Me and My Family
Dec 23rd 2019, 1:07 am
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Moving on.....
No new developments since I last posted. Still looking for somewhere more permanent but I am reasonably happy with where I am at present. Therefore no great rush. She (not to sure what to call her now...ex wife maybe) has been very quiet over the last few days. Normally its a daily routine of blowing hot or cold. She is adamant that her first marriage was a sham because she was not there and her signature on the marriage certificate must have been forged. She claims she has taken steps to have that rectified. I understand that she cannot obtain a copy of the certificate to check because of the slightly different name. However, I am going to try and get a copy myself in the very near future and check myself.
Seasons greetings to all.....thanks for your continued support. Hoping 2010 is going to be much better than this year.
Dec 23rd 2019, 4:23 pm
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Re: Me and My Family
Very many thanks SOS and best wishes to you and family for the coming year. Also thanks for your support over the past 12 months or so. Much appreciated.
Moving on.....
No new developments since I last posted. Still looking for somewhere more permanent but I am reasonably happy with where I am at present. Therefore no great rush. She (not to sure what to call her now...ex wife maybe) has been very quiet over the last few days. Normally its a daily routine of blowing hot or cold. She is adamant that her first marriage was a sham because she was not there and her signature on the marriage certificate must have been forged. She claims she has taken steps to have that rectified. I understand that she cannot obtain a copy of the certificate to check because of the slightly different name. However, I am going to try and get a copy myself in the very near future and check myself.
Seasons greetings to all.....thanks for your continued support. Hoping 2010 is going to be much better than this year.
Moving on.....
No new developments since I last posted. Still looking for somewhere more permanent but I am reasonably happy with where I am at present. Therefore no great rush. She (not to sure what to call her now...ex wife maybe) has been very quiet over the last few days. Normally its a daily routine of blowing hot or cold. She is adamant that her first marriage was a sham because she was not there and her signature on the marriage certificate must have been forged. She claims she has taken steps to have that rectified. I understand that she cannot obtain a copy of the certificate to check because of the slightly different name. However, I am going to try and get a copy myself in the very near future and check myself.
Seasons greetings to all.....thanks for your continued support. Hoping 2010 is going to be much better than this year.
Dec 23rd 2019, 4:31 pm
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Re: Me and My Family
Do you ever think back and wish that you had tried to work on your first marriage. That you would see your sons, and still be in the family home. Or was this saga worth it to you? You don’t have to answer, I just was curious if you ever look back and think WTH was I thinking.
Dec 23rd 2019, 8:25 pm
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Do you ever think back and wish that you had tried to work on your first marriage. That you would see your sons, and still be in the family home. Or was this saga worth it to you? You don’t have to answer, I just was curious if you ever look back and think WTH was I thinking.
Marriages go through phases. They can drift apart a bit but one can work to bring back a closeness that had diminished.
Dec 24th 2019, 1:53 am
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Do you ever think back and wish that you had tried to work on your first marriage. That you would see your sons, and still be in the family home. Or was this saga worth it to you? You don’t have to answer, I just was curious if you ever look back and think WTH was I thinking.
Merry Xmas to all.
Dec 24th 2019, 3:02 am
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Greetings and Salutations!
Thought I would post a reply to the comments on my first marriage.
I was married to my first wife for 42 years and it took a long time for me to leave her. About a year I guess. We had drifted apart when our sons left home to go to uni and essentially lived separate lives like lodgers under the same roof. We had many talks about our relationship over the years which worked but only for a few weeks. She was content with her lot, but I was unhappy. For the final year together I became close to an alcoholic (I brewed my own wine) and drank a couple of bottles a night. I started to hit the bottle at about 10.30 when she went to bed. Things got worse when my business started failing and I knew I couldn't go on living the way I was. I am not proud of how I left her. I made a decision to leave her in November before I came here but thought it would ruin her and the boys Xmas so I left in January. She was shocked when I told her and left a couple of days later.
I stayed in a friends B + B for about 6 weeks ruminating on what to do. I have an American friend in the US who invited me over to help write a book about our time in NATO and the shenanigans that went on there in Italy. A friend in Spain invited me over to live there but my eyes where elsewhere. The Far East. Why? Because its cheap and the weather is tropical. I decided on the Philippines and my plan was to visit a few places to have a look and settle down. I fancied a nice place close to the beach. Then my then Lovely Lady persuaded me to meet her on her return to the Philippines from Kuwait. But she was coming back in March and begged me not to go until she arrived back here. I agreed and the rest is history as they say.
