donna

ow wer, what happened with that?last time i saw Correy ,she was only a youngster????

Tr1boy

Second attempt at marrying the same guy (first time round he legged it out of the bathroom window). Psychotic brother trying to ruin all the plans, groom's gay brother turning up unannounced, Sally Webster throws a glass of red over said bride to be (a result of lamenting lost youth and pent up sexual frustration at not having knocked hips with her daughter's teacher).

It's a rich tapestry alright

donna

Bugger,i just dont know what im missing ,eh!!!!

heggie

Come to his senses!

Which he thankfully did!!! Oz isn't for everyone you know.

tamms_1965

I really wish you the best of luck. However, my ex and I always put our children first and in the end we divorced after 20 years. We were so busy making sure they had the best education, sports experiences, etc., etc., that we forgot about our marriage, and when they didn't need us as much when they got older the marriage fell apart. Hindsight being 20/20, the best thing for my kids would have been seeing their parents take care of their marriage and knowing that they (the kids) were not the center of the universe. Hopefully, your hub will follow you back.

jackuk

I agree there is a danger in putting children first, we only have our lives once, they will grow up and have there own , and won't want you having any say in it, never forget each other and find time for each other, ... thats what the children would want too

BigDavyG

She is just using the kids as an excuse anyway, so don't worry about it.
Only one person has been put first here.

quoll

Yup, it seems like the OH is the one who is putting himself first here - he wants his dream and the rest of the family want their reality so what is wrong with that?

BigDavyG

Yeah - you are right.
The family have moved half way across the world and any husband worth his salt would pack it all if his wife gets a bit homesick and wants to leave after a month.
If she really didn't want to move she could have said so before they did, and let's face it, she doesn't seem like the shrinking violet type who would have been afraid to say beforehand, does she ??

quoll

The rest of his family, not just his wife, and who knows until you get here whether or not it is going to meet your expectations. I would expect a husband to support his wife, yes. OTOH mine doesnt so what do I know?!

Giantaxe

It's pretty unusual to know definitively after just forty days whether or not one's expectations will be met.

So you would also presumably expect a wife to support a husband then? And that that support would extend to giving a venture that they jointly undertook a fair shot?

Octang Frye

Miserable troll is miserable.

BigDavyG

Thanks just crazy talk

quoll

I dunno, sometimes there are things that you just know in your gut is the right thing (or not!) to do and it doesnt necessarily have to take 40 days either. When you have kids of teenage years your decisions sometimes do have to be quite quick because if you screw it up for them it is an irrevocable screw up - education can be very tricky to chop and change in the later teens.

If the wife were the only one unhappy then, yes, probably I would suggest that she suck it up but here you have 75% of the family who arent happy - see the difference (and dont blame the OP for being the driving force behind it, her kids may well hate the change as do many kdis of that age).

I think folk are giving the OP a hard time and name calling when it is quite unjustified and they dont walk in her shoes - neither do I and though my initial response would normally be to give it a bit longer (not because Australia is paradise but it appears that folk who go back quickly seem to ping pong more than those who have given a good deal of their lives to trying to hack it here) in this case I can see a good reason for why she and her kids should go back.

quoll

Um, scuse me? Are you implying that I am a miserable troll?