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Hi. I will be applying for the spouse visa in a few months. Im going to pay:1) the visa application, 2)the travel expenses to my neighbour country (twice I have to go there) to do the the English exams (cos in my country we don't have them) 3)the English exam 4)the plane ticket to the UK. I ask my husband if he can help me when I arrive till I get a job that will be renting a small flat, helping with the nsh and daily things like food and transport, told him when I'm there I will pay him back that money..... We always have been each one pays its own so he is not very happy but I'm not passing a great economics, his plan was not even getting a flat when I have the visa, just me going there and staying in a hostel for a couple of months while I get a job..... My question is you think I'm wrong asking him for help?? I know is his money and I don't want to get him mad. Thanks

SanDiegogirl

Think we discussed this OP's problems 'ad nauseam' in Jan 2018 ..... nothing has changed.

michali

az2014

OP he does not love you, he is not a good husband, it will all end badly and you will be unhappy.

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I mean now he will help paying for a flat, and the nsh I will have to pay him later tho. My question is if you think it should be half and half on the visa expenses. Thanks

Pollyana

So he is now saying that you will get a flat together, is he, instead of making you live in a hostel? I guess thats a start......

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Hi. He is gonna pay not for the flat, nsh and daily stuff while I get a job. Later I will have to pay him later... My question is if you think it should be half and half on the visa expenses.

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I told him there is no way that I went there to live in a hostel thats why he is looking for houses, he says that I have to get a job ASAP tho, n as well paying for the NHS, he doesn't like to talk about this subjects at all I'm the one only mention it. I'm glad that he is helping but he just seems not very keen on it

spouse of scouse

Doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, it's what you think that counts.

But since you asked, my opinion is your husband is a total pig of a man. You're supposed to be a couple, and couples pool their finances in order to meet their mutual goals. This 'I'll pay but only if you pay me back' is total rubbish.

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Hi thanks for your answer. We broke up after 8 years last year (my bad) in that time we always pay each one there thing even when i was with no job I pay my stuff. I feel guilty somehow not paying everything now cos I have a good amount of money save here but its my dada heretage. I know he is doing an effort but I just would like he doit with a better attitude. He agree of that the nhs and rent there cos I ask him he didn't offer to

feelbritish

Sure this is not a wind up?

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Sorry what you mean?

scot47

He means this


"something that is not true that you tell someone in order to make a joke"



And I agree with him. This is a post from some joker trying to make fun

Pica

Sounds like it for sure. How can asking for advise on a personal situation help???

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Excuse me but I'm not lying about anything in here, you don't know me to judge. And yes I know is more of a personal question but would just like to know how people doing the spouse visa divide or not the visa fees