OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Nov 13th 2010, 8:37 am
#7576
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Although the Polar bear club do go in (and quickly out) on new years in Llandudno. The Irish sea is bitter cold in summer even from my recollection, Irish Sea:
West or southwest 5 to 7, decreasing 3 or 4, becoming variable later. moderate. Rain or showers. Moderate or good.
Nov 13th 2010, 10:19 am
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
When I need help please give me advice.....
OH heard me on the phone complaining about life. He came downstairs threatening divorce....and said my friend to whom I telephoning is a gossip. He is right about that....but I needed to talk to someone. He scared me.
I had just reminded him on Wednesday evening that his (late son's birthday) was the following day......yesterday. So when I called him to his law office to check he had gone to the cemetery......he had forgotten again.
Now today he is so mad and I have no one to help me. I just want to take my dogs and disappear. It is sad to have no family support....and I am a bit of a coward.
OH heard me on the phone complaining about life. He came downstairs threatening divorce....and said my friend to whom I telephoning is a gossip. He is right about that....but I needed to talk to someone. He scared me.
I had just reminded him on Wednesday evening that his (late son's birthday) was the following day......yesterday. So when I called him to his law office to check he had gone to the cemetery......he had forgotten again.
Now today he is so mad and I have no one to help me. I just want to take my dogs and disappear. It is sad to have no family support....and I am a bit of a coward.
Nov 13th 2010, 12:07 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Im so happy for you that you have thought this out and decided to give it one last final go, your happiness is what counts now, --- you already have your Son out in UK so Hmmmm absolutely fantastic I would say,
You go girl, its your time now,
Take care,
Rodney.
Nov 13th 2010, 12:15 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Thanks Peigi, and even if he doesn't stay over there, I belong there I know that now for sure, no use pretending, well to be honest I always knew it - I was just suppressing my feelings.
He is off to Wales with my sister for an overnight stay, he reckons he is going surfing.......in the North Sea............in November!!!
Can't wait for the pics of him frozen like a lolly ice ha ha!!
He is off to Wales with my sister for an overnight stay, he reckons he is going surfing.......in the North Sea............in November!!!
Can't wait for the pics of him frozen like a lolly ice ha ha!!
Nov 13th 2010, 12:26 pm
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I am so happy for you. Sunday will be my 13th wedding anniversary in my second marriage. I am hoping to start a dialog after this date to let OH know that this is not all bluster. My brother advises me to wait until the house is either on the market or sold. He thinks that OH's sister - a divorce lawyer will get mean and try to make things difficult. It will be so nice to have family watching my back when I get home. Sad that my children live so far away, they support me long distance. This is very sad time for because my husband is a good man, but financially ruining both of us.
Nov 13th 2010, 12:42 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Sounds like you need a consultation with the meanest divorce lawyer in the county, especially if his sister is going to be a total b word about it all. So sorry he scared you, he has no right to do that in your own home. Stay safe ((hugs))
Start to make an exit plan.
Start to make an exit plan.
Nov 13th 2010, 12:54 pm
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Yes I am !!! I just cannot live here any longer and that's that!!
My best gf came over today and we spent about 5 hours together and we had a BIG talk, you see her partner wants to go back to NZ as he feels like me, they are both Kiwi's but she likes it here and he doesn't. So she totally understands where I am coming from.
I am now thinking of going back sooner rather than later but I am as scared as hell!!! I know it's silly but I am!!
She has ping ponged back and forth from NZ to Oz many times since she first arrrived here about 10 years ago, and we talked extensively of possessions and cars and jobs and selling up and starting over AGAIN and all that stuff and about how hard it can be at times but it all comes good in the end.
When she first arrived here she had no family here except a few distant cousins, no job to go to, nowhere to live really except a bed for a few nights in said cousins place, 3 suitcases of clothes and about $3000.00 in the bank and you know she survived!!
It has really done me good today to talk to her face to face.
And I felt obligated to stay so my daughter could go to the wedding in March, but her bf has put his apartment on the market last Saturday and they are looking at houses, well if they sell the apt. and buy a house there is no way she will be going to England to weddings, cheap air fares or not, they will need all their $$$$ for the house........and if she wanted to go to England so badly surely they would have waited until after March???
Of course this is all speculation on my part as I haven't told her yet........so.......we shall see.........
We were looking at my photos from last year and my gf said I looked different...hhmmmmm.
My best gf came over today and we spent about 5 hours together and we had a BIG talk, you see her partner wants to go back to NZ as he feels like me, they are both Kiwi's but she likes it here and he doesn't. So she totally understands where I am coming from.
I am now thinking of going back sooner rather than later but I am as scared as hell!!! I know it's silly but I am!!
She has ping ponged back and forth from NZ to Oz many times since she first arrrived here about 10 years ago, and we talked extensively of possessions and cars and jobs and selling up and starting over AGAIN and all that stuff and about how hard it can be at times but it all comes good in the end.
When she first arrived here she had no family here except a few distant cousins, no job to go to, nowhere to live really except a bed for a few nights in said cousins place, 3 suitcases of clothes and about $3000.00 in the bank and you know she survived!!
It has really done me good today to talk to her face to face.
And I felt obligated to stay so my daughter could go to the wedding in March, but her bf has put his apartment on the market last Saturday and they are looking at houses, well if they sell the apt. and buy a house there is no way she will be going to England to weddings, cheap air fares or not, they will need all their $$$$ for the house........and if she wanted to go to England so badly surely they would have waited until after March???
