Originally Posted by Margaret3

this is where i think the whole experience has been really unhealthy for me, i never used to worry about the future, just get up and on with life, here i obsess over it , i worry about EVERYTHING to do with the future , i have make myself ill over finances here, i wasnt rich in scotland, didnt bother me one bit, here i worry so much over it. I worry about getting ill or any of the family getting ill and not being able to afford private health insurance i know they will be treated like 2nd class citizens in the public and expected to keep their mouths shut and put up with it, after all their getting it for free (is the saying i have heard the medical staff use here a million times)

Funny thing was when i was back in scotland in feb, i was back to my ce la vie self

I know part of the fact is the experience made me grow up financially and plan for my old age (lol!), but i have hated doing it.

Originally Posted by Donna&Neil

Hi Jan just wanted to say hats off for sicking with it & giving it a fair go. Are you heading back to Aberdeen? All the best for you & yours with whatever comes next.

Donna

Originally Posted by Dorothy

Good luck Jan and family. It's nice to see that you and yours have managed to stay positive through the bad times. What a huge relief it must be to finally know you're going home.

All the best in your future and please don't be a stranger here on BE.

Originally Posted by king kong

i hear you on that one , maybe its because we feel we have no future that makes it come to the forfront of our minds .I know now that im off in a couple of weeks the backside is starting to twitch a bit ,got so used to living in limbo land its making me nervous about returning .Hope it doesnt last too long .

Originally Posted by midgetjan

After 2 and a half years in Perth we have decided to go home to Scotland.

Hubby and son wanted home after 6 months but we hung on to give it a fair go. We qualified for the citizenship after 2 years but have decided not to go for it. We just don't feel like we belong here, so what's the point having citizenship?

We've had loads of major ups and downs here - almost ending in divorce. Nothing prepares you for the turmoil if one of you settles and the rest of the family don't.

We've had family issues back in the UK - sister's hubby left her for another woman after 30 years together. She attempted suicide several times, which I'm sure accelerated mum's dementia. Dad had major heart surgery. Adopted brother conned elderly parents into selling him their house for a fraction of its value. Four of my uncles have died and 3 of our friends have also passed away.

We've missed both of our daughters who are still in Scotland.

We've tried really hard to settle here but hubby has struggled to get work (and we came here on his skills too). Son (16 when we arrived here) misses his friends and sisters and has become depressed.

We bought the beautiful 4x2 house with a pool overlooking a rural property with ponies etc but I liken my life to Will Smith in "I am Legend". What's the point of having nice things if you have no family and friends to share them with? I worked really hard and got a good job with the government, which has paid the bills - but there has to be more to life than this.

We didn't run away from anything in Scotland when we came here. We were lucky and had a good life. We just decided it was time for an adventure. Well I can't moan as we have certainly had an adventure.

We chose Perth as hubby had a cousin there. We bought a house in a suburb close to them and then they stopped speaking to us because we wouldn't buy the house they wanted us to have.

We have done all the touristy things and are now bored. I work long days and there isn't much time to do anything when I get home. My hubby hates the flies and the extreme heat in summer. I hate the long wet winters.

We will never regret coming here as it's taught us to be grateful for the things we do have.

We've had our Perth adventure and now we are looking forward to the next chapter, "return to reality, a Traditional family Christmas."

Originally Posted by midgetjan

I really want to go home now - Went to the park for lunch yesterday and sat under a nice tree.

Sporting 6 beautiful huge mozzie bites today and they are all swollen like golfballs ....... Grrrrrr

Gimme a Scottish midgie any day.

Originally Posted by Nu-Shooz

I used to go bike riding in Joondalup park and next day i would be covered in mozzie bites. So bad that i had hospital treatment when i got hives and couldn't walk.
So when folk say 'outdoor lifestyle' i just cringe

Originally Posted by merleoberon

when i tell people back home that i spent more time in my english garden than my perth one, they laugh and think i'm telling porkies. in perth, if its not the flies its the mozzies. too wet/windy or too warm - ok maybe not all the time but for a very large percentage of the year. and dark before we all get home from work/clubs - hey, lets sit outside and get bitten to bits.

Originally Posted by king kong

i must admit after 20 years here , i got skin like a friggin elephant ,i dont get bothered by them mozzies . mind u spent a bit time up in broome and spent more on spray than food in one week .

Originally Posted by Nu-Shooz

Looking at the older generation in Perth helped me decide to come home
Coco butter KK...rub it all over

Originally Posted by merleoberon

when i tell people back home that i spent more time in my english garden than my perth one, they laugh and think i'm telling porkies. in perth, if its not the flies its the mozzies. too wet/windy or too warm - ok maybe not all the time but for a very large percentage of the year. and dark before we all get home from work/clubs - hey, lets sit outside and get bitten to bits.