Me and My Family
#4891
Re: Me and My Family
May I remind you all this thread was opened by P11 as a place for him to post an account of his new life in the Philippines. Most of us have differing opinions of what he should or should not have done...but that is all in the past now.
Please leave your opinions of each other at the door...or take them to PM. Either way this thread is not the place to air them.
Please leave your opinions of each other at the door...or take them to PM. Either way this thread is not the place to air them.
#4892
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If an expat was in a situation where people where threatening him to pay a woman's bills, he would have a much easier time extricating himself from the situation if he wasn't married to her and didn't own the property in which they lived.
Not my current location, but one where I have links.
Not my current location, but one where I have links.
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But she didn't, did she. As anyone who has read this saga knows, you were continually caving to her requests, demands and lies, to the extent that you used up much of your retirement fund on her, are owed a large amount of money you will never retrieve, and were reduced to living like a squatter in an unhealthy state at your advanced age. All while she was shagging her boyfriend/babyfather/whoever behind your back.
As for attitude toward women, well that is relative: another poster on this thread just basically accused you of being a sex tourist. However, what is certainly not relative is the fact if you'd been a little more hard-headed in your attitude toward women, you wouldn't be in the position you find yourself now. But you have heard that a hundred times already from others.
As for attitude toward women, well that is relative: another poster on this thread just basically accused you of being a sex tourist. However, what is certainly not relative is the fact if you'd been a little more hard-headed in your attitude toward women, you wouldn't be in the position you find yourself now. But you have heard that a hundred times already from others.
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But I am a bit mystified why you don't seem to be pursuing that as a primary defense to the charges she has caused to be held against you, and why you're not actively seeking a certified copy of her original marriage certificate.
Leave aside whether or not you choose to pursue her for bigamy as a criminal matter (a useless and potentially expensive rabbit-hole, IMHO).
Surely it would help you, in your defense to the charges you currently face, to formally establish (by means of her prior certificate of marriage), that legally, you never were and could never have been married to her?
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True in one sense, because you never were legally married at all, because she already was.
But I am a bit mystified why you don't seem to be pursuing that as a primary defense to the charges she has caused to be held against you, and why you're not actively seeking a certified copy of her original marriage certificate.
Leave aside whether or not you choose to pursue her for bigamy as a criminal matter (a useless and potentially expensive rabbit-hole, IMHO).
Surely it would help you, in your defense to the charges you currently face, to formally establish (by means of her prior certificate of marriage), that legally, you never were and could never have been married to her?
But I am a bit mystified why you don't seem to be pursuing that as a primary defense to the charges she has caused to be held against you, and why you're not actively seeking a certified copy of her original marriage certificate.
Leave aside whether or not you choose to pursue her for bigamy as a criminal matter (a useless and potentially expensive rabbit-hole, IMHO).
Surely it would help you, in your defense to the charges you currently face, to formally establish (by means of her prior certificate of marriage), that legally, you never were and could never have been married to her?
I already have proof that she is not legally married , a government document to state that she has married twice.
I do not have the resources to pursue a case against her bigamy which is of no consequence in the case against me. I barely have the resources to defend myself.
Moving on....
Taking advantage of her very polite message to me indicating she wants me back and knowing she has defaulted on loan repayments, I have sent her an offer of settlement out of court. She is consulting her attorney.
Keep saafe all
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A very polite message seems to be out of character. I wonder what is the motivation? Perhaps her new beau has upped stumps.
Notwithstanding that P11 the very best of British and above all keep safe.
Notwithstanding that P11 the very best of British and above all keep safe.
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"I do not have the resources to pursue a case against her bigamy which is of no consequence in the case against me. I barely have the resources to defend myself."
Unless you have already agreed with your legal team on a set fee,it is possible that you could find yourself in a perilous situation somewhere down the line,P11.Please remain vigilant.
PS,apologies if you have already stated details of the commercial agreement with your legal team on here.
Good Luck.
Unless you have already agreed with your legal team on a set fee,it is possible that you could find yourself in a perilous situation somewhere down the line,P11.Please remain vigilant.
PS,apologies if you have already stated details of the commercial agreement with your legal team on here.
Good Luck.
#4898
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True in another sense, RA 9262 is not just confined to married couples.
I already have proof that she is not legally married , a government document to state that she has married twice.
I do not have the resources to pursue a case against her bigamy which is of no consequence in the case against me. I barely have the resources to defend myself.
Moving on....
Taking advantage of her very polite message to me indicating she wants me back and knowing she has defaulted on loan repayments, I have sent her an offer of settlement out of court. She is consulting her attorney.
Keep saafe all
I already have proof that she is not legally married , a government document to state that she has married twice.
I do not have the resources to pursue a case against her bigamy which is of no consequence in the case against me. I barely have the resources to defend myself.
Moving on....
Taking advantage of her very polite message to me indicating she wants me back and knowing she has defaulted on loan repayments, I have sent her an offer of settlement out of court. She is consulting her attorney.
Keep saafe all
I hope that doesn’t mean you are giving her more money...
