MartynK

I'm sure you're right. After all, P11 could have killed the thread long ago if he'd decided to boycott it because of some posts/posters.

teza

nope , he only responds to those that agree...

thaiing

Hope you're still going well over there and avoiding the charm of LL, P11. I doubt she will move on while she still has contact with you as she will believe that means she still can access your money. Hopefully your contact is minimal and you are forging ahead in your new chapter.

Philosophical 11

Thanks thaiing!

Time for a quick update I guess....

Went to renew my visa the other day accompanied by the two owners of my favourite restobar here. I asked one co-owner but the other who works in the vice mayors office here wanted to come as well in case of any snags. There were none. I was very thankful for their support. The vice mayor if you remember is an attorney. I am overwhelmed by the friendliness and support by the crew and regulars in the bar here.

A few days ago I set about trying to obtain a copy of her previous marriage certificate to verify her signature. PSA refused to give it to me stating that I need a court order. That was disappointing but it confirms to me that she lied that her lawyer in Manila has obtained a copy merely by walking into the registry and requesting it. Court orders take time and money. She cannot request it because of the slight change to her name previously. Even if she had obtained a copy she could have sent a pic showing the forged signature proving that her first marriage was void. She didn't.

She is due to move out of the house by 22nd this month. She has finally settled on a house at 6.5k pm after I rejected two at 10 and 8k. This is where it gets confusing....she wants to move all the furniture there but only wants a car for the job. She has told someone that she is moving to "the little big city" and her parents to "the big city". The house she is looking at is where we live in a nearby brgy. There is no contract but I have asked for sight of an agreement with full details etc. That has not been forthcoming thus far. So I don't know whats going on.,

Waddly her elder sister contacted me yesterday and we had a long chat. My wife told them that she is moving away to the big city to get away from the hassle and agro she is receiving there. She too heard rumours of visits by her bf but has seen nothing and was surprised to hear of the visits by the father of the two boys. She again apologized for the actions of her sister and hopes I can come back at some time in the future. She also scoffed at the idea she has landed a job as manager in the local hotel here. Her contacting me was for genuine reasons....

A few days ago, I found out why I cannot get part furnished accommodation here so far. I wont go into that just now but they are being withheld from me for a good reason. I was surprised but I am content where I am at the moment so its no big problem...especially if I have to go back to where I came to fight any legal battles. So...I am waiting and seeing before I make a decision about moving from my present temp accommodation.

In conclusion....Her messages to me are now far and between and I keep my responses brief and to the point. There is no chat. I think we both accept that our marriage is over.

Regards

morpeth

Hope this is a good year for you.

I am still do not understand why you would want any contact with her or spend 1 minutes even thinking about whether she does this or that if you are sure of legal standing.Why do you care what she is paying for rent if your position you are liable for nothing ? Sorry i just find this continuation of drama hard to understand why you or your lawyer recommend continuing.

RedApe

"She is due to move out of the house by 22nd this month. She has finally settled on a house at 6.5k pm after I rejected two at 10 and 8k. This is where it gets confusing....she wants to move all the furniture there but only wants a car for the job"

I'm puzzled why you are involved in her finances. The marriage was not legal and you are not responsible for her upkeep. It seems you are financing her home purchases, the acquisition of the furniture for HER home, and a CAR! Yes, very confusing. You were never legally married and there is no need for a legal separation. She's just scamming you again. This is precisely why people have recommended you cut off contact...you fall back into the quicksand just as someone throws you a lifeline.

"She too heard rumours of visits by her bf but has seen nothing and was surprised to hear of the visits by the father of the two boys."

Now divorces are nearly impossible to obtain..,and she was clearly involved with this man for some time to have two children with him. Is THIS the "previous marriage" that was never annulled? Why isn't he paying the LEGAL requirements she is supposed to receive from her actual husband. Why are YOU...the subject of fraud many times over responsible for "Il Princesa". Should that not be the real husbands responsibility? Plus she is supposedly working.

Millhouse

Your actions suggest only one person has accepted it.

moneypenny20

That's very confusing to me because I don't understand what business it is of yours where she rents.

Millhouse

He will say abandonment

Gazza-d

Reading between the line he's going to pay the rent.

Bealinehx

"Reading between the line he's going to pay the rent."
No surprise there !
Death by a thousand cuts.

Stokkevn

That's not between the lines - clearly stated 3rd paragraph, second line.

I can not understand anyone paying rent for someone who was never their wife, who has had boyfriends/ex husbands visiting during the relationship, hiding 4 kids until school fees etc. were due and threatening to cut the dog and puppies throats if he did not do as he was told. I know my missus is a bit dippy at times but even she can not understand why he would do it.

caretaker

It's time someone forwarded this thread to his sons so they can step in and take care of this. They should see that LL is formally charged with bigamy and fraud, not at the local police station where she had pals, but in as high a court as they have there, and they should gain power of attorney over P11's finances and lock down his bank accounts immediately before she scams him out of another cent. If he puts up a fight it may be necessary to have him declared incompetent and move him back home where they can keep an eye on him. Sounds harsh but he won't admit to himself that he's the victim of a fraud scheme so is it really safe for him to be on his own? If it was my dad I'd probably try to get his money back from these bloodsuckers as well, but that may not be worth the potential trouble.

jaygee68

This paying of rent really is a very distressing turn of events.

Philosophical 11

Greetings..

I normally wait a few days before replying to comments but in view of some of the early comments, I need to re-iterate my position...again.

First of all, my sons and close family know exactly what is going on here. I keep them fully updated on any change of events.

I have also made it clear that I am well aware that because our marriage appears void, I am not obligated to give her any money. But I will continue to do so for two reasons: It is because I want ensure that she is rehoused and has a job before I cut off all payments. She states she has a job this month which I and her elder sister doubt. This gesture of good will also be in my favour if she litigates against me. Irrespective of whether she has a job or not, I will shortly be issuing her an ultimatum to prove to me that her first marriage is void. I will require to see that the marriage certificate contains a forged signature. If she cannot do that, then there will be no more allowance.

My second reason is that she has caused doubt on the validity of her first marriage. I believe she is a bigamist which means our marriage is void. However, where doubt remains, I need to be cautious. But once I issue my ultimatum, all doubt will be removed.

It is very easy to be an armchair critic, but it is my safety and freedom that is at risk. I am told there are many hundreds of foreigners locked up because of trumped up charges. I don't intend to join those statistics.

Regards