Me and My Family
Jan 26th 2020, 12:52 am
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I initially started this thread for help and guidance as you would have seen and was greatful for the responses I received. I continued the blog because of the interest it received. If there were no interest then the likes of P11..,, lovely lady... Waddly... Worm boy et Al would have been dead and buried a lot time ago.
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so you have been conning us...
Jan 26th 2020, 1:13 am
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Jan 26th 2020, 1:29 am
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Your explanation is that Filipino men treat there women badly is not true. Where we live there are Filipino families that treat their women very well, probably better than most foreigners. Admittedly (as you know) we live in a prosperous sub division so this may be different to your circumstances. On the other hand, in my wife’s province, the same goes, they treat their wife’s with respect.
I will reiterate, it’s time you went back to your L/L and her wonderful family, you are clearly missing them and all the shenanigans that transpire.
I will reiterate, it’s time you went back to your L/L and her wonderful family, you are clearly missing them and all the shenanigans that transpire.
Read my reply again. I did NOT say that all filipino s treat their wives badly. I said that in the main foreigners treat them better. Also I mix predominantly with the average filipino and you by your own admission do not.
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Jan 26th 2020, 1:39 am
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Maybe you do not intentionally want to come across as a sanctimonious foreigner who lives in a gated subdivision oblivious to the reality of living in the Philippines.
Maybe you do not intentionally want to come across as a sanctimonious foreigner who lives in a gated subdivision oblivious to the reality of living in the Philippines.
Jan 26th 2020, 1:43 am
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I initially started this thread for help and guidance as you would have seen and was greatful for the responses I received. I continued the blog because of the interest it received. If there were no interest then the likes of P11..,, lovely lady... Waddly... Worm boy et Al would have been dead and buried a lot time ago.
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Jan 26th 2020, 2:00 am
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Jan 26th 2020, 4:39 am
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I heard a story about something that happened ,almost word for word ,except it was a real marriage [her current and long time local husband was a village wedding ]. UK man escaped but family tracked him down . Now she is living life to the full on an Army pension .Maybe true?What do you think?
Jan 26th 2020, 4:41 am
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I'm sometimes reminded of Rudyard Kipling, while the writing may be of a different standard there are elements of The White Man's Burden in P11's depictions of people in the Philippines, and in his responses to different types of behaviour.
Jan 26th 2020, 5:46 am
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I heard a story about something that happened ,almost word for word ,except it was a real marriage [her current and long time local husband was a village wedding ]. UK man escaped but family tracked him down . Now she is living life to the full on an Army pension .Maybe true?What do you think?
I was previously making a provision for a Will and gave all the details to one my brothers. I also made him POC for my wife to sort out pension arrangements etc. In case I predeceased her. He knows of my situation here and will no longer help with any claims against my pension that she can make. She will find it difficult to claim any thing without the help of someone she knows in the UK. However that is not bullet proof.. Forgive the pun. I would need to formally regularise my marital status here which would be nigh on possible in view of the costs Involved.
Finally, I gave my full address here to BI about a week ago so now if she has the means and will... She will know exactly where to find me.
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Jan 26th 2020, 6:58 am
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Thanks for your expansive post...I am not going to quote it here again..(scroll time). It occurs to me that you and perhaps other armchair critics do not live in the Philippines otherwise you will realize that the events you reproduced are due to culture. And nothing else. Having lived here for nearly 5 yrs, I know what the culture is (despite what others may claim). Basically the average Filipino family share whatever they have. As my wife once put it to me....If God has given you a gift, it must be shared. They live in each others houses, come and go as they wish and help themselves to whatever is on offer. They share the responsibilities of their children and if a family is down on its luck, relatives will give their last peso to help. That is their culture. Now, you have outlined the problems I had with the culture, and how I dealt with it. But the credit must go to my wife. She helped me deal with this by fielding their requests after she saw the problems it was causing me. She protected me and the family soon realized how formidable she could be. I had very little problems with the cultural aspect thereafter.
Now these cultural problems pale into insignificance on what has happened over the past year or so. That is a different kettle of fish. I have now dealt with it to my satisfaction and although it may not be over yet, I am well armed to deal with future events.
Finally on a broader aspect, I have constantly stated that my time here has been just about perfect except for the past year or so. What you and others see posted here is what I think may be of interest to the readers, The readers are not interested in the very happy times me and my wife had together as I found out. What sells newspapers? Generally its down to headlines. Readers will not be interested in the mundane. Interesting headlines whether great or bad news sells newspapers.
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Thanks for your expansive post...I am not going to quote it here again..(scroll time). It occurs to me that you and perhaps other armchair critics do not live in the Philippines otherwise you will realize that the events you reproduced are due to culture. And nothing else. Having lived here for nearly 5 yrs, I know what the culture is (despite what others may claim). Basically the average Filipino family share whatever they have. As my wife once put it to me....If God has given you a gift, it must be shared. They live in each others houses, come and go as they wish and help themselves to whatever is on offer. They share the responsibilities of their children and if a family is down on its luck, relatives will give their last peso to help. That is their culture. Now, you have outlined the problems I had with the culture, and how I dealt with it. But the credit must go to my wife. She helped me deal with this by fielding their requests after she saw the problems it was causing me. She protected me and the family soon realized how formidable she could be. I had very little problems with the cultural aspect thereafter.
Now these cultural problems pale into insignificance on what has happened over the past year or so. That is a different kettle of fish. I have now dealt with it to my satisfaction and although it may not be over yet, I am well armed to deal with future events.
Finally on a broader aspect, I have constantly stated that my time here has been just about perfect except for the past year or so. What you and others see posted here is what I think may be of interest to the readers, The readers are not interested in the very happy times me and my wife had together as I found out. What sells newspapers? Generally its down to headlines. Readers will not be interested in the mundane. Interesting headlines whether great or bad news sells newspapers.
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Your wife protected you- she protected herself as less money you gave more for her.
I quite agree with your comments about Expats marrying locals there that on average content with their marriages. just anecdotally I would guess a higher percentage than back in their home country. In your case it seems gullibility and inability to understand local way of doing things explains your role as an enabler.
Maybe with an open mind consider the advice people are trying to give as opposed to being resentful when people point out the obvious.