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Old Sep 21st 2021, 3:56 am
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P11,
I really hope that all goes well for you in the coming weeks.
I have just read the WJP Rule of Law Index for 2021
https://worldjusticeproject.org/our-...law-index-2020

You may fond it helpful
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P11,
I really hope that all goes well for you in the coming weeks.
I have just read the WJP Rule of Law Index for 2021
https://worldjusticeproject.org/our-...law-index-2020

You may fond it helpful
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Many thanks B

Moving on.......

I can now reveal that my trials and tribulations are now over.

I will post more tomorrow in full.....barring a severe hangover. But now I can live in peace and retire gracefully in the country I love.

In the interim, thank you all for your interest and comments in my little column.

Regards all
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Old Sep 21st 2021, 12:05 pm
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Many thanks B

Moving on.......

I can now reveal that my trials and tribulations are now over.

I will post more tomorrow in full.....barring a severe hangover. But now I can live in peace and retire gracefully in the country I love.

In the interim, thank you all for your interest and comments in my little column.

Regards all

Pleased to hear it. Congratulations.
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Many thanks B

Moving on.......

I can now reveal that my trials and tribulations are now over.

I will post more tomorrow in full.....barring a severe hangover. But now I can live in peace and retire gracefully in the country I love.

In the interim, thank you all for your interest and comments in my little column.

Regards all
Very happy for you. Well done.
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Old Sep 21st 2021, 12:18 pm
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Originally Posted by Philosophical 11
Many thanks B

Moving on.......

I can now reveal that my trials and tribulations are now over.

I will post more tomorrow in full.....barring a severe hangover. But now I can live in peace and retire gracefully in the country I love.

In the interim, thank you all for your interest and comments in my little column.

Regards all
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Old Sep 21st 2021, 12:22 pm
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Very good news indeed P11. Now look forward to the future. A celebration of boiled bananas with fish heads is called for!

Here's to the future!
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Many thanks B

Moving on.......

I can now reveal that my trials and tribulations are now over.

I will post more tomorrow in full.....barring a severe hangover. But now I can live in peace and retire gracefully in the country I love.

In the interim, thank you all for your interest and comments in my little column.

Regards all
Great news, look forward to reading more. Go enjoy a beer.
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Old Sep 21st 2021, 1:00 pm
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Originally Posted by Philosophical 11
Many thanks B

Moving on.......

I can now reveal that my trials and tribulations are now over.

Regards all
Congratulations, dear sir. It was a long time coming and look forward to reading what transpired.

Hope you enjoy the celebration and the hangover isn't too bad.
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That's brilliant news. Enjoy the celebration and we look forward to hearing the end of the saga.
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Very good news indeed P11. Now look forward to the future. A celebration of boiled bananas with fish heads is called for!

Here's to the future!
Please not the boiled bananas again
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Old Sep 21st 2021, 11:16 pm
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P11,
Good news, at last your patience and fortitude has finally paid off. I cannot wait to read the gory details.
Stay safe!
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Great news. Glad it's over. Now for the next one.
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wake up wake Sir Philosophical.... having spent months reading your posts and the posts of all of us who followed your trials and tribulations we are all sitting here, popcorn at the ready, waiting for what will probably be the final installment where WW gets her comeuppance or putdownance... were waiting sir.... our breath is bated !
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Greetings and Salutations

Well at last my trials and tribulations appear to be at last over once the i's have been dotted and the t's crossed. As you can imagine this has brought a great sense of relief after 2 years of turbulence, uncertainty and stress.

In essence, she has accepted my offer of a settlement which I made last year. Let me recap on that. Last year about October I think, I received what appeared to be message hinting reconciliation. On checking various sources I found out that she was in new debt and with rent arrears. It appeared that she had given her BF the boot because he was cheating on her. Instead of reconciliation I offered her a settlement of 12k pm for one year and later increased to 15k pm. She wanted 40k pm for life and later 20k pm for 5 years. That was declined. Eventually she said that she did not want any settlement but wants me in jail and then deported. We were therefore in impasse and the only time I heard from her was before Hearings. with vitriolic messages. I never responded.

I received another vitriolic message about a week ago stating how she was going to put me in jail and have me deported which again was ignored and then out of the blue a couple of days ago saying that she would accept my offer of 15k . So why the sudden change of mind? I think it is due to one of three things or maybe all three. She has very recently seen my evidence against her and the strength of my defence. I let it be known to others that I knew the real name of her PNP bf, which I know would have got back to her. More about him later. The third reason was that she was broke. She appeared not to be deterred with a potential charge of bigamy (6rs in jail minimum) nor charged with perjury..

I was very perturbed to find out that her PNP bf is a member of the SAF and told my attorney I did not want his name mentioned or subpoenaed but only as a last resort for obvious reasons.

So...obvious question. Why didnt I go all the way and meet her in court? If truth be told I didnt have the bottle to take the risk and losing. The potential sentence of at least one year in jail and deportation was to much to contemplate. I took the easy way out and indeed, how many more Hearings would be required? This could take many more months. Travel from where I am is not easy or cheap. Swab tests...hotel bills....travel costs etc. I needed respite from the stress which was taking a toll on my health. I have come here in the Philippines to retire peacefully. I hope now that I can enjoy the rest of my retirement peacefully.

What have I learnt from this? The best piece of advice I received when all started to go wrong after my marriage was to be more assertive. I should have laid the law down immediately and showed her the door if my warnings were not heeded. A very valuable lesson learnt....the hard way.

What happens now? Our attorneys are going to draw up an agreement based on what I have outlined. This will include that BI will be informed that she has withdrawn her case against me. I dont want them knocking on my door at 5.00 am in the morning and carted off as happened to a friend of mine. Furthermore, hopefully a clause inserted that she cannot file anything else in the future.

What happens to my marriage? Currently it is null and voild but not in a court of law. I need to look into ways of remedying that. Annulment is too expensive and can take years. An on line UK Divorce lawyer can deal with that also which may be a lot cheaper and quicker. But I think there is another way through the court to deem my Marriage null and void. I shall look into that.

Icing on the cake..... About a week or so ago I saw that Immigration has decreed that Tourist Visa Holders such as myself do not have to undertake a visa run outside of the Philippines to renew the 3 year tourist visa because of the Covid 19 situation. That was my fear. Leaving and then not getting back for some considerable time especially with this settlement in place would have been very difficult for me living in the UK. As you know, I have applied for a Motion of Reconsideration to extend my visa for 120 days after receipt of approval. That takes me up to January so far. After that I can take advantage of the current relaxation of rules. And if that is not enough.....apply for a 9G visa which will give me a further year.

On reflection, I am now glad she did not accept my settlement offer last year. If she had accepted I would have had to leave the Philippines in March of this year on a visa run. And I would still be there now.....unable to get back with this settlement payment like a chain around my neck. As it stands I can easily afford the 15k pm especially bearing in mind the further Hearings and expense that I might have had to endure. Also, I have 72k bail money to pick up and my private pension pays an annual payment in November. About 50k. Not much, But more than I need.

This barring anything dramatic will be the last post I will make here and I will let the thread die a natural death. I will of course respond to any further comments as necessary. I wish to thank all of you for reading, following and commenting on my story. i hope any newbie to the Philippines takes the time to read my little story so that they dont learn the hard way as I did. A special mention to the Mods and Admin who have helped me to bring this story to you.

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Old Sep 22nd 2021, 8:34 am
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P11,
A final well done and I believe you have taken the most prudent and practical route.
Welcome back to a happy and stress free retirement.
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