Me and My Family
#3616
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Re: Me and My Family
nonthaburi
"If the past four years teaches you one thing , let it be that you're not in the uk anymore. You're still applying uk thinking to your situation, and until you stop doing that your problems will continue"
Very well put. Unless P11 is a masochist he will do well to follow your summation.
"If the past four years teaches you one thing , let it be that you're not in the uk anymore. You're still applying uk thinking to your situation, and until you stop doing that your problems will continue"
Very well put. Unless P11 is a masochist he will do well to follow your summation.
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Re: Me and My Family
Contact is kept to a minimum and is necessary at this point. Eventually I assume it will go to a Family Court who will decide on her alimony. I believe that lawyers are not required at the Family Court. She is the one that has been threatening lawyers etc whereas I have not except for advice only which is free. Now that I have evidence of bigamy, which she denies, she is now dancing to my tune. Since my disclosure, all threats have disappeared and she is now compliant.
Regards
Regards
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Re: Me and My Family
Greetings...
Many points raised by various people so I will try to address them as follows:
Millhouse.. ****getting married to a complete nutter***** She wasn't when I married her. I certainly would not have married her if she had portrayed this behavior prior to marriage. I have also made it clear to her that I could put her in jail if I so wished. I have stated this here earlier. This is the reason she has stopped the various threats against me.
Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
Nonthaburi... My comment re laws is certainly not laughable. Yes, I agree that the locals tend to ignore the laws in many cases, but we are foreigners. Locals cannot be deported but we can. Or have visa extensions declined. Many foreigners are in jail because of trumped up charges by their wives and gf's. I intend to make sure that will not happen to me.
Morpeth.... **Any contact is ill-advisable*** I believe that to end this relationship it requires to be done as harmonious as possible. This requires contact. Yes, you could say it wasn't harmonious from her with the threats etc initially But that does mean I have to stoop to her level.
Moving on....
Tomorrow she will be going to the big city again to file a case to have her original marriage void as illegal. The place where the marriage was carried out has asked for all the documentation related to that marriage and will be discussed with her and the attorney tomorrow. Yes....most probably lies. I am more interested in my clarification tomorrow.
Regards
Many points raised by various people so I will try to address them as follows:
Millhouse.. ****getting married to a complete nutter***** She wasn't when I married her. I certainly would not have married her if she had portrayed this behavior prior to marriage. I have also made it clear to her that I could put her in jail if I so wished. I have stated this here earlier. This is the reason she has stopped the various threats against me.
Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
Nonthaburi... My comment re laws is certainly not laughable. Yes, I agree that the locals tend to ignore the laws in many cases, but we are foreigners. Locals cannot be deported but we can. Or have visa extensions declined. Many foreigners are in jail because of trumped up charges by their wives and gf's. I intend to make sure that will not happen to me.
Morpeth.... **Any contact is ill-advisable*** I believe that to end this relationship it requires to be done as harmonious as possible. This requires contact. Yes, you could say it wasn't harmonious from her with the threats etc initially But that does mean I have to stoop to her level.
Moving on....
Tomorrow she will be going to the big city again to file a case to have her original marriage void as illegal. The place where the marriage was carried out has asked for all the documentation related to that marriage and will be discussed with her and the attorney tomorrow. Yes....most probably lies. I am more interested in my clarification tomorrow.
Regards
#3619
Re: Me and My Family
Greetings...
Many points raised by various people so I will try to address them as follows:
Millhouse.. ****getting married to a complete nutter***** She wasn't when I married her. I certainly would not have married her if she had portrayed this behavior prior to marriage. I have also made it clear to her that I could put her in jail if I so wished. I have stated this here earlier. This is the reason she has stopped the various threats against me.
Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
Nonthaburi... My comment re laws is certainly not laughable. Yes, I agree that the locals tend to ignore the laws in many cases, but we are foreigners. Locals cannot be deported but we can. Or have visa extensions declined. Many foreigners are in jail because of trumped up charges by their wives and gf's. I intend to make sure that will not happen to me.
Morpeth.... **Any contact is ill-advisable*** I believe that to end this relationship it requires to be done as harmonious as possible. This requires contact. Yes, you could say it wasn't harmonious from her with the threats etc initially But that does mean I have to stoop to her level.
Moving on....
Tomorrow she will be going to the big city again to file a case to have her original marriage void as illegal. The place where the marriage was carried out has asked for all the documentation related to that marriage and will be discussed with her and the attorney tomorrow. Yes....most probably lies. I am more interested in my clarification tomorrow.
Regards
Many points raised by various people so I will try to address them as follows:
Millhouse.. ****getting married to a complete nutter***** She wasn't when I married her. I certainly would not have married her if she had portrayed this behavior prior to marriage. I have also made it clear to her that I could put her in jail if I so wished. I have stated this here earlier. This is the reason she has stopped the various threats against me.
Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
Nonthaburi... My comment re laws is certainly not laughable. Yes, I agree that the locals tend to ignore the laws in many cases, but we are foreigners. Locals cannot be deported but we can. Or have visa extensions declined. Many foreigners are in jail because of trumped up charges by their wives and gf's. I intend to make sure that will not happen to me.
Morpeth.... **Any contact is ill-advisable*** I believe that to end this relationship it requires to be done as harmonious as possible. This requires contact. Yes, you could say it wasn't harmonious from her with the threats etc initially But that does mean I have to stoop to her level.
Moving on....
Tomorrow she will be going to the big city again to file a case to have her original marriage void as illegal. The place where the marriage was carried out has asked for all the documentation related to that marriage and will be discussed with her and the attorney tomorrow. Yes....most probably lies. I am more interested in my clarification tomorrow.
Regards
#3620
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I agree and not only a fruitcake, but a lying, deceitful, scheming, manipulator. Many have said so throughout the thread.
