Rete

I don't have to imagine the hurt that you felt with her text that the bus had left. I fully understand.

Her action has told you all that you needed to know. Whether she didn't leave enough time to text you to meet her because she was running late (sure this will be the excuse) or she just pacifying you with "I'll see at the station" doesn't matter. She cared little for you, your feelings, your needs or your desires. Use the week wisely, P11. And don't use the dogs as an excuse.

Millhouse

Ah, forgot about the pups. You can't leave them.

The new girl needs to like pups.

Stokkevn

Thought I was imaginative but you definitely out did me on that one, not sure what 'whatsapp' is but info banked just in case.

Philosophical 11

Greetings....

Anti-climax day. But first may I thank those who made kind remarks and offered words of encouragement. Also the PM's. Guess it makes a very welcome change.

Ok, the creditor did not contact me today which was very surprising. I am sure that will happen tomorrow. When she does, I will again ask my wife about the 15k to see if it has arrived. Of course I doubt if it will ever arrive. I am not sure how the creditor will react but as per usual, she will be initially dealt with politely and apologetically. Her fb pictures show her as a sweet young thing, but I have learnt that appearances can be deceptive. If she plays hard ball ....then she will get the same back. I believe I have the law on my side. Also, she is a distant relative of my wife. But as I say, I have no idea what her reaction will be. Will update as soon as something happens.

Now, I think I know why she left without the usual sometimes tearful goodbyes. When she called, I was supping a beer with a good expat friend of mine and his long term gf. Sadly, this gf was a soul mate if you like with my wife, but turned against my wife when she heard what was going on and what she was doing to me.. They haven't spoke or met since. During the convo with my wife who had asked me if I was still on the beach, I mentioned who I was with. I believe she was angry that I was drinking with them.....she has done this before. Childish? Most definitely. I don't give up on my ex-pat friends because of a spat between the two women. Her excuse for leaving so quickly was because as she got to the terminal the bus was ready to go. Next one was in an hour and she would have been late for work. But....she could have told me she was leaving the house and I could have met her at the terminal. Guess its because she was angry. But that is no excuse.

Today she appears to be contrite. She finished her night shift and then had problems. I knew she and her mate were going to move to another more comfortable bed sit and she went to the new place to move in. But she couldn't because the landlady wanted money up front. I already had made arrangements to transfer money to her account but sadly nothing appeared in my account to transfer to her. This is from BPI Europe. So, she spent a few hours wandering the streets with no-where to stay. She was so upset and tired that she said that she was going to come back here. Still no money arrived to transfer. I then had to borrow from a friend and sent it to her via Palawan. She got moved in later this afternoon.

During this time, she was constantly messaging me and sounded quite contrite as I mentioned. Certainly no apologies were forthcoming but that is normally the case. Why? Because its always my fault. But that aside, she was very chatty and indeed her normal self. Tonight before she starts work, they have a meeting to attend. She will be told of her future shift arrangements and payment arrangements. I look forward to hearing that. She mentioned a month or so go that it will be 15 days on, 1 day off turnround and then 15 days on alternating between day and night shift. I think she will work overtime to get more time off between shift change. But we will see.

Regards all....and thanks again.

Oh....the watermelon question. Never needed it as I said before, but you need to remember that she has had hormonal problems since January. No amount of watermelons will deal that . Also, with the continuing stress I have been under for the last 9 months or so, I have little interest in that department. However, she is still under medication and will be for the next 2 months. But she is getting better. Thankfully.

Stokkevn

My wife has a few dubious friends ( one who has 2 kids by her cousin ) I don't stop her seeing them, but she does know what I think of them.

My missus can be insensitive at times but she would never do that to me and if I did it to her my voice would be several octaves higher.
I don't often give direct advice on what to do ( 2 ex-wives shows I am not the best roll model ) but I agree with many of the comments above, GET OUT or if you will not do that at least get together an escape box that includes all documents signed by you, any documents relating to your finances and a statement for the local police that you can hand over on the way out of Dodge. Change passwords etc, especially as you said a while ago someone broke into your laptop.

Crystal Dale

P11 will leave if he absolutely knows it's the best thing to do/has no choice therefore there's no need for anyone else to tell him to go and criticise that he hasn't. He's probably getting tired of reading it.

Pollyana

Well pardon us for posting sir

christmasoompa

The beauty of a public forum is that you'll get all sorts commenting on your posts, and can't dictate the responses. If P11 doesn't want opinions or suggestions, then he would simply not post.

moneypenny20

So she was contrite because she wanted more money. Gotcha.

Jerseygirl

I think P11 is quite capable of ‘speaking’ for himself, thank you very much. After all he has been doing very well so far.

Out of interest, what makes you think you are his spokesperson?

mikek1

nonthaburi

Yeah, I was thinking the same.

Millhouse

Philosophical 11

Greetings....

Well as expected, the creditor msg'd me today asking where her 19k is. Contacted my wife who said she was still awaiting a reply from her customer who will not be on-line until tonight. Creditor stated she needed the money urgently and must have it before the end of the week. My wife did not seem at all concerned. Anyway, I am not going to update on this daily unless something interesting materializes.

Her meeting was cancelled last night and therefore we do not know yet how long she will be away. Manager couldn't attend apparently.

During our long chats today, she asked if I can give 380 to her friend today. For a face rejuvenating pack apparently. I reluctantly agreed. I know its only a small amount but every peso counts nowadays. Soon as I finished typing that, a courier pitched up asking for 480 COD for a bag from Lazada. Now, she has got more bags than bras. Yes really! So I turned him away. Informed her and she does not remember ordering a bag.

Frittering money away like this just confirms she does not know the gravity of the situation.

Had a guy pitch up about a week ago asking for a remaining balance of 2k for a salle set. He has been before and mentioned here. She reckons nothing is owing, so I sent him away again.

Cant remember if I have mentioned this before. For the past two months, her 2 daughters have been requiring 1.5k (total) for school activities. Just waiting to see if this is repeated this month. If it is, serious questions will be asked. Could be genuine I suppose, but I am reminded that her father has recently acquired a new mobile phone for 1.25k monthly. Could be coincidental I guess.....but I am always suspicious of anything to do with money. Of course....who can blame me?

All for now

Regards

Millhouse

In your mind, how does a default situation with the loan shark play out?