During my stay in the B+B for those few weeks, I remained in contact with my wife and hoping she would make an approach to fix our marriage. She didn't but I don't think it would have made much difference anyway. We are not in contact anymore and she has a bf. I am pleased for her. My two boys have supported the both of us in equal measure and for that I am grateful.
Would I do all this again? Damn right I would. Ok...I have WTF moments but I cannot emphasis how brilliant the first 3 years were. Yes...I still have strong feelings for her and I feel sorry for her tbh . I certainly miss my house by the sea and the wonderful friends I made. I miss her family also.
But I am now here and have wonderful friends around me. The family I live with treat me like one of their family and cannot do enough for me. I have invites around to MikeK1 place for sunday dinners now and then which is most appreciated. He and his beautiful wife have invited me around for Xmas dinner tomorrow afternoon which I am looking forward to. I am slowly rebuilding my life.
Xmas is now upon us and the family here is busy getting ready preparing for the festivities tonight. On Boxing day I am escorting a lady to some sort festival just down the road. A Xmas party has been organized on the 28th at the local sub division and heaven knows what happening at my local resto-bar tonight. Much mirth and merriment I guess.
So...on that festive note, I wish you all a very merry Xmas and great things for the New Year. Thanks again for your continued support!
Thought I would post a reply to the comments on my first marriage.
I was married to my first wife for 42 years and it took a long time for me to leave her. About a year I guess. We had drifted apart when our sons left home to go to uni and essentially lived separate lives like lodgers under the same roof. We had many talks about our relationship over the years which worked but only for a few weeks. She was content with her lot, but I was unhappy. For the final year together I became close to an alcoholic (I brewed my own wine) and drank a couple of bottles a night. I started to hit the bottle at about 10.30 when she went to bed. Things got worse when my business started failing and I knew I couldn't go on living the way I was. I am not proud of how I left her. I made a decision to leave her in November before I came here but thought it would ruin her and the boys Xmas so I left in January. She was shocked when I told her and left a couple of days later.
I stayed in a friends B + B for about 6 weeks ruminating on what to do. I have an American friend in the US who invited me over to help write a book about our time in NATO and the shenanigans that went on there in Italy. A friend in Spain invited me over to live there but my eyes where elsewhere. The Far East. Why? Because its cheap and the weather is tropical. I decided on the Philippines and my plan was to visit a few places to have a look and settle down. I fancied a nice place close to the beach. Then my then Lovely Lady persuaded me to meet her on her return to the Philippines from Kuwait. But she was coming back in March and begged me not to go until she arrived back here. I agreed and the rest is history as they say.
During my stay in the B+B for those few weeks, I remained in contact with my wife and hoping she would make an approach to fix our marriage. She didn't but I don't think it would have made much difference anyway. We are not in contact anymore and she has a bf. I am pleased for her. My two boys have supported the both of us in equal measure and for that I am grateful.
Would I do all this again? Damn right I would. Ok...I have WTF moments but I cannot emphasis how brilliant the first 3 years were. Yes...I still have strong feelings for her and I feel sorry for her tbh . I certainly miss my house by the sea and the wonderful friends I made. I miss her family also.
But I am now here and have wonderful friends around me. The family I live with treat me like one of their family and cannot do enough for me. I have invites around to MikeK1 place for sunday dinners now and then which is most appreciated. He and his beautiful wife have invited me around for Xmas dinner tomorrow afternoon which I am looking forward to. I am slowly rebuilding my life.
Xmas is now upon us and the family here is busy getting ready preparing for the festivities tonight. On Boxing day I am escorting a lady to some sort festival just down the road. A Xmas party has been organized on the 28th at the local sub division and heaven knows what happening at my local resto-bar tonight. Much mirth and merriment I guess.
So...on that festive note, I wish you all a very merry Xmas and great things for the New Year. Thanks again for your continued support!
Dec 24th 2019, 7:35 am
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Very many thanks SOS and best wishes to you and family for the coming year. Also thanks for your support over the past 12 months or so. Much appreciated.
Moving on.....
No new developments since I last posted. Still looking for somewhere more permanent but I am reasonably happy with where I am at present. Therefore no great rush. She (not to sure what to call her now...ex wife maybe) has been very quiet over the last few days. Normally its a daily routine of blowing hot or cold. She is adamant that her first marriage was a sham because she was not there and her signature on the marriage certificate must have been forged. She claims she has taken steps to have that rectified. I understand that she cannot obtain a copy of the certificate to check because of the slightly different name. However, I am going to try and get a copy myself in the very near future and check myself.