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Regards
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Obviously we are reading different threads to the one I actually wrote and experienced. I reiterate... The first 3 years were perfect in the main and there were no red flags at the wedding. It was a perfect day in a great setting with good friends and family in attendance.
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But why look back on a stoney path, look ahead to the future. Buddhist saying.
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Re: Me and My Family
Greetings...
Many points raised by various people so I will try to address them as follows:
Millhouse.. ****getting married to a complete nutter***** She wasn't when I married her. I certainly would not have married her if she had portrayed this behavior prior to marriage. I have also made it clear to her that I could put her in jail if I so wished. I have stated this here earlier. This is the reason she has stopped the various threats against me.
Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
Nonthaburi... My comment re laws is certainly not laughable. Yes, I agree that the locals tend to ignore the laws in many cases, but we are foreigners. Locals cannot be deported but we can. Or have visa extensions declined. Many foreigners are in jail because of trumped up charges by their wives and gf's. I intend to make sure that will not happen to me.
Morpeth.... **Any contact is ill-advisable*** I believe that to end this relationship it requires to be done as harmonious as possible. This requires contact. Yes, you could say it wasn't harmonious from her with the threats etc initially But that does mean I have to stoop to her level.
Moving on....
Tomorrow she will be going to the big city again to file a case to have her original marriage void as illegal. The place where the marriage was carried out has asked for all the documentation related to that marriage and will be discussed with her and the attorney tomorrow. Yes....most probably lies. I am more interested in my clarification tomorrow.
Regards
Many points raised by various people so I will try to address them as follows:
Millhouse.. ****getting married to a complete nutter***** She wasn't when I married her. I certainly would not have married her if she had portrayed this behavior prior to marriage. I have also made it clear to her that I could put her in jail if I so wished. I have stated this here earlier. This is the reason she has stopped the various threats against me.
Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
Nonthaburi... My comment re laws is certainly not laughable. Yes, I agree that the locals tend to ignore the laws in many cases, but we are foreigners. Locals cannot be deported but we can. Or have visa extensions declined. Many foreigners are in jail because of trumped up charges by their wives and gf's. I intend to make sure that will not happen to me.
Morpeth.... **Any contact is ill-advisable*** I believe that to end this relationship it requires to be done as harmonious as possible. This requires contact. Yes, you could say it wasn't harmonious from her with the threats etc initially But that does mean I have to stoop to her level.
Moving on....
Tomorrow she will be going to the big city again to file a case to have her original marriage void as illegal. The place where the marriage was carried out has asked for all the documentation related to that marriage and will be discussed with her and the attorney tomorrow. Yes....most probably lies. I am more interested in my clarification tomorrow.
Regards
#3626
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May I very politely suggest you go back to the beginning of this thread and read all your posts again. You are most definitely wearing rose coloured specs if you believe this. Also I'd hazard a guess that when Millhouse said Wedding he was possibly meaning the lead up to the wedding rather than the actual day but I'm fairly sure you posted about various things on the day which were most certainly not unicorns farting rainbows.
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#3627
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I'm not going to get into some long winded essay about why I believe you to be wrong but I will say this.
I've managed to survive half my life in Asia thus far, still married to the same woman I might add. I've yet to find myself in the position you are .
Your comment re laws is laughable, considering the care that you ex showed regarding the law. And of course I'm sure that everyone in the Philippines follows the law to the letter, no one breaks the law, there are no traffic violations, no corruption and so on and so on ad infinitum.
If the past four years teaches you one thing , let it be that you're not in the uk anymore. You're still applying uk thinking to your situation, and until you stop doing that your problems will continue.
I don't want to sound harsh because you seem like a nice guy, but there's a saying about nice guys and you'd do well to remember that.
I've managed to survive half my life in Asia thus far, still married to the same woman I might add. I've yet to find myself in the position you are .
Your comment re laws is laughable, considering the care that you ex showed regarding the law. And of course I'm sure that everyone in the Philippines follows the law to the letter, no one breaks the law, there are no traffic violations, no corruption and so on and so on ad infinitum.
If the past four years teaches you one thing , let it be that you're not in the uk anymore. You're still applying uk thinking to your situation, and until you stop doing that your problems will continue.
I don't want to sound harsh because you seem like a nice guy, but there's a saying about nice guys and you'd do well to remember that.
#3628
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May I very politely suggest you go back to the beginning of this thread and read all your posts again. You are most definitely wearing rose coloured specs if you believe this. Also I'd hazard a guess that when Millhouse said Wedding he was possibly meaning the lead up to the wedding rather than the actual day but I'm fairly sure you posted about various things on the day which were most certainly not unicorns farting rainbows.
Last edited by moneypenny20; Dec 4th 2019 at 1:08 pm. Reason: Fixed quote
#3629
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Red Ape. I intend to clarify the Abandonment Law tomorrow with a different attorney. https://attorney.org.ph/legal-news/2...n-and-children as elaborated by RA9262. Also on what if anything needs to be done to clarify my position on a void marriage and possible alimony as a co-habituating couple. But notwithstanding that, my rental agreement expires on Jan 22nd and she expects to have a job by then (her words) I intend to give support until that time. After that, she will be on her own depending on what advice I receive.
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Re: Me and My Family
May I very politely suggest you go back to the beginning of this thread and read all your posts again. You are most definitely wearing rose coloured specs if you believe this. Also I'd hazard a guess that when Millhouse said Wedding he was possibly meaning the lead up to the wedding rather than the actual day but I'm fairly sure you posted about various things on the day which were most certainly not unicorns farting rainbows.
Regards
Last edited by moneypenny20; Dec 4th 2019 at 1:10 pm. Reason: Fixed quote.