Me and My Family
Oct 9th 2019, 1:30 pm
#2971
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Location: Buraydah , Saudi Arabia
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Re: Me and My Family
Thanks for your suggestion re brown outs. I have here a Snap-On starter/charger all singing and dancing power pack which I used professionally in the UK. I also used to have a jolly good invertor for professional use. This saw to our immediate needs during brown-outs etc. Sadly, during one of my wifes apoplexic fits when I left her for 17 days, the invertor was damaged I assume by being thrown around. One of many things that was damaged. Yes, an invertor is cheap to replace, but I refuse to do so. I use my "load" and wifi hotspot for internet purposes. For some unknown reason, she cannot get wifi hotspot on her two phones.....much to her chagrin.
Moving on....
Thanks for your views on the 8k allowance. I took this up from an American friend of mine here and that is the allowance he gives his wife. But there are 4 of them in the house which includes a 2 yr old child and teenage kid who is a relative. But in reality, it is more than the allowance I give her. When I go for my morning walk to the beach and market, I am normally commanded to get some eggs, bread or whatever which I do. I have no problem with that. I find it strange btw to buy 2 potatoes, or 3 carrots rather than by weight. But that is an aside. She is a damn fine cook but rarely cooks. What I mean by that is lumpia, cakes, pizzas etc on which she excels. My breakfast is normally cooked similar to an English breakfast,or cornflakes lunch is a snack.....could be an omelet as an example and evening meal is normally bread and jam. We rarely eat out because we cannot afford it except for something barbecued on the beach. I don't have a huge appetite because of the heat and humidity. So, we do not feast on expensive meals. Perhaps that is why the allowance is comparatively low compared to others.
Finally. The creditor is now badgering my wife about the repayment and is perhaps seen as the "weakest link". It may well be she has not dealt with a foreigner before and is not so confident. Again, I have made another excuse today and mentioned politely that I am dealing with it and not my wife. I just know that eventually it will get to her and the first thing that will happen is that her phone will fly across the room. Then it will take a couple of hours to calm her down and stop other articles being thrown about.
Tampo is now finished again. But there again, it is about this time of the month when her daughters want 2k for school (fathers phone repayments?) and her 2k Paluwagon (sp) is also due.
Regards
Moving on....
Thanks for your views on the 8k allowance. I took this up from an American friend of mine here and that is the allowance he gives his wife. But there are 4 of them in the house which includes a 2 yr old child and teenage kid who is a relative. But in reality, it is more than the allowance I give her. When I go for my morning walk to the beach and market, I am normally commanded to get some eggs, bread or whatever which I do. I have no problem with that. I find it strange btw to buy 2 potatoes, or 3 carrots rather than by weight. But that is an aside. She is a damn fine cook but rarely cooks. What I mean by that is lumpia, cakes, pizzas etc on which she excels. My breakfast is normally cooked similar to an English breakfast,or cornflakes lunch is a snack.....could be an omelet as an example and evening meal is normally bread and jam. We rarely eat out because we cannot afford it except for something barbecued on the beach. I don't have a huge appetite because of the heat and humidity. So, we do not feast on expensive meals. Perhaps that is why the allowance is comparatively low compared to others.
Finally. The creditor is now badgering my wife about the repayment and is perhaps seen as the "weakest link". It may well be she has not dealt with a foreigner before and is not so confident. Again, I have made another excuse today and mentioned politely that I am dealing with it and not my wife. I just know that eventually it will get to her and the first thing that will happen is that her phone will fly across the room. Then it will take a couple of hours to calm her down and stop other articles being thrown about.
Tampo is now finished again. But there again, it is about this time of the month when her daughters want 2k for school (fathers phone repayments?) and her 2k Paluwagon (sp) is also due.
Regards
Why not just go to the beach , have a few beers , and tell her you'll be back when she grows up and acts like an adult.
I just don't get it. Life is too short to be putting up with this kind of rubbish.
Oct 9th 2019, 1:54 pm
#2972
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Re: Me and My Family
Time after time you do this. You enable her manipulative behaviour. Why?
Why not just go to the beach , have a few beers , and tell her you'll be back when she grows up and acts like an adult.
I just don't get it. Life is too short to be putting up with this kind of rubbish.
Why not just go to the beach , have a few beers , and tell her you'll be back when she grows up and acts like an adult.
I just don't get it. Life is too short to be putting up with this kind of rubbish.
Regards
Oct 9th 2019, 2:11 pm
#2973
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It is very easy for you to say that. She needs restraining to limit the amount of damage she will cause.. I do not wish to come back and see the devastation that she can cause....and more. Perhaps I am wrong, but I prefer to physically restrain her until she collapses into a heap. Which she normally does. She sometimes goes into a zombie like trance which is quite unnerving.
Regards
Regards
Oct 9th 2019, 2:14 pm
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Re: Me and My Family
It is very easy for you to say that. She needs restraining to limit the amount of damage she will cause.. I do not wish to come back and see the devastation that she can cause....and more. Perhaps I am wrong, but I prefer to physically restrain her until she collapses into a heap. Which she normally does. She sometimes goes into a zombie like trance which is quite unnerving.
Regards
Regards
Oct 9th 2019, 2:23 pm
#2975
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Oct 9th 2019, 2:38 pm
#2977
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Re: Me and My Family
Not of her, but the damage and inconvenience she can cause. One occasion when I first left her, and obviously not present, it took 6 people inc her parents 2 hrs to clean up the mess. She was found comatose on the floor. Not good....
