moneypenny20

Excuse me? What on earth are you talking about? The moderators have been asked to moderate the forums to ensure that a) spammers don't take over; b) bad language is kept to a minimum a) the rules are kept to ensure that EVERYONE is happy; d) to attempt to keep threads on topic for the satisfaction of the vast majority - in other words, to ensure the smooth running of a massive discussion board. Moderators do NOT own the site. . The site used to be owned by Sue and Paul (Admin). They sold the site a few years back to IB who have nothing to do with the running of the site or the rules. Mods volunteer their time, to put back what they've got out in the past. We don't do it to irritate or annoy. What is this 'they'? I honestly don't understand.


I or any mod or Sue would be happy to have a conversation about what you perceive any problems to be via PM. I would hate for anyone to leave the site because of an imagined problem. That would be a shame in my book.

formula

I thought she want to go because posts have been removed: or did I misunderstand that? I don't think that is an "imagined problem".

moneypenny20

But nothing has been 'removed'. Some posts have been 'moved' to the 'chit chat' thread but it's all still here. That's why I assumed (possibly incorrectly) that there were other 'perceived problems'.

sallysimmons

I mod another site - also for no money - and it's a thankless task. Sometimes you have to step in to try and keep some people happy and by doing that you inflame others.

But if you allow posters to fight and argue with your modding decisions on the boards, your thread gets even more off track than it was before you stepped in. So it's fair to ask people to take their concerns with mods to PM.

In the end, the reason this forum works so well, is so popular, and isn't full of spam is because some people give up their free time and volunteer to be mods. And I think most of them show the patience of saints to be honest.

That said, I do see that one particular Mod was a little bit inflammatory ("I don't think I'm a Mod, I am one and you might care to remember that") and that never helps. But honestly, I've had those moments when modding. Sometimes you just get sick of doing a thankless task that you're not even being paid for and then getting insulted for it.

We're all humans with flaws and the world would be a better place if we all remembered that about each other and made a few allowances.

jasper123

Thats the spirit Sally, keep that going, and as soon as you can make a date to leave do it, ----- as far as Im concerned the only way I could have made this a reality for me was I had to book and pay for my ticket, then I had a date that I could not break ----- WOULD not break, I booked my ticket in February of last year ----- to leave on November 30th, I got home December 1st last year, I love it here --- I really do, ----- and the decision to come home for me was definitely the best one I have made, so if you book flight 10 months before you go or a year ---- thats fine cause then you will have that nice long time to get ready to leave,if one has a house to sell then obviously that would be the main thing that would prevent people from setting a date to leave ---- and theres lots of people on here with that problem.
Take care,
Rodney.

Beedubya

Well said Sally, and I think most of us do appreciate our Mods, thanks Moneypenny, Pollyanna, Sue and all.

I have been a mod too a while ago and as you say it is pretty thankless at times.

So thanks guys (how Australian of me ) for a job well done.

Sue

A poster was asked to abide by the rules, nothing more, nothing less. We have Site Rules in place in order that the forum is kept as useful to everyone as possible. Compared to many other sites we don't actually have that many rules (although I'm sure some will disagree ). It's a shame that a member wants to leave over one post that was removed, but it was removed as per our site rule and if said person wants to leave that is their prerogative.

Just to add that we ask people not to get into discussion on the open forum for two reasons: One it derails threads and takes them waaayyyyy offff topic (as in the case here ) and two, because moderators are volunteers (and whilst we understand that not everyone agrees with site posting rules or having moderators help enforce those rules) out of courtesy of their time we ask that such discussions take place in private. I am always open to people's thoughts and opinions but I don't think it's fair of anyone to take their own personal gripe with something onto a public thread and drag everyone else into the discussion, when all they want to do is discuss the intricacies of moving back to the UK. So lets draw a line under this and if anyone wishes to continue this topic they are welcome to do so with me via Private Message. Thanks.

Sue in a very wet and soggy North Carolina today

Beedubya

Thanks Sue for the explanation.

Barb on a glorious, gorgeous, sunny spring day in t' grim Northern town LOL!!

Sue

Yes I hear it's lovely over there at the moment .... I'm so jealous

I miss Easter eggs and the bluebells big time at this time of year. So please have an egg for me.

Plus everyone gets an extra day off next year too

formula

Have these on me

http://www.flickr.com/photos/l2f1/47...5912/lightbox/

My garden is full of bluebells, I assume they arrived in bird droppings (parrots maybe?)

I'll eat an extra easter egg for you too.

Pistolpete2

Nice pics of Lullingstone and Eynsford! Used to live in Sevenoaks and really haven't seen anything from around Eynsford since I left in 1975.

MNandMN

I don't know about the US market, but if the house was in the UK and I went to view it I wouldn't mind that hardwood floors needed re-finishing, I would just be so pleased that the house had hardwood floors. If the windows were fixed and the bathroom changed to inexpensive white suite and white tiles and nice towels put in there then that is what I would do. Painting is easy for a new owner, and would be to their taste and hardwood floors are a massive plus, and potential owners would know they could easily be refinished. Would it work to paint the kitchen cabinets? that is what I am doing in my house, painting wooden cabinets cream and replacing the handles - hey presto modernised kitchen on the cheap,

oldbritgirl

Thanks for this link, I'll be staying with a friend in Sale but dont want to outstay my welcome. Following your flat hunt with interest.
I have about 15 boxes and as many bags outside in the rain, covered with a tarp waiting to be picked up by a charity shop today, hope they come!!!
Put cds, tapes and LP's (that we brought over in 89, forgot I had them!!) on Craigslist last night and someone has just bought them. Having a yard sale tomorrow so gradually things are going and I'll be on my way in less than 2 weeks.

sallysimmons

I wish - they are those horrid 80s cabinets with a kind of vinyl frontage and wood tops. I don't think we can paint that stuff without making it look even worse.

Thanks for the input on the bathroom. It seems everyone agrees on the windows, which is good to know. We may get those done this year if we can afford it and that might cut down the utility bills. I'm terrified of someone asking to see those!

sallysimmons

Wow, so exciting!! Two short weeks

Best of luck to you and I can't wait for your updates.