem to be the land of opportunity & dreams I thought it would be (& my other half lived here for a yr 3 yrs ago so I had an idea what it was like) The houses are nice and thats what I will be upset at leaving here for, but I was not aware how violent it is here or how disorganized the systems are ie medicare, benefits/ tax etc. The weather is also boiling hot - sitting down with sweat running everywhere is not fun - that is with the air- conditioning on- & then the next day it is really cold - well 12oC after the previous day of 43oC is difficult, you can do nothing in the heat but sit and wait for it to get cooler (I was so looking forward to the warm weather)
I know I sound like I am moaning but it was my dream & took so long to plan & cost so much to come here. If you really want to experience living here I would come in the australian summer months so you get a feel for the hot weather & look at undertaking a home exchange - our is 6 months - or people here look for a lot of housesitters both of which you will find on the net.
Only 132 days till we return to grey, dreary, wet Scotland - cant wait!!
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