Seasons greetings to all.....thanks for your continued support. Hoping 2010 is going to be much better than this year.
Moving on.....
No new developments since I last posted. Still looking for somewhere more permanent but I am reasonably happy with where I am at present. Therefore no great rush. She (not to sure what to call her now...ex wife maybe) has been very quiet over the last few days. Normally its a daily routine of blowing hot or cold. She is adamant that her first marriage was a sham because she was not there and her signature on the marriage certificate must have been forged. She claims she has taken steps to have that rectified. I understand that she cannot obtain a copy of the certificate to check because of the slightly different name. However, I am going to try and get a copy myself in the very near future and check myself.
Seasons greetings to all.....thanks for your continued support. Hoping 2010 is going to be much better than this year.
Dec 24th 2019, 8:16 am
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Dec 24th 2019, 9:13 am
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Dec 24th 2019, 3:36 pm
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Merry Christmas to you too, and we wish you a far less dramatic 2020.
Remember - what happens in the resto-bar stays in the resto-bar (give peace a chance: no Facebook!)
Dec 27th 2019, 8:50 am
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fair enough except based on past postings it appears she has ability to manipulate you and also after all this drama best to get away from it. since you have shown there was no legal marriage except for filing something to confirm that what is the concern ?
Dec 27th 2019, 11:36 am
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What is the concern? She states that her first marriage is a sham and therefore it is void. I intend to try and obtain a copy of the certificate and check for her forged signature on 2 Jan. That will end all doubt. But I am sure it is all lies. She states that her father has consulted an attorney concerning an agreement I made with the owner on paying their rent. We will see how that goes. I told the owner that I have terminated the agreement and she made no objection. She states she is filing a case for libel against me. This is where my messages to a couple of friend s got posted on fb. I am told she does not have a leg to stand on. Filing a case for economic hardship caused by me. That wont wash. Filing a case for physiological (sp) violence against her. Really. Today the word Abandonment reared its ugly head. In January she has to move out of the house. She says she is staying and I must persuade the owner to re-rent it to her. Its a big 4 bedroom house.....She can go and live with her parents as far as I am concerned. So you see....for me it is important to know what the enemy is doing. And she loves telling me. I hit back with a potential case for bigamy. That normally keeps her quiet.
Regards
Dec 27th 2019, 11:42 am
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Manipulate? I think scam is a better word. And she is certainly very clever at that.
What is the concern? She states that her first marriage is a sham and therefore it is void. I intend to try and obtain a copy of the certificate and check for her forged signature on 2 Jan. That will end all doubt. But I am sure it is all lies. She states that her father has consulted an attorney concerning an agreement I made with the owner on paying their rent. We will see how that goes. I told the owner that I have terminated the agreement and she made no objection. She states she is filing a case for libel against me. This is where my messages to a couple of friend s got posted on fb. I am told she does not have a leg to stand on. Filing a case for economic hardship caused by me. That wont wash. Filing a case for physiological (sp) violence against her. Really. Today the word Abandonment reared its ugly head. In January she has to move out of the house. She says she is staying and I must persuade the owner to re-rent it to her. Its a big 4 bedroom house.....She can go and live with her parents as far as I am concerned. So you see....for me it is important to know what the enemy is doing. And she loves telling me. I hit back with a potential case for bigamy. That normally keeps her quiet.
Regards
What is the concern? She states that her first marriage is a sham and therefore it is void. I intend to try and obtain a copy of the certificate and check for her forged signature on 2 Jan. That will end all doubt. But I am sure it is all lies. She states that her father has consulted an attorney concerning an agreement I made with the owner on paying their rent. We will see how that goes. I told the owner that I have terminated the agreement and she made no objection. She states she is filing a case for libel against me. This is where my messages to a couple of friend s got posted on fb. I am told she does not have a leg to stand on. Filing a case for economic hardship caused by me. That wont wash. Filing a case for physiological (sp) violence against her. Really. Today the word Abandonment reared its ugly head. In January she has to move out of the house. She says she is staying and I must persuade the owner to re-rent it to her. Its a big 4 bedroom house.....She can go and live with her parents as far as I am concerned. So you see....for me it is important to know what the enemy is doing. And she loves telling me. I hit back with a potential case for bigamy. That normally keeps her quiet.
Regards
Hope you had a nice Christmas P11 and that the cyclone wasn't near you.
