Soon to take the plunge
#33
Re: Soon to take the plunge
#34
Re: Soon to take the plunge
I agree that nothing in life is a certainty (unless we're talking about the death and taxes thing!). Also agree about not letting anyone else hold the cards - please do have a good think about the advice others have given you re. maintaining control of your money. Most importantly, have a clear and workable exit plan for yourself if things don't turn out. Best of luck.
#36
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A failure to plan is a plan to fail, but the only exit strategy that I can think of would be to have enough money in my bank to pay for a flight home. I'd rather try and fail than not try at all.
#37
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Re: Soon to take the plunge
no one is saying don't try. What is being indicated is always have something in your pocket. You would be supprised how many hopefuls come to the Phils and finish up wanting to get back home but can't. Because like you they thought that eventuality would never happen. We also hope it will never happen to you. Nothing wrong with being a boyscout.
#38
Re: Soon to take the plunge
no one is saying don't try. What is being indicated is always have something in your pocket. You would be supprised how many hopefuls come to the Phils and finish up wanting to get back home but can't. Because like you they thought that eventuality would never happen. We also hope it will never happen to you. Nothing wrong with being a boyscout.
#39
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Dale...
I have just come back from the bus terminal to see my wife off to travel to the big city to earn much needed money that we require. On the way back I always reflect on what has happened here since my arrival those 4 short years ago. I came here full of hope, dreams and a new life. That turned sour about 9 months ago and who do I blame? Myself. I was not assertive enough and failed to take complete control. But that sadly is not in my make-up and now we are paying the price.. Don't get me wrong, despite these financial problems I love my life here and wouldn't want to be anywhere else. You will have a better start than me financially and you have been in a long term relationship whereas I came here with small savings which I lost in my divorce and I met my lovely lady after only knowing her for about one year on FB.
I have just come back from the bus terminal to see my wife off to travel to the big city to earn much needed money that we require. On the way back I always reflect on what has happened here since my arrival those 4 short years ago. I came here full of hope, dreams and a new life. That turned sour about 9 months ago and who do I blame? Myself. I was not assertive enough and failed to take complete control. But that sadly is not in my make-up and now we are paying the price.. Don't get me wrong, despite these financial problems I love my life here and wouldn't want to be anywhere else. You will have a better start than me financially and you have been in a long term relationship whereas I came here with small savings which I lost in my divorce and I met my lovely lady after only knowing her for about one year on FB.
I've read some of your thread and it seems that your financial issues centre around the fact that your wife's family expected handouts from you because of the belief over there that every foreign guy has a bottomless pit of money. Fortunately, that won't be the case with me over there because there won't be anyone regularly knocking on our door which I know is an easy thing to say, but her mother and sister both live in UK and she very rarely sees any of her extended family. Anyway, I hope of course that things improve. Money issues are my biggest concern, which I suppose is obvious from my posts so far but I don't want to come back to UK having failed because going to PH is the only way we can be together, and to be honest I don't have much of a life here going forward.
You're right that being assertive and taking control is important and I guess that you learned the hard way but the fact that you are still in PH after 4 years, and that you got married and are still together shows that everything that you must have gone through didn't break your resolve and determination to make it over there.
Last edited by BEVS; Aug 31st 2019 at 7:26 am. Reason: Splitting the thread
#40
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Being curious so there is no requirement at all to answer.
Is there a reason why you would not go down the spouse visa route for her to be with you in the UK ? I know it is an arduous visa but with her family already emigrated to the UK it just seems logical.
Is there a reason why you would not go down the spouse visa route for her to be with you in the UK ? I know it is an arduous visa but with her family already emigrated to the UK it just seems logical.
#41
Re: Soon to take the plunge
the spouse visa is very difficult to get and only about 60% of applications get approved
#43
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yes but many applications get rejected for even the smallest mistake in the 84-page online form, or that the couple wasn't able to convince the home office here that they are a genuine couple. The British government have their immigration quota to consider also, when deciding to accept/reject a visa application into this country
#44
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yes but many applications get rejected for even the smallest mistake in the 84-page online form, or that the couple wasn't able to convince the home office here that they are a genuine couple. The British government have their immigration quota to consider also, when deciding to accept/reject a visa application into this country
If you have not even considered this route but would like to explore the possibilities then ask away in the Moving Back to the UK Forum
I am not saying you should at all but don't be put off by the difficult stories. Take heart with the successful stories. Also . Her family have successfully emigrated to the UK so that all adds in.
Otherwise please ignore me and carry on. I was not meaning to guide in any direction. I was more curious.