lf1

Sorry to hear about your husband. Wishing you all the best with your move.

Mummy in the foothills

I've passed 50 here too.
My advice Just Do it! I was a complete nervous wreck during the move and we are doing fine. I was offered an NHS job in just a few weeks after arriving (starting took longer with BDS checks) Older kids/adults doing well, Dh settling and life is good.

feelbritish

I am also in my 50's (late) and moving back as soon as we sell our house after 12 years in Canada. I will also be looking for a job, albeit part time and as we are moving to an area with high unemployment except in season I also worry a bit but I am sure it will work out.

You are lucky to have such a good support network in your family. Can you not stay with daughter initially? Also check some other alternatives - on a couple of other forums there are "house sitting" and then that article on renting tips.

Also if you go over in November or later you could probably pick up a holiday rental real cheap for 6 months. I have thought about doing this.

erin0259

Hi feelbritish,
No i cannot stay with my daughter as she lives with three other girls so no room, besides i am quite looking forward to living in my own little place.

I have actually looked at 6 month rentals and would love to do that would be perfect, i have even contacted a few places like Holiday Lettings but have had no luck and they seem to want to charge you by the day and are very expensive, Right Move does have short term lets though and i do think that might be the way to go till i have sorted things out.

It is still scary though but you never know how things will turn out if you don't try right?

My daughter gave me a little sign while i was there at Xmas that says:
You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream, i wake up to that every morning it is my inspiration.
Thanks again all you have know idea how much your support is helping me.

Mummy in the foothills

WhoFan found a place to live on something like these and some allow pets.
http://www.spareroom.co.uk/?&aff=125...FanjwgodSZoAsQ

https://www.flatmaterooms.co.uk/?gcl...FQnpwgodQikAGw

http://www.houseshare.com/
It can be a short term solution till you know where you want to be and settle down.

Maggiepie

Hi I have a holiday let in the UK which would be too big for you. However I am a member of Laymyhat forum. They are a great,kind, bunch of holiday let/longer let owners. I am sure if you were to join and post on there someone would be able to offer you a property

Good luck
Maggie Pie

MrMuffin

I'm 50 this year and we're (wife and two small kids) moving back either in the Autumn of this year or worst case Spring next year. It's very daunting thinking about restarting everything at my age, but like you can see, there are many others on this forum with even more 'experience.'

And I totally agree with other posters... thinking about still being here in my 60's and 70's and beyond is not an option. I want to be there as my parents get more elderly and be a support for them, plus I want my kids to benefit from being close to their UK grandparents and cousins. We have no family support here at all (my wife's family aren't 'family-type' people and we only see them three or four times a year. My advice is to plan it out and go home and don't look back!! Good luck to you!!

fulwood

maggiepie, brissybee has posted about a short term rental for july. it's for 3 people is your place too big? I referred them to forum you mentioned lay my hat which I have bookmarked as well.

Englishmaple

Erin I'm moving back to the UK next week and I'm 50. I found a room on spareroom.co.uk - and I had quite a few offers when I posted my profile there.

I won't have work when I get back but I have a little bit of savings which I hope will tide me over until I get work.

I found the encouragement I got on this forum so helpful. And making decisions got easier as time went along - my heart was more settled.

I don't know how things will turn out but I'm trusting that they will.

So good luck and don't think anything is impossible - all we have to do is to take small steps towards it. When I first started, I didn't think it would be possible for me at all but once you actually start planning and taking steps, it gets easier.

Good luck!

erin0259

"Thank You EnglishMaple"
You have no idea how much better i feel knowing i am not alone it certainly has made me feel i can do this, and i know i will be alot happier poorer but happy lol.

A few people on here have told me about Spareroom.com i think my daughter found her flat that way, i do have a small very well behaved dog he is 10 and there is no way i am leaving without him, so that might be my only hurdle, you sound like me little savings no job to go back too, i think we will be ok though, it's hard when you are doing it alone without a spouse, but surprised how many on here are in the same boat, we will have to all stay in touch and let each other know how we are doing i would like that, again "Thank You" and i wish you all the very best too, please let me know how things work out for you take care and good luck

Maggiepie

Hi, yes it is too big (sleeps 8) and already let for July. It gets booked up more in advance as larger groups of people have to organise themselves more in advance. At the moment we are free 2 weeks in September and all of October. I hope they find somewhere on laymyhat though. Sorry I can't be of help on this one. I will read their post too.

scot47

I came back aged 63 and retired aged 64 - to a part of the country that I had not even visited. It worked out OK. NHS (Scottish style|) was one reason. The climate was not. When my lottery ticket comes up I shall buy a winter des res on the banks of the Bosphorus near my Janissary pals.

trottytrue

50 is just a chicken you have the rest of your lives ahead of you. Time to get settled make new friends watch your parents grow old and just love the country. I am 70 and although I am stuck here for a while longer if I ever get the chance to go home I will. Never to old.

If you love the country you are in then stay but if your really want to go home dont delay it. I kept putting it off and I am very sorry I did.....

sallysimmons

I came back at age 50 and slotted back in as though I had never been away.

I was having drinks with a friend last night and we were bemoaning how old we feel at 51. But we both remembered feeling depressed about hitting 40, and how we felt ancient then. And we reminded each other that we'd now give anything to be 40! So when you're 70, 50 will seem very young.

With the holiday lets, I would say keep asking. You only need one person to say yes, and there's always someone who will. We wanted a place for 6 weeks and we needed to be able to have our cats with us - plus we needed good Internet. Most places said no to the long stay and the cats, but one lady said yes, and what's more, she upgraded her internet speeds just for us and discounted the price because we were staying so long. The house was just what we needed on our return and I'm forever grateful to her, but she said 'yes' just as I was about to give up.

Good luck with your move - it sounds like exactly the right thing to do and, believe it or not, things will all sort themselves out. I'm at my 2-year anniversary now, and all the stress and worry seems a long, long time ago.

windsong

I am another in this age group and I plan to return within 3-4 months. Scared but honestly can't wait!