jasper123

Charleygirl, your post has made me very sad, your life here seems to be so hard for you, what with your Job which as you say 10 hours a day and that its put years on you,
And looking after your Ill Mother, no cash left after all bills are paid, etc etc
But the worse thing your suffering from isn't it is you Miss your Kids soooo much, it must be so so hard to live at home. struggling from day to day to try and make ends meet and at the same time missing your kids so deeply that it hurts,
You say you love being home in the U.K. but with lots of us thats not enough is it? if only life were that simple,
The way I see it Denise is if you end up going back to the U.S. to live then thats how its got to be, absolutely nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about,
at least you gave it your best shot, thats what we are all doing isn't it, and thats all anyone of us can do isn't it?
We all hope it will work out for us, but none of us really know do we?

But we work our butts off with all the preparations that we have to go through before we make the giant leap and come home, and it is indeed a giant leap, its not an easy thing to do,

Most of us have spent most of our adult life in our adopted countries and really its all we have known for a very long time isn't it, and to us that country (IS) our home isn't it, and obviously when we come back to the U.K. we are happy to be home, but then when lots of people on this thread are not of pensioner age when they come home and have no income and vary little savings and then they have the pressure of finding a Job, then the hard reality sinks in, especially if they cant find a Job ---- or they find one but they just hate the Job,
all this becomes harder for people to take when they left a really good Job at home in there adopted country and a fairly comfortable life, but those that didn't!!!!! will find it a little easier
So trying to adjust to a completely new life in a country that you really dont know anymore, its hard even if you are (NOT) leaving your kids/grandkids behind, but if you are then lots of us will be torn between two countries forever wont we?

jasper123

John,
I think that is really a very important thing to consider when coming home,
the part about being comfortable where you live, and one of the reasons you are is because as you say you are familiar with your town since childhood,
I relate to that myself, I was born and raised in Portsmouth and I feel very comfortable here, and everywhere I go in my town I remember so well as when a child, Its probably no better then lots of places in the U.K. and not special by any means, ------ BUT its my home town and I was born here, and now Im finally back ----- I will probably die here, as a matter of fact I am currently looking into pre-paying for my own funeral, looking at
Co-op funerals and a few others, I can get a nice no fringe basic funeral from Co-op for £2,600, my Mum wants me to find one for her too,

cheers

for Sally

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/cele...-End-role.html

Fish n Chips 56

Celtic it all sounds very nice, I just wished that us of working age were able to get the same great deal and low prices on prescriptions, but no, we pay many thousands for 70% - 80% coverage and still have to dig very deep into our pockets...

Celticspirit

I agree......both of my husbands were self employed and paid thousands of dollars each month for top notch family coverage and, medications. It it good to know that at least for now we feel protected but things could change very rapidly given the present state of the country.

Easterndawn

I agree with you but for myself, I have athritis and it is difficult for me to get up from the floor in a tent even with an air mattress. I find it much easier and warmer in my car. I would love to be able to afford a camper of some sort but at the moment this is impossible and I do love camping. It is a very inexpensive way of being able to get around the country and visit great places.

Easterndawn

Charleygirl, I am so sorry that things have not worked out for you. I find that employers here expect you to work long hours for the same money you recieve for a 37.5 week. I am like you no extra money to spare when all the bills are paid but for me there is no alternative at the moment.
The sad thing is that I don't think it would be much better back in Canada though, it would be difficult to find a job at my age. If I can get my husband over it will not be so bad at least we can keep each other from getting depressed. I hope things get better for you, take care.

cheers

Sally did you get to see that house on Friday? What did you think of it?

J.JsOH

We just got back from a nice weekend in Lincoln and Lincolnshire. Lincoln is busy city for residents and visitors. There was a Morris Dancers festival happening, bells and hankies everywhere. Houses are a fair price to buy but expensive to rent because of Uni demand. People in the street were polite, not bullish as they can be in some towns.
Today we found a walk for a few miles near Sleaford and stopped at The Bustard Inn in South Rauceby for lunch, the pub is so-called because it is said the village was where the last Bustard in England was shot. There are interesting places at every turn it seems in this country.

We also looked at new build houses and were very impressed with layout and construction but find that so many on developments are crowded together. They stand shoulder to shoulder and may look nice from the front but the gardens are small and overlooked and that is what we are interested in getting away from.
We like the house we are in and our chosen part of Norfolk but are open to moving because we feel hemmed-in on this development compared to our US house on a development where we had much more space between properties and barely overlooked. We feel being more crowded is making us a bit cranky. Like so many posters on BE, we too like to get away into the open countryside.
But then, we are grateful that our choice in Norfolk doesn't suffer the intensity of life in more busier parts of UK and we do have close access to amenities and public transport yet the open countryside is 10 mins away.

J.JsOH

We are both originally from near Spalding, South Lincolnshire and although it is a nice little town and OK to visit I wouldn't move there at this time for it suffers greatly from anti-social behaviour by EU immigrants that make life uncomfortable for many original inhabitants.

cheers

Does anyone understand this statement?

“If you are a British subject otherwise than by connection with the Republic of Ireland or a British protected person, you will lose that status on acquiring any other nationality or citizenship.

"It is the responsibility of an individual to check that they will not lose a previously acquired nationality or citizenship on acquiring an additional one.”

??????

Mummy in the foothills

Where did you read that?

Homeiswheretheheartis

I'm so glad you had a good time in Lincolnshire, I live in Sleaford (well the US at the moment) and will be returning in the next 2 years

cheers

BBC

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-19455691

Mummy in the foothills

It really doesn't make sense, he's married to a UK citizen and has been working in the UK on a work visa for many years why doesn't he just apply for citizenship and get it over with, or maybe he's being awkward and make a point somehow.