Of course this is all speculation on my part as I haven't told her yet........so.......we shall see.........
We were looking at my photos from last year and my gf said I looked different...hhmmmmm.
Barb ---- thats the sparkle in our eyes when we know what we want !!!!
Your going back home my friend
Nov 13th 2010, 5:11 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
We were writing on here about comedy recently so I thought some of you would like to read this about Ronnie Corbett in today Daily Express.
His views on comedians today.
http://www.express.co.uk/posts/view/...-modern-comics
His views on comedians today.
http://www.express.co.uk/posts/view/...-modern-comics
Nov 13th 2010, 5:59 pm
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Not long now for you now Rodney, you must be so excited and unable to sit still!
I am SO envious, but I am patient, and my turn will come.
Nov 13th 2010, 6:34 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Get together your passport, money, bank account information, all important papers - get them out of your house NOW and to a safe place, maybe in a friend's home. Do not tell him you are doing this, as this will inflame the situation. Then quietly start removing your personal effects without which you would feel bereft, again get those to friends and leave them there. Then remove yourself. Get to a divorce lawyer as soon as you yourself are safely away. Start now.
Don't wait for things to change, because they don't get better, at least not for long, then they fall back into the same pattern. PM me if you need details. Rosie
You may even need to make a restraining order against him if he becomes abusive. My friend did this when her ex-husband spat (is this a word?) on her. You need to check your State's law regarding this.
And clear your history/cookies on your computer! Maybe he is checking what you have been typing?
Remember that all public libraries in the US allow access to the internet - you may feel safer doing research and posting messages/e-mails away from your home PC.
Good luck and sending you some big ((((hugs))))
Links (even if you don't want to think about a divorce, he may be - or you may choose to have a legal seperation - so find out what your rights are!):
http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_...&state_code=TX
http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorc...orce-2520.html (You will find lists of lawyers via this site, forums etc.)
http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_...&state_code=TX
Property Division in Texas (scroll down): http://www.divorcesource.com/TX/info/resources.shtml (I've never heard of a "Certified Divorce Financial Analyst" before)
At least there are no children from this marriage ie. if you do choose to split up there won't be any custody issues.
Last edited by Englishmum; Nov 13th 2010 at 6:59 pm.
Nov 13th 2010, 7:55 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Agree 100%
You may even need to make a restraining order against him if he becomes abusive. My friend did this when her ex-husband spat (is this a word?) on her. You need to check your State's law regarding this.
And clear your history/cookies on your computer! Maybe he is checking what you have been typing?
Remember that all public libraries in the US allow access to the internet - you may feel safer doing research and posting messages/e-mails away from your home PC.
Good luck and sending you some big ((((hugs))))
Links (even if you don't want to think about a divorce, he may be - or you may choose to have a legal seperation - so find out what your rights are!):
http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_...&state_code=TX
http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorc...orce-2520.html (You will find lists of lawyers via this site, forums etc.)
http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_...&state_code=TX
Property Division in Texas (scroll down): http://www.divorcesource.com/TX/info/resources.shtml (I've never heard of a "Certified Divorce Financial Analyst" before)
At least there are no children from this marriage ie. if you do choose to split up there won't be any custody issues.
You may even need to make a restraining order against him if he becomes abusive. My friend did this when her ex-husband spat (is this a word?) on her. You need to check your State's law regarding this.
And clear your history/cookies on your computer! Maybe he is checking what you have been typing?
Remember that all public libraries in the US allow access to the internet - you may feel safer doing research and posting messages/e-mails away from your home PC.
Good luck and sending you some big ((((hugs))))
Links (even if you don't want to think about a divorce, he may be - or you may choose to have a legal seperation - so find out what your rights are!):
http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_...&state_code=TX
http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorc...orce-2520.html (You will find lists of lawyers via this site, forums etc.)
http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_...&state_code=TX
Property Division in Texas (scroll down): http://www.divorcesource.com/TX/info/resources.shtml (I've never heard of a "Certified Divorce Financial Analyst" before)
At least there are no children from this marriage ie. if you do choose to split up there won't be any custody issues.
Nov 13th 2010, 8:03 pm
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Celticspirit, can you please write a few lines and let us know that you are okay, I have been thinking about you all day. Will keep watching for you on this thread.
Nov 13th 2010, 8:23 pm
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Oh, my the selection of Christmas food in the stores these days, I don't remember ever seeing such a selection back in Canada. Of course I realize that most of the food we have back there are imported from the US and here is comes from all over Europe and the US.
Was at Tesco today for a few groceries and was so impressed by all the frozen food, chocolates, biscuits, meat and fish selections that are now being displayed at such great price points for the holiday season.
Denise was wondering if you and Tony were in the crowd watching The Lord Mayor of Londons Parade today, saw it on TV and loved watching the different costumes, floats etc.
Was at Tesco today for a few groceries and was so impressed by all the frozen food, chocolates, biscuits, meat and fish selections that are now being displayed at such great price points for the holiday season.
Denise was wondering if you and Tony were in the crowd watching The Lord Mayor of Londons Parade today, saw it on TV and loved watching the different costumes, floats etc.
Nov 13th 2010, 8:58 pm
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Thank you all for caring so much.
Nov 13th 2010, 9:28 pm
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Talk to your kids, let them whats going on, dont feel like you cant do that, I'm sure they are the closest people to you, they need to know.
Just Take Care.
