Me and My Family
#3901
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Re: Me and My Family
Everything is relative here. I understand that it was only P500 and for us a relatively small amount, but in her terms it is a lot, that is 2.5 times her daily wage, that would have been like someone giving me just over $5,000 when I was working, not to be sniffed at.
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It is very odd, as a Brit who'd never dream of asking anybody for money, to see the cultural differences. I wonder if these women would ask a fellow Filipino, or if they do only ask foreigners? Just such a weird idea to me, to meet somebody and a few weeks later ask them for cash!
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It seems I am beating my head against a brick wall with some people. I have full control and have explained patiently why I am still funding her on more than one occasion. She is dancing to my tune and is completely compliant with my wishes. However, I suspect the venomous messages will appear again when I issue the ultimatum later this month. However, I have new ammunition to spike her guns.
As far as your second comment is concerned.....are you suggesting to me that I am lying?
As far as your second comment is concerned.....are you suggesting to me that I am lying?
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Maybe to be open-minded instead of being 'bemused' or 'banging your head against the wall' consider that the comments posted are well-meaning, and maybe like the addict who can't admit he has a problem you are so far in over your head with this woman and local culture, that you are not able to make rational decisions. " Dancing to my tune...spike her guns" maybe just give up this ongoing drama and re-start your life- you have portrayed this woman as crazy, why on earth do you want to be part of her world any longer ? Is it because you are simply afraid deep down? It will just get worse as you get older, hence why I suggested you ask a family member to take charge and make decisions for you.This woman knows you and how to make a gullible foreigner keep funding her- cut off this situation before it gets worse, which it can.
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If you look at the five years of your relationship, everything in your life with her seems to revolve around money. How much is she spending, how much is she stealing from your wallet, how much jewelry is she pawning or selling, how much is her father’s meds, how much is child support, how much is her sister’s college fees, how much does she owe in debts, on and on and on, it’s all about money. It seems you have missed the last five years of your retirement worrying about money, where it is coming from, who is spending it, or who is stealing it. It’s not normal to live like that - leave, go and enjoy yourself.
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If you look at the five years of your relationship, everything in your life with her seems to revolve around money. How much is she spending, how much is she stealing from your wallet, how much jewelry is she pawning or selling, how much is her father’s meds, how much is child support, how much is her sister’s college fees, how much does she owe in debts, on and on and on, it’s all about money. It seems you have missed the last five years of your retirement worrying about money, where it is coming from, who is spending it, or who is stealing it. It’s not normal to live like that - leave, go and enjoy yourself.
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What makes you certain that "she has been put on the right road"? You still pay the bills because you don't want to let go as you said in a recent post.
It is all still about money = rental payments.
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As long as you worry about her you haven't left her. You moved to a new location but brought her with you.
What makes you certain that "she has been put on the right road"? You still pay the bills because you don't want to let go as you said in a recent post.
It is all still about money = rental payments.
What makes you certain that "she has been put on the right road"? You still pay the bills because you don't want to let go as you said in a recent post.
It is all still about money = rental payments.
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As long as you worry about her you haven't left her. You moved to a new location but brought her with you.
What makes you certain that "she has been put on the right road"? You still pay the bills because you don't want to let go as you said in a recent post.
It is all still about money = rental payments.
What makes you certain that "she has been put on the right road"? You still pay the bills because you don't want to let go as you said in a recent post.
It is all still about money = rental payments.
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Re: Me and My Family
"If you look at the five years of your relationship, everything in your life with her seems to revolve around money. How much is she spending, how much is she stealing from your wallet, how much jewelry is she pawning or selling, how much is her father’s meds, how much is child support, how much is her sister’s college fees, how much does she owe in debts, on and on and on, it’s all about money. It seems you have missed the last five years of your retirement worrying about money, where it is coming from, who is spending it, or who is stealing it. It’s not normal to live like that - leave, go and enjoy yourself."
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You have given me a great idea for a board game,Mallory.Let's call it "SURVIVAL".....a game that all the family can play.The winner is the one who whose marriage/money lasts the longest.Like monopoly you throw the dice and can land on "bad squares" and "good squares".Being the Philippines,the bad squares will outweigh the good squares by about four to one.Here are some of the bad things that can befall the less fortunate....
1.The Ox has fallen down the well and broken it's neck.Send 25.000 PHP for new ox to plough the rice fields.
2.Mother has TB ....Mother is dying (posting pictures of God and a glowing stairway to heaven on Facebook)...send 40,000 PHP for hospital treatment immediately.
3.Your wife/girlfriend falsely accuses you of rape and battery and has you thrown in jail (please pay 50,000 PHP to regain your liberty).
4.(non-existant) Auntie's house in Zamboanga has been devastated by a tornado.Please send 30,000 for building materials.
5.iPAD has been stolen ..please send 15,000 PHP for new iPAD.
I could go on and on and on.....
Other minor old favourites like "broken fone screen"...."papa's tricycle is broken" and "aeroplane fare needed to visit dying Aunt in CDO" will all be there for sure.
Now on to the "good squares"............mmmmmm.....let me think.I maybe some time.
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You have given me a great idea for a board game,Mallory.Let's call it "SURVIVAL".....a game that all the family can play.The winner is the one who whose marriage/money lasts the longest.Like monopoly you throw the dice and can land on "bad squares" and "good squares".Being the Philippines,the bad squares will outweigh the good squares by about four to one.Here are some of the bad things that can befall the less fortunate....
1.The Ox has fallen down the well and broken it's neck.Send 25.000 PHP for new ox to plough the rice fields.
2.Mother has TB ....Mother is dying (posting pictures of God and a glowing stairway to heaven on Facebook)...send 40,000 PHP for hospital treatment immediately.
3.Your wife/girlfriend falsely accuses you of rape and battery and has you thrown in jail (please pay 50,000 PHP to regain your liberty).
4.(non-existant) Auntie's house in Zamboanga has been devastated by a tornado.Please send 30,000 for building materials.
5.iPAD has been stolen ..please send 15,000 PHP for new iPAD.
I could go on and on and on.....
Other minor old favourites like "broken fone screen"...."papa's tricycle is broken" and "aeroplane fare needed to visit dying Aunt in CDO" will all be there for sure.
Now on to the "good squares"............mmmmmm.....let me think.I maybe some time.
Last edited by jaygee68; Jan 23rd 2020 at 8:29 am.
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Re: Me and My Family
Proof is in the pudding. People have made all sorts of reasonable recommendations- yet you can't let go of communicating with her or giving her money/