#4899
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P11 ... you received a civilized, polite message from the ex? I know money is super tight but this is so out of character for her it can only mean one thing in my mind .... she knows that she is standing on a very weak and shaky leg and is about to fall flat on her arse. Do think carefully before your strike up a settlement with her.
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#4901
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P11 ... you received a civilized, polite message from the ex? I know is super tight but this is so out of character for her it can only mean one thing in my mind .... she knows that she is standing on a very weak and shaky leg and is about to fall plate on her arse. Do think carefully before your strike up a settlement with her.
For P11, I suppose it would bring closure on a bad couple of years and allow him to move on with PoM. And be finished with her for once and for all.
Last throw of the dice from the LL.
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P 11 Feel for you here, difficult situation, almost appears your LL is throwing a life line with conditions attached.
Naturally any agreements made are your own, my flexibility in this situation would be considerable, anything to ovoid a case in which I believe the decks to be stacked. No doubt your attorney shall insist on an agreement which precludes her from ever making these or similar accusations again.
As a parting comment P11, some years ago I visited an Australian in Toledo prison, even being prepared it was a considerable shock to witness these conditions first hand. Worth some thought.
As always best of British and may this end well.
Naturally any agreements made are your own, my flexibility in this situation would be considerable, anything to ovoid a case in which I believe the decks to be stacked. No doubt your attorney shall insist on an agreement which precludes her from ever making these or similar accusations again.
As a parting comment P11, some years ago I visited an Australian in Toledo prison, even being prepared it was a considerable shock to witness these conditions first hand. Worth some thought.
As always best of British and may this end well.
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P 11 Feel for you here, difficult situation, almost appears your LL is throwing a life line with conditions attached.
Naturally any agreements made are your own, my flexibility in this situation would be considerable, anything to ovoid a case in which I believe the decks to be stacked. No doubt your attorney shall insist on an agreement which precludes her from ever making these or similar accusations again. ..
Naturally any agreements made are your own, my flexibility in this situation would be considerable, anything to ovoid a case in which I believe the decks to be stacked. No doubt your attorney shall insist on an agreement which precludes her from ever making these or similar accusations again. ..
The threat would have to be credible so he needs to avoid giving her the idea he might find the legal financial burden too heavy. Even better if he can give her the idea that he won't be the one prosecuting her, it will be the prosecution service. Never mind that I can't find any case of that ever happening and that she may have been told that too. But he could try to get her to believe things are different away from the Visayas or that someone will help him...even Raffy Tulfo!
You would think in a country where they place great store in the sanctity of marriage the authorities would be actively prosecuting bigamy. Maybe they don't as they would end up prosecuting too many poor people who can't afford an annulment. Anyway, the penalty for bigamy is prison mayor.....meaning more than 6 years in prison.
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To me P11 doesn't need a life line, even though the decks may be stacked against him to a degree. Looks to me that LL may also be keeping afloat with difficulty P11 can use the threat of suing her for bigamy to his advantage in any settlement negotiations, which seem on the cards now. She may have brought her case against him in the first place partly to dissuade him from bringing a bigamy case against her, due to the cost of all that litigation.
The threat would have to be credible so he needs to avoid giving her the idea he might find the legal financial burden too heavy. Even better if he can give her the idea that he won't be the one prosecuting her, it will be the prosecution service. Never mind that I can't find any case of that ever happening and that she may have been told that too. But he could try to get her to believe things are different away from the Visayas or that someone will help him...even Raffy Tulfo!
You would think in a country where they place great store in the sanctity of marriage the authorities would be actively prosecuting bigamy. Maybe they don't as they would end up prosecuting too many poor people who can't afford an annulment. Anyway, the penalty for bigamy is prison mayor.....meaning more than 6 years in prison.
The threat would have to be credible so he needs to avoid giving her the idea he might find the legal financial burden too heavy. Even better if he can give her the idea that he won't be the one prosecuting her, it will be the prosecution service. Never mind that I can't find any case of that ever happening and that she may have been told that too. But he could try to get her to believe things are different away from the Visayas or that someone will help him...even Raffy Tulfo!
You would think in a country where they place great store in the sanctity of marriage the authorities would be actively prosecuting bigamy. Maybe they don't as they would end up prosecuting too many poor people who can't afford an annulment. Anyway, the penalty for bigamy is prison mayor.....meaning more than 6 years in prison.
Not withstanding the evidence and supporting documents he may have, we cannot loose fact of where we are and the prejudice of many in judicial circles here.
From a case I was recently involved in the defendant (a local) did not respond to any court correspondence or even appear in court. As in P11s case the evidence was over overwhelmingly in favour of the plaintiff (foreign national) ........Still as he was advised...next to no chance, believe there was another poster here with similar experiences.
Not say if the case of P11 goes to court he has could not win, he may very well strike an impartial judge, still if he can negotiate a settlement with his ex LL I feel this option would be wise to explore. My feeling is the bigamy charge is a totally separate issue and I cast doubt on the threat of this would be enough to deter the LL considering the arrest warrant has been issued.
My understanding is its currently next to impossible to involve Raffy Tulfo, even if possible the complexity of P11s case would be to much.I have not a full understanding of over all predicament how ever like all posters wish him a settlement and chance to live his life here as he wishes.