Roaringmouse's off topic posts
Originally Posted by kiwibrit101
(Post 11210529)
My partner and I have lived in NZ for 18 years and have jostled with the idea of moving back for the last 5.
I know some people say NZ is like Britain in the past, but what I didn't realise is it continues to go back in time :D
Originally Posted by kiwibrit101
(Post 11210529)
A simple question was put to us at dinner last night which (you might think daftly we have never asked)
"What would you do if one of you died? |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
(Post 11210857)
Originally Posted by roaringmouse
(Post 11210636)
I'm not sure if I see the relevancy in the question. Neither of you have died, so it's quite a different situation to find yourself in, isn't it?
Originally Posted by dunroving
(Post 11211081)
Hypothetical question:
If two people are perfectly happy in a different country, why would one of them go straight home if the other died? It seems for the OP the answer to the question is leading them to move back to the UK (presuming it happens this time). For someone else the answer for 18 years has been to return if their partner died, but it hasn't resulted them in returning at any time before now. So I don't get the point of using the answer to the question what would you do if your partner died in order to make a decision on moving now while both are still alive. If you really felt like you couldn't live alone where you migrated together in the first place, then why did you migrate? Was it the dream of other person and you tagged along or something? |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
(Post 11212082)
If you do not see the point of the OP's question...then don't click on the thread. So far no one has agreed with you...but they have answered the OP and agree with her. Please do not take the thread off topic...open a new thread. Thanks.
I said I didn't understand the relevancy, and asked a question in regards to that - as well as follow up questions. My posts are to do with working out why the question is relevant, not any kind of argument like you seem to be suggesting. No one so far has said why it is relevant, and there has been one poster that has given a scenario for which he finds it harder to understand. He also flipped the question around that resonated with my lack of understanding. Perhaps you could answer the question I asked you to help me understand from your point of view why the question is relevant? The question I asked to you was if the question is very relevant to you, and for 18 years the answer has been to return "home", then why haven't you already returned? |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by roaringmouse
(Post 11212113)
It's got nothing to do with if anyone agrees with me or not, although I'm not sure what you actually mean by that.
I said I didn't understand the relevancy, and asked a question in regards to that - as well as follow up questions. My posts are to do with working out why the question is relevant, not any kind of argument like you seem to be suggesting. No one so far has said why it is relevant, and there has been one poster that has given a scenario for which he finds it harder to understand. He also flipped the question around that resonated with my lack of understanding. Perhaps you could answer the question I asked you to help me understand from your point of view why the question is relevant? The question I asked to you was if the question is very relevant to you, and for 18 years the answer has been to return "home", then why haven't you already returned? |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by Sally Redux
(Post 11212149)
Well personally, I only socialize with my husband and kids, although one has already left for uni (and N1cky when she comes to LA for work :lol:). So life is bearable with him around, sweet FA for me here otherwise.
People tend to socialise in much the same way wherever they live unless they're unsettled. |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by roaringmouse
(Post 11212165)
Is the reason you only socialise with your family because you don't really want to be there in the first place? (scared about becoming settled or something) Follow up question, if you only socialise with husband & kids now, if your husband died and you returned to the UK, why would the socialising widen from how it is now?
People tend to socialise in much the same way wherever they live unless they're unsettled. It's not really that complicated. |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by Sally Redux
(Post 11212167)
I am still in touch with friends in the UK and I know I fit in better there.
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Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
roaringmouse,
Without meaning to be rude you do seem a little lacking in imagination. There are a multitude of reasons why people who would like to move back to their country of origin don't or don't for many years. Job Lack of finances Children settled in school Grown up children settled in the "new" country Grandchildren in the "new" country Partner who wants to remain in the "new" country Ill health Feeling too old to make another huge move Depression Fear of making another mistake. On and on and on. Personally I find it irritating and completely lacking in empathy when posters ask the question "why don't you just leave then?" when someone is clearly struggling with hurdles that make it difficult for them to leave. Just because someone can't instantly move home doesn't mean they shouldn't be able to talk about wanting to go home. The discussions we have on BE about this can be the first steps in someone putting together a workable plan to go home or realizing that they don't want to go home after all or (as is so often the case) allows them to give vent to their feelings of homesickness to others who can relate, something which in itself can be very helpful and therapeutic. Its really wonderful if you are happy in the country you have moved to but perhaps it would be helpful to not keep banging on in a thread you can not relate to? |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by NiHao
(Post 11212222)
Its really wonderful if you are happy in the country you have moved to but perhaps it would be helpful to not keep banging on in a thread you can not relate to?
Originally Posted by NiHao
(Post 11212222)
Just because someone can't instantly move home doesn't mean they shouldn't be able to talk about wanting to go home.
Originally Posted by NiHao
(Post 11212222)
The discussions we have on BE about this can be the first steps in someone putting together a workable plan to go home or realizing that they don't want to go home after all or (as is so often the case)
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Re: off topic posts
Moved, yet directly related to the topic being discussed.
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Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by roaringmouse
(Post 11212179)
Which leads to the other follow up question - why not move back now? It seems you're not settled, so I guess the answer will be to do with your husband - maybe either he's from the US (I don't know if he is or isn't) and doesn't want to live in the UK, or an employment reason.
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Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by NiHao
(Post 11212222)
roaringmouse,
Without meaning to be rude you do seem a little lacking in imagination. There are a multitude of reasons why people who would like to move back to their country of origin don't or don't for many years. Job Lack of finances Children settled in school Grown up children settled in the "new" country Grandchildren in the "new" country Partner who wants to remain in the "new" country Ill health Feeling too old to make another huge move Depression Fear of making another mistake. On and on and on. Personally I find it irritating and completely lacking in empathy when posters ask the question "why don't you just leave then?" when someone is clearly struggling with hurdles that make it difficult for them to leave. Just because someone can't instantly move home doesn't mean they shouldn't be able to talk about wanting to go home. The discussions we have on BE about this can be the first steps in someone putting together a workable plan to go home or realizing that they don't want to go home after all or (as is so often the case) allows them to give vent to their feelings of homesickness to others who can relate, something which in itself can be very helpful and therapeutic. Its really wonderful if you are happy in the country you have moved to but perhaps it would be helpful to not keep banging on in a thread you can not relate to? |
Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by Sally Redux
(Post 11212351)
Especially as roaringmouse's other speciality is endless posts about how Britain is in the toilet economically.
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Re: Thee Question to ask about returning to the UK.
Originally Posted by Sally Redux
(Post 11212351)
Especially as roaringmouse's other speciality is endless posts about how Britain is in the toilet economically.
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Re: Roaringmouse's off topic posts
Tbh I think we are all (inclusive) daft to contribute to this hair splitting nonsense.
.............................it is compelling though isn't it?:sneaky: |
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