I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
#16
Re: I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
Yes, I am well versed on the financial requirements for the visa. Not sure of your financial situation, but possessing $62K is a lot of money for me, as is the visa fee, as I am a stay-at-home parent with no income.
Given that I am British and lived there for many years since birth and contributed to the economy, it sticks in my craw that my husband has to pay a not inconsiderable sum for a visa, when anyone from the EU can just walk on in the door.
Given that I am British and lived there for many years since birth and contributed to the economy, it sticks in my craw that my husband has to pay a not inconsiderable sum for a visa, when anyone from the EU can just walk on in the door.
Good luck to you
Last edited by not2old; Nov 1st 2016 at 4:02 pm.
#18
Re: I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
I think the financial requirements for family members of British citizens are unfair, and I have taken part in the campaign against them.
But I also think that freedom of movement in the EU is a good thing, and the decision to leave the EU is a catastrophe for the UK.
If you are part of a group being treated unfairly, resenting another group not being treated unfairly isn't logical or likely to help you.
But I also think that freedom of movement in the EU is a good thing, and the decision to leave the EU is a catastrophe for the UK.
If you are part of a group being treated unfairly, resenting another group not being treated unfairly isn't logical or likely to help you.
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Re: I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
I think the financial requirements for family members of British citizens are unfair, and I have taken part in the campaign against them.
But I also think that freedom of movement in the EU is a good thing, and the decision to leave the EU is a catastrophe for the UK.
If you are part of a group being treated unfairly, resenting another group not being treated unfairly isn't logical or likely to help you.
But I also think that freedom of movement in the EU is a good thing, and the decision to leave the EU is a catastrophe for the UK.
If you are part of a group being treated unfairly, resenting another group not being treated unfairly isn't logical or likely to help you.
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Re: I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
Hmmm, that's how I felt when I arrived back in UK after 18 yrs absence, in order to please my wife who wanted to be back.
#25
Re: I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
Just needing to vent - I seriously need to get out of this terrible country, as the passive-aggressive arrogance is really getting to me! I'm fed up walking on eggshells round them, for fear of offending someone. This is a very lonely country to live in
Unfortunately, I'm stuck here for the foreseeable future, as I'm married to a Canadian. He's willing (read: reluctantly) to move to the UK and we're aiming to go next year for a holiday so he can check it out. I want to get on a plane today and walk away from this place, can't stand it any more!
Unfortunately, I'm stuck here for the foreseeable future, as I'm married to a Canadian. He's willing (read: reluctantly) to move to the UK and we're aiming to go next year for a holiday so he can check it out. I want to get on a plane today and walk away from this place, can't stand it any more!
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Re: I'm a Brit, get me out of here!
Thanks. It's horrible being stuck somewhere like a rat in a trap and watching life tick by. Could quite happily go to sleep tonight and just never wake up.
#27
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Over the years quite a few have commented that Ottawa is particularly dull. Any chance of a move somewhere else?
#28
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Anybody who thinks that these are new phenomena in either country must have had their head stuck in the sand.
#29
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Could quite happily go to sleep tonight and just never wake up.
Rubbish to feel that way inside of yourself. I hope you and your OH can agree on some sort of exit plan from where you now are.
and yes...
...come on here to vent anytime. It's a part of what BE is for. Care and support.
Have a hug.
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Hello, TrishP, I am so sorry that you are going through so much pain. I tried to make it work in Canada for 23 years, and failed. But my problem was missing the UK and everything about the place. We went there with the attitude of "when in Canada (Rome) do as they do", and we did have friends and did fit in well. I have some experience of Ottawa and know that the City is somewhat "sterile" i.e. cold and unfriendly, mainly because it is frequented by Government types. We learned that Canadians do like to think of themselves as being the "friendliest people in the World, eh", but that seems to be a national myth. I don't wish to patronize you in any way, because I had so much pain living there, for many reasons, not just to do with the country or its people; but, assuming that you have (deep down in your heart) really tried to reach out and make friends, and you really do hate being there, then the only answer is to get back here. Do not make yourself ill, and do not get to a place where you are so sick that you cannot get back (as I nearly did). Get on a plane and come back, if only for a short stay, and see if your dreams and thoughts about the UK do jive with the place. And if your feelings persist, there is only one thing to do; return for good. You only have one life. But do not make it into a $100,000 cure, where you bounce back and forth across the ocean because you have one foot in each country. It did not happen to me, because I got better almost as soon as I returned to England. And my health (emotionally and physically) has improved so much being in Devon. I am part of the very earth, and it will always be so. Good luck, thinking of you, and ignore any unfriendly/silly comments that you may get. This is very personal and you will work it out.