scrubbedexpat094

Know what you mean. I have that happen from time to time. There are lots of things I would miss about NZ but I think I would settle back into life in the UK pretty well. The OH loves living here & doesn't want to return, I love the OH & wouldn't be happy without him, so here we are to stay . I don't dislike it enough here to force a return back 'home', like you say, in many ways it is better.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do

jmh

Yeah I had that mini battle going on in my head for 24 years, but in reverse, deciding whether I should return to my homeland of NZ. I don't know how to get past it except by going back and seeing how it is. I made the right choice for me and am feeling settled.

BEVS

I can relate to this & that's after 8 years here & counting.

mrsmcgoo

ditto ditto ditto - been here 11 years in May - my dad died in March (in UK) mum is on her own now - I am only child _ I feel responsible, but my kids now 20, 18 and 7 are well embroilled in NZ life - gave up nursing now work via NZ company doing medical work for UK hospitals.. if it wasn't for the kids - would go back tomorrow.... I love the clean side of NZ, don't like the lack of choice, both for food/clothes and how blasted expensive everything except toilet paper is here! I have to buy almost everything online via ebay to get a bargain! No choice of what to do weekends.. when you've done the beach 100 times etc etc, kelly tarltons, rainbows end blah blah - again have not made many friends - only a few UK and a couple of Kiwi ones - only felt like this for about 2 years now.... but getting worse - like a kind of depression!

vicci

Hay Mrs Mcgoo, I see you live in Red Beach I'm in Stanmore Bay if you would like to meet up for a cuppa.

mrsmcgoo

will send you a pm

irish_eyes

I have done quite a bit of moaning when i first came here, then went back home and saw that i had infact made a mistake and came back here again. I shut my mouth for so long because i felt that I wasnt really giving it my best shot here. So now after another 3 years I'm feeling slowly like you have described - its getting worse. A feeling that I just cannot shake yet its not totally the pits here. I have friends, my kids are happy but I feel its not for me. We are now looking at a move to Canada so will see where that leads us. Get busy living or get busy dying.............

mrsmcgoo

Good luck with Canada. Visited both toronto, Winnipeg and Vancouver many years ago. With kids I would say Vancouver or Toronto, but from what I gather very extreme winter/summers - can you hack the snow drifts? Winnipeg was flat/ boring and middle of nowhere! Ps am also med sec and was a nurse - the medical terminology there can be quite different, like America but adapt to suit. Nice people Canadians

Linbin

Mrs mcgoo
i am arriving in red beach 19 jan with family and looking forward to our new lives there hope we bump into you to get the lowdown on the area

mrsmcgoo

well pm when you get here after jet lag has subsided and will meet up for a cuppa

scrubbedexpat094

Linbin will need to have posted 3 times to be able to access the PM function

Charismatic

Having enough of NZ I can understand. Back to England though, really? I would sooner shave with a bread knife every morning than face that again.

tweetweet

I know what you mean for example being able to fly to Europe from Uk or anywhere in the world easily. oh well we cant have everything all the time! I have lived in the northern hemisphere, the southern hemisphere, the tropics and the equator. I think I prefer the equator. But as I said we cant have everything all the time! dont miss the potholes!

janeyk

Been here 3 years now and have ping ponged really do not feel like I fit in, Mrsmcgoo I live in Torbay and like you know very few people. I miss my family but they have their own lives so will not speak see them any less if we return.
I like some others like some aspects on NZ but not the location/choice, I do miss the UK countryside and seasons, Christmas in the summer I still find strange.

I love the cafe culture the freedom of the beach and parks, to visit Browns bay and not have to pay to park is wonderful for a similar place in Cornwall or devon you would have paid 3.20 for 2 hours. I miss the pubs not that I am a drinker but a good circular walk over the moors ending at a pub was bliss.

If I did a 'Wanted Down Under' filp of the flag I think I would be stuck between the 2! lol!

We have relis in Vancouver and did look into that, but not sure it would offer us any different and we would still miss the UK!

theghostofdustybin

Oddly i like it here, but i liked living in the uk too. Not better or worsevjust different, as it should be.