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She was away overnight at a birthday party and long story short.....we got into an argument about money whilst messaging. Again. First it was about her overspending her monthly allowance and always asking for an advance. That turned to what I believe is a scam she is trying to pull. Here is the scam....decide for yourself. She was making on-line deals with a new seller and placed a number of orders on behalf of her customers. The seller appeared to be a scammer herself ....took the money....and the jewelry never turned up. I saw the messages between her and the seller and then she was blocked. I was also. I could not see how many or how much jewelry was involved. She said about 5 and now she (me) was responsible for the money she received. She said she spoke to the customers who were understanding and could wait for the money. I found out from her order book, that she owes about 160k to her customers. I asked for receipts for the 160k which she must have got when she sent the orders to the seller. She cannot find any of them. Lost them somehow. Yeah....right. But I have a plan to deal with that if and when she starts asking for it. Hopefully she wont and realizes I have rumbled this scam. I am calling it a scam because of the missing receipts. Anyway....big row started when I said I wasn't going to pay. I didn't say why. Then the threats came....she was going to end her life when she got back from the party.

.The next morning, I sent her a msg hoping she was OK etc, and she told me to get out of the house before she gets back. Otherwise she will kill me. First time I have been threatened. I then made the decision to leave....and told her so. She said that if I was gone and hid the knives, she will douse herself in petrol and light a match. I left.I was on a bus when I got the first of many hysterical calls from her. Demanding that I came home so I can watch her burn. The calls kept coming....I told her not to be stupid. Then the last call I could hear was what sounded like petro; or whatever being poured over her. She was screaming and the phone went dead. I immediately tried to call her parents...no luck. Her sister....no luck. So I left msgs. I then called up 2 ex-pat friends who lived nearby to investigate. I got off the bus to return.

Long story short again. Mates turn up and the gate was locked. Once someone legged it over the wall, they found the house locked up. No-one was there I was told. But after carefully looking inside, they found her on the floor. Then her parents pitched up and they broke into the house. She was unconscious but undamaged. She must have used the shower to simulate petrol poured on her. The place was a mess. All my beer bottles were smashed....ornaments and cutlery every where. She probably fainted from hysterics. She has done that before.I got back 2 hrs later and she was alone sleeping on the bed. The place was cleared up. She wanted nothing to do with me and stared as though hypnotized. This morning, she was the same. I tried to speak to her calmly and it resulted into another outburst. Wedding ring thrown across the room with ornaments and was told to divorce her. She again collapsed and I carried her to the bedroom and kept an eye on her. She woke up and I consoled her for about an hour...talking to her. This resulted in much tears by her and holding me tightly. Crisis was now over.....for now.

.Now, the question I ask is why these sudden outbursts....suicide threats etc over the past few months? A week after our wedding she "lost" her wedding ring down the shower plug hole. So she says. Despite all my efforts, I cannot flush it out. I think its sitting in a pawnshop somewhere. Why should a woman who diligently and meticulously plan a wedding want to sell her ring so easily? My theory is....pressure. This pressure is causing suicidal tendencies. Pressure from whom? Maybe her family are demanding too much money from her. Maybe she is trying to buy back the jewelry she has pawned. Or perhaps.....a boyfriend or husband that wants a payoff. If she has been married before as rumoured, she could end up in jail. If she was having an illicit affair with a boyfriend....maybe he is holding her to ransom. Why would she pawn a cheap wedding ring so easily? Probably stole my ATM card and gave it to her bf whom I saw on the CCTV recording. All conjecture.....but very possible.

Now this shocked me...... She has recently been posting selfie pics with comments in Illongo. I have asked an ex-pats gf to translate and it could be she is alluding to an affair. I was astounded that she or anyone would post such a thing on fb if true. She smiled sweetly and said it was normal. Many will know about the affair and don't care....those that know nothing don't care either. I need to get to the bottom of this. My eyes and ears are open and so are my mates here. She appears to be under so much pressure now that its affecting our relationship. When my two mates were trying to get into the house, her father eventually arrived. He was angry with them even though they were on the scene first and trying to help. He was angry with me when he visited later. Why blame me.....she told me to leave. Its her probably scamming not me. Its me paying off his 35k overdue rent bill. And I could go on..... Maybe he is pissed off that his daughter has been hurt because a rich foreigner has said he would not pay a big money scam. Another threat she made whilst she was hysterical on the phone and pouring "petrol" over herself was that when her family finds her.....they will come looking for me too.This cannot....and will not go on. I have now got some money in the bank to take care of myself initially if I have to go back to the UK quickly. XXXXXXXXX has said he will take me in until such time I get settled. But I need to find out whats going on....and quickly. Could be home for Xmas... ++++++++

Now this shocking episode came about after a few weeks of marital bliss so it came as a surprise. Currently all is fine and in the next update I will outline what I have done if she makes any further demands. Which I can tell you she has.....and the result went to my plan. Which surprised me greatly. Also....a deal from the landlady to buy this house.....which I am putting into place. Think I would call it lip-service....

Regards

Hi, I found this thread via “today’s post” 2 days ago and started reading it all in one day. I’m not even interested in living in the Philippines but the story caught me, it’s a real page turner, I’m sure it could be turned into a book or a movie! I hope it all ends well and wishing you all the best, “P11”!