OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
#3661
Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Or is this just a joke due to the date?.........................
Last edited by Beedubya; Feb 22nd 2011 at 5:02 am.
#3662
Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Oh congratulations on the birth of your grand-daughter Englishmum, lovely name too.
I hope you get to see her real soon.
I hope you get to see her real soon.
#3663
Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
http://www.nationalrail.co.uk/
To get the very best fare you buy maybe 30 days in advance and then you have to grow up to get a senior card.
There are various types of discount cards so you might find one that applies.
Like everything else when you get use to the website it is easy to find what you are looking for.
To get the very best fare you buy maybe 30 days in advance and then you have to grow up to get a senior card.
There are various types of discount cards so you might find one that applies.
Like everything else when you get use to the website it is easy to find what you are looking for.
These fares are great for the planners in life but not so good for the more spontaneous people like myself. I have never seen such cheap fares!!!
p.s. Just did a check on Windermere to Runcorn and I could see it was £13.50 one way and £33.00 back total £46.50 booking a month in advance also the outward journey involved 4 trains changes and an extra hour to the journey.......
Last edited by Beedubya; Feb 22nd 2011 at 5:10 am.
#3664
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
OMG that's awful
Well I have BIG NEWS!
I became a granny today!
My daughter gave birth to a baby girl, our first grandchild
The baby was born at home after 18 hours of labour, in Isleworth. My daughter was utterly exhausted and a bit 'out of it' but thinks the baby was born at around 1.20pm UK time and approx 3kgs (which she thought was around 6 pounds?). She will be called Amethyst, after the birthstone for February - but I will probably call her Amy or Emmie, which my daughter is fine about.
I was mortified that my daughter chose to deliver her first baby at home, but she is very stubborn and a bit of a bohemian/hippy. (She's kept the placenta, thank goodness not to eat it but is freezing it and will bury it at some point...I've been to one of those at a baby-naming ceremony in Pennsylvania and it was hard to keep my face straight!). Also my daughter is tiny, only about 4ft 10" but needed no stitches or painkillers...she had a 'hypnobirth' where you apparently meditate (and now the NHS has announced it's going to fund a pilot scheme of 800 mothers to deliver by hypnobirth).
When she called me the baby was sleepy and hadn't had her first feed and I think my daughter was struggling with trying to establish the milk supply. Also the baby had to have some oxygen at birth, and possibly swallowed some meconium which worried me, but I think if there was any concern the midwife would have sent the baby to the nearby hospital. No photos yet, I'm dying to see what she looks like but apparently has lots of black hair, dark eyes (like all newborns) and a cone-shaped head
My daughter began her maternity leave on 23rd December, the baby was due on the 9th of Feb but decided to be a late arrival! My daughter plans to return to work after 9 months, if she doesn't then she will need to repay the maternity pay (which I think is paid for six months?)
I would have loved to have been there, but sadly my daughter's partner says that they need to 'bond' as a family unit before they want visitors (they're in a 1-bedroomed flat) and want to be on their own for a week or two at least (he has no contact at all with his own family and is only about 4 years younger than me, which makes for an uncomfortable atmosphere). I'll fly to the UK in a couple of weeks or so....spouse is also leaving Singapore to work in Switzerland in the Summer, so I will also meet up with him and go for a look-see in the Zurich area too.
Oh, and it's my son's girlfriend's birthday today too! I'll open up a bottle of Bolly tonight
Well I have BIG NEWS!
I became a granny today!
My daughter gave birth to a baby girl, our first grandchild
The baby was born at home after 18 hours of labour, in Isleworth. My daughter was utterly exhausted and a bit 'out of it' but thinks the baby was born at around 1.20pm UK time and approx 3kgs (which she thought was around 6 pounds?). She will be called Amethyst, after the birthstone for February - but I will probably call her Amy or Emmie, which my daughter is fine about.
I was mortified that my daughter chose to deliver her first baby at home, but she is very stubborn and a bit of a bohemian/hippy. (She's kept the placenta, thank goodness not to eat it but is freezing it and will bury it at some point...I've been to one of those at a baby-naming ceremony in Pennsylvania and it was hard to keep my face straight!). Also my daughter is tiny, only about 4ft 10" but needed no stitches or painkillers...she had a 'hypnobirth' where you apparently meditate (and now the NHS has announced it's going to fund a pilot scheme of 800 mothers to deliver by hypnobirth).