Regards
Regards
Oct 9th 2019, 3:21 pm
#2978
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Re: Me and My Family
To every reader to this thread, I implore you to stop 'feeding' this man who has made his bed - multiple times! - hates sleeping in it, but does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to solve the situation!
Please, please, please write no more comments. They are a complete waste of time!
I wish P11 well, but it won't end well because there are none so blind as those who won't see! Or either listen in this case!
Of course you can drop by and read up on the latest confirmations of his stupidity. But don't comment. Not a word. You only feed the addiction!
Please, please, please write no more comments. They are a complete waste of time!
I wish P11 well, but it won't end well because there are none so blind as those who won't see! Or either listen in this case!
Of course you can drop by and read up on the latest confirmations of his stupidity. But don't comment. Not a word. You only feed the addiction!
Oct 9th 2019, 3:35 pm
#2979
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Re: Me and My Family
To every reader to this thread, I implore you to stop 'feeding' this man who has made his bed - multiple times! - hates sleeping in it, but does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to solve the situation!
Please, please, please write no more comments. They are a complete waste of time!
I wish P11 well, but it won't end well because there are none so blind as those who won't see! Or either listen in this case!
Of course you can drop by and read up on the latest confirmations of his stupidity. But don't comment. Not a word. You only feed the addiction!
Please, please, please write no more comments. They are a complete waste of time!
I wish P11 well, but it won't end well because there are none so blind as those who won't see! Or either listen in this case!
Of course you can drop by and read up on the latest confirmations of his stupidity. But don't comment. Not a word. You only feed the addiction!
Oct 9th 2019, 3:54 pm
#2980
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Re: Me and My Family
It is very easy for you to say that. She needs restraining to limit the amount of damage she will cause.. I do not wish to come back and see the devastation that she can cause....and more. Perhaps I am wrong, but I prefer to physically restrain her until she collapses into a heap. Which she normally does. She sometimes goes into a zombie like trance which is quite unnerving.
Regards
Regards
Oct 9th 2019, 4:02 pm
#2981
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Re: Me and My Family
Last edited by Feidlimid; Oct 9th 2019 at 4:09 pm. Reason: left out key aspect
Oct 9th 2019, 4:30 pm
#2982
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Re: Me and My Family
Dear P11,
Worthy relationships rely on friendship, understanding, kindness, faith and trust..and perhaps love. From all I've read of your missives none of these seem to feature in the life you share with this LL. Do you not yearn for a more peaceful life? you haven't got many more years of being (statiscally) and you really ought to be enjoying the time you have left I don't know how you sleep restfully at night. One more thing- you and she will never ever be able to get back to that original state of bliss. You will always be suspicious and untrustful of her and she'll always have you wrapped round her little finger. Don't be such a doormat.
Worthy relationships rely on friendship, understanding, kindness, faith and trust..and perhaps love. From all I've read of your missives none of these seem to feature in the life you share with this LL. Do you not yearn for a more peaceful life? you haven't got many more years of being (statiscally) and you really ought to be enjoying the time you have left I don't know how you sleep restfully at night. One more thing- you and she will never ever be able to get back to that original state of bliss. You will always be suspicious and untrustful of her and she'll always have you wrapped round her little finger. Don't be such a doormat.
Oct 9th 2019, 5:51 pm
#2983
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Re: Me and My Family
I am trying to play the white man. Now if the loan is genuine then yes I will try to refinance. 19k pm is crippling. But I would only consider that if I see an income from her and she makes an honest attempt to contribute. If that does not happen then I have to consider the loan a fraud and default. At the moment the creditor is very patient about the defaulted interest payment.
Moving on..
Tampo is that she cannot budget on 8k pm for groceries etc. I pay utilities and rent. Am I being fair allowing her only 8k pm? Doesn't allow much room for her to skim. I have been invited to do the shopping in future. No problem
Moving on..
Tampo is that she cannot budget on 8k pm for groceries etc. I pay utilities and rent. Am I being fair allowing her only 8k pm? Doesn't allow much room for her to skim. I have been invited to do the shopping in future. No problem
Oct 9th 2019, 6:58 pm
#2984
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Re: Me and My Family
How many other British 70-somethings would jeopardise their savings and their remaining years for such a proven duplicitous, likely adulterous, grasping 30-something? One who has an utterly unbreakable instinct to provide for her REAL family? Perhaps more than a few, and P11 is one of them. But when we go back to post#1, he actually was well aware of these scams but decided he knew better. Sadly, all he has done is to end up as yet another example of a white man thinking with his little head, oblivious to the professional scamsters on Facebook who reel them in like sardines.
This thread should be compulsory reading for all those tragic middle-aged Brits who think that young Asian women find them attractive.
This thread should be compulsory reading for all those tragic middle-aged Brits who think that young Asian women find them attractive.
Oct 9th 2019, 8:37 pm
#2985
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Re: Me and My Family
How many other British 70-somethings would jeopardise their savings and their remaining years for such a proven duplicitous, likely adulterous, grasping 30-something? One who has an utterly unbreakable instinct to provide for her REAL family? Perhaps more than a few, and P11 is one of them. But when we go back to post#1, he actually was well aware of these scams but decided he knew better. Sadly, all he has done is to end up as yet another example of a white man thinking with his little head, oblivious to the professional scamsters on Facebook who reel them in like sardines.
This thread should be compulsory reading for all those tragic middle-aged Brits who think that young Asian women find them attractive.
This thread should be compulsory reading for all those tragic middle-aged Brits who think that young Asian women find them attractive.
