Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Mar 31st 2012, 8:47 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
I actually dont consider Australia to be that similar to England, we speak roughly the same language and drive on the correct side of the road but Australia is much more like America really.
Mar 31st 2012, 9:10 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Mar 31st 2012, 9:15 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Mar 31st 2012, 10:02 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Awww thanks! Yeah it been a trying week lol! Just put in for my citizenship and have leave booked in Oct so will be leaving then. 6 months to sort everything and save, save ,save! Just got off the phone to my Mum and she said that she would never try to influence me (she's been awesome) but she said now I have made the decision off my own back she is so happy I'm finally come home. She said to me to keep a diary of how I'm feeling now (crap, lol!) and when I come back if I have any "moments" to read that diary to remind me of all the reasons I decided to come home. Wise words
Apr 1st 2012, 12:26 pm
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Hi again to the OP. Do you have the time and money to have a few little holidays in some other parts of the UK? I am here today, in Gloucestershire, it is so beautiful and there are fields around me. The blossom is just about to burst out, we are going to walk to a local, very old, pub for lunch across some fields with sheep and horses in, with fossils in them for the kids to hunt. It is very lovely at the moment, and not particularly crowded, a few cars going by but the walk to the pub has no cars at all and no people until we get to the pub! Maybe, before you make the big and expensive decision to move back to Aus, you could have a look at some other areas of the UK. How are you feeling about it all? Have you made any friends?
Apr 1st 2012, 9:18 pm
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
We are looking at going to that area or Somerset and knowing both areas well they just sound nothing like the place that the OP has been talking about. To be honest even i would want to go back to Australia if i was living where the OP is 
Apr 2nd 2012, 4:26 pm
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
I use to be amazed in Aus when other (from non English speaking countries) migrants use to say to me that we were lucky as it must feel more like home as we were the same peoples...huh...I really do not think we have a great deal in common except our language and we drive on the same side of the road....its a bit like saying Mexicans are the same as Spanish...there not at all (my Spanish friends words not mine)
May 15th 2012, 9:14 pm
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
I've been here for 6 months. I hate it here. It is so depressing, ugly, miserable full of negative people. The backstabbing and shallowness of the people in unbelievable. Was away for 14 years. 8 in the States and then 6 in SA> Ironically I've found it harder to adjust than my SA born wife. Will not be here for much longer-back to SA or Oz next.
May 15th 2012, 9:34 pm
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Have sent you a private message !!
May 15th 2012, 11:17 pm
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
After a lot of thought there are quiet a few reasons I decided to move back to the uk and some are still there, they might sound a bit silly but :
1. I felt like I was cut off from the rest of the world, I would hear news from family back in the uk or read websites and compare to perth where not much ever seemed to happen and I felt like I was not a part of the world anymore.
2. I missed family, as most of us do
3. I didnt like the lazy slack working attitude there, even turning up for work seemed to be a chore for people and I would go in everyday and wonder how many havent actually bothered coming in today. I got frustrated with the slackness. Coming back to the uk I found the exact opposite, loads of rules and regulations for everything, to a ridiculous degree, a strict monitoring of stats and performance down to the minute by minute level. After seeing the two extremes I think the aussie way might have the best after all. Certainly less stressful.
4. I always felt like an outsider, people would constantly ask me where I am from, call me a pom, act suprised to learn I was a citizen. After 6 years I got fed up with people acting like I had just landed yesterday.
5. I was in an unhealthy relationship and was separating from my partner of 15 years, she stayed in perth. I guess I am wondering if I mixed up my feelings of wanting to get away from that situation with my feelings about australia, I guess part of me wanted to get as far away as possible and I might have let that cloud my feelings.
So some of these things will still be present if I did go back to aus, but might have just been in my head, maybe I can get past them.
I dont know.
Moving is a big expensive decision, I am confused, I dont know what to do, stay or go back to aus...
Any advice/opinions are much appreciated
1. I felt like I was cut off from the rest of the world, I would hear news from family back in the uk or read websites and compare to perth where not much ever seemed to happen and I felt like I was not a part of the world anymore.
2. I missed family, as most of us do
3. I didnt like the lazy slack working attitude there, even turning up for work seemed to be a chore for people and I would go in everyday and wonder how many havent actually bothered coming in today. I got frustrated with the slackness. Coming back to the uk I found the exact opposite, loads of rules and regulations for everything, to a ridiculous degree, a strict monitoring of stats and performance down to the minute by minute level. After seeing the two extremes I think the aussie way might have the best after all. Certainly less stressful.
4. I always felt like an outsider, people would constantly ask me where I am from, call me a pom, act suprised to learn I was a citizen. After 6 years I got fed up with people acting like I had just landed yesterday.
5. I was in an unhealthy relationship and was separating from my partner of 15 years, she stayed in perth. I guess I am wondering if I mixed up my feelings of wanting to get away from that situation with my feelings about australia, I guess part of me wanted to get as far away as possible and I might have let that cloud my feelings.
So some of these things will still be present if I did go back to aus, but might have just been in my head, maybe I can get past them.
I dont know.
Moving is a big expensive decision, I am confused, I dont know what to do, stay or go back to aus...
Any advice/opinions are much appreciated
People on here are not going to steer you wrong. Why don't you give it another year in another town, if you can? Plus, you never know, you might meet someone else in that time, and England might seem a whole lot brighter and happier!
May 16th 2012, 6:03 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
What country are you referring to ? I am currently in England but your description certainly doesnt describe it here.
I've been here for 6 months. I hate it here. It is so depressing, ugly, miserable full of negative people. The backstabbing and shallowness of the people in unbelievable. Was away for 14 years. 8 in the States and then 6 in SA> Ironically I've found it harder to adjust than my SA born wife. Will not be here for much longer-back to SA or Oz next.
May 16th 2012, 7:01 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
Sorry Chris its your beloved uk I am referring to
May 16th 2012, 7:40 am
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Re: Back in uk 6months after 6 years in Aus perth/adelaide now confused
I've been here for 6 months. I hate it here. It is so depressing, ugly, miserable full of negative people. The backstabbing and shallowness of the people in unbelievable. Was away for 14 years. 8 in the States and then 6 in SA> Ironically I've found it harder to adjust than my SA born wife. Will not be here for much longer-back to SA or Oz next.