When she called me the baby was sleepy and hadn't had her first feed and I think my daughter was struggling with trying to establish the milk supply. Also the baby had to have some oxygen at birth, and possibly swallowed some meconium which worried me, but I think if there was any concern the midwife would have sent the baby to the nearby hospital. No photos yet, I'm dying to see what she looks like but apparently has lots of black hair, dark eyes (like all newborns) and a cone-shaped head
My daughter began her maternity leave on 23rd December, the baby was due on the 9th of Feb but decided to be a late arrival! My daughter plans to return to work after 9 months, if she doesn't then she will need to repay the maternity pay (which I think is paid for six months?)
I would have loved to have been there, but sadly my daughter's partner says that they need to 'bond' as a family unit before they want visitors (they're in a 1-bedroomed flat) and want to be on their own for a week or two at least (he has no contact at all with his own family and is only about 4 years younger than me, which makes for an uncomfortable atmosphere). I'll fly to the UK in a couple of weeks or so....spouse is also leaving Singapore to work in Switzerland in the Summer, so I will also meet up with him and go for a look-see in the Zurich area too.
Oh, and it's my son's girlfriend's birthday today too! I'll open up a bottle of Bolly tonight
I can see the desire to bond as a family unit first (as long as this is what your daughter wants too) especially if space is tight...Tho if I were you I too would be itching to dash over there! (Have no grandchildren yet).
Hypnobirth is a very interesting idea....I myself was helped enormously by the writings of British childbirth writer Sheila Kitzinger, whom I still recommend to every mother-to-be...she helps you relax and know what to expect and be less afraid....so I had no painkillers for any of my three children.
(On the other hand, I have to beg the dental hygienist to numb my gums before she starts the cleaning!!!!).
Anyway congratulations on little Amethyst, hope you get to see her soon!
tina
#3665
Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Trains and deals:
try here too: http://www.thetrainline.com/buytickets/
You can have advance tickets mailed to a UK address or arrange to pick them up from specific stations (most manned stations). Even if you buy them the day before you travel - for example, my ticket from Paddington to Bath Spa the day I moved to Frome was £7.50 one way. I had a Senior Rail Pass also, which is why it was so reasonable.
try here too: http://www.thetrainline.com/buytickets/
You can have advance tickets mailed to a UK address or arrange to pick them up from specific stations (most manned stations). Even if you buy them the day before you travel - for example, my ticket from Paddington to Bath Spa the day I moved to Frome was £7.50 one way. I had a Senior Rail Pass also, which is why it was so reasonable.
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
We have been back in Southampton for 2 months now after spending 28 years in Avondale Arizona - cost of living here not too bad but clothes and shoes soooo expensive - the Sales are all we can afford!
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Englishmum....Congratulations on becoming a Granny She was very brave to stay home. I would have been still sat there waiting for the baby to arrive. I had over 24hours labor and then had to have a C/section. Did you say her husband is your age or did I read that wrong.
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wow many many congrats!!!! how exciting..so glad all is well. Home births are lovely if no unusual risk factors...
I can see the desire to bond as a family unit first (as long as this is what your daughter wants too) especially if space is tight...Tho if I were you I too would be itching to dash over there! (Have no grandchildren yet).
Hypnobirth is a very interesting idea....I myself was helped enormously by the writings of British childbirth writer Sheila Kitzinger, whom I still recommend to every mother-to-be...she helps you relax and know what to expect and be less afraid....so I had no painkillers for any of my three children.
(On the other hand, I have to beg the dental hygienist to numb my gums before she starts the cleaning!!!!).
Anyway congratulations on little Amethyst, hope you get to see her soon!
tina
I can see the desire to bond as a family unit first (as long as this is what your daughter wants too) especially if space is tight...Tho if I were you I too would be itching to dash over there! (Have no grandchildren yet).
Hypnobirth is a very interesting idea....I myself was helped enormously by the writings of British childbirth writer Sheila Kitzinger, whom I still recommend to every mother-to-be...she helps you relax and know what to expect and be less afraid....so I had no painkillers for any of my three children.
(On the other hand, I have to beg the dental hygienist to numb my gums before she starts the cleaning!!!!).
