Boopy

This is what I said to my rellies. Also tell them "nothing is ever set in stone, if it doesn't work out you can always go back".

AndyEvs

If only it were that easy.

Catchafire

Nothing you say, will resonate with them, because until they have experienced travelling