Anyway congratulations on little Amethyst, hope you get to see her soon!
tina
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...ving-baby.html
Can't wait to see the new baby, will probably book a flight tonight as I've heard that flight prices are often reduced on Tuesdays/Weds and I need to fly with Virgin Atlantic to get enough frequent flyer miles to requalify for the Gold *Star Alliance (via Singapore Airlines - Virgin isn't in an alliance).
My husband had a chat with the new mum this morning; all is fine, the baby is now feeding. However, she now doesn't want the baby to be nicknamed 'Amy' but is ok with 'Emmie'
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Englishmum....Congratulations on becoming a Granny She was very brave to stay home. I would have been still sat there waiting for the baby to arrive. I had over 24hours labor and then had to have a C/section. Did you say her husband is your age or did I read that wrong.
There is a chilly atmosphere between us, not just because of the age thing but for various reasons; he had a kidney transplant about 3 years ago yet he is a chain-smoker and refused to give up smoking around my pregnant daughter and now I fear, the new baby. He won't even smoke outside, he smokes in the tiny flat. I can't tell you how appalled I am with his attitude.
He's also signed off work as he is 'sick with stress' I don't think he's ever held down a job for long, possibly because of his previous history of kidney failure but also lack of work ethic. I suspect that he would like to stay at home with the baby whilst my daughter returns to work (she has a 2 hour commute each way...) He hasn't got two pennies to rub together and my daughter's been paying off his credit card bills.
Also he says he doesn't know or care if his parents and siblings are dead or alive as he was 'abused'....who knows what the truth is with this guy, it's so frustrating - but my daughter loves him. They do say that love is blind!
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Congrats to you and your daughter Englishmum! I am all in favour of home births.
Hope the Dad bucks his ideas up
Hope the Dad bucks his ideas up
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Englishmum...I am so sorry. As parents we have to stand back and just be ready to pick up the pieces when something happens. I do think your daughter should put her foot down regarding him smoking in the flat. Its not as if he is not aware of the hazards of second hand smoke. Perhaps he needs to read some literature, its a wonder the healthcare people dont say something to him. Does she have a visiting nurse. You must be so worried. Being a Mother is really hard at times. I think he is playing on your daughters good nature but eventually she will have to think about the baby. Give her time. I do wish you luck.
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Her partner is only about 4 years younger than me and 5 years younger than my spouse! They met at university as he was a mature student on her course.
There is a chilly atmosphere between us, not just because of the age thing but for various reasons; he had a kidney transplant about 3 years ago yet he is a chain-smoker and refused to give up smoking around my pregnant daughter and now I fear, the new baby. He won't even smoke outside, he smokes in the tiny flat. I can't tell you how appalled I am with his attitude.
He's also signed off work as he is 'sick with stress' I don't think he's ever held down a job for long, possibly because of his previous history of kidney failure but also lack of work ethic. I suspect that he would like to stay at home with the baby whilst my daughter returns to work (she has a 2 hour commute each way...) He hasn't got two pennies to rub together and my daughter's been paying off his credit card bills.
Also he says he doesn't know or care if his parents and siblings are dead or alive as he was 'abused'....who knows what the truth is with this guy, it's so frustrating - but my daughter loves him. They do say that love is blind!
There is a chilly atmosphere between us, not just because of the age thing but for various reasons; he had a kidney transplant about 3 years ago yet he is a chain-smoker and refused to give up smoking around my pregnant daughter and now I fear, the new baby. He won't even smoke outside, he smokes in the tiny flat. I can't tell you how appalled I am with his attitude.
He's also signed off work as he is 'sick with stress' I don't think he's ever held down a job for long, possibly because of his previous history of kidney failure but also lack of work ethic. I suspect that he would like to stay at home with the baby whilst my daughter returns to work (she has a 2 hour commute each way...) He hasn't got two pennies to rub together and my daughter's been paying off his credit card bills.
Also he says he doesn't know or care if his parents and siblings are dead or alive as he was 'abused'....who knows what the truth is with this guy, it's so frustrating - but my daughter loves him. They do say that love is blind!
But Congratulations to you ,such a gorgeous name
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Congrats Englishmum!
Re: smoking, both my parents smoked when we were kids. I can't believe it now! I still remember drives to my nan's house in the car, the smell of cigarettes mixing with my mum's hair spray and all the windows closed because of the rain. Then when we got to nan's, we'd have salad that included spam and tinned beetroot. Is it any wonder I always used to want to throw up on Sunday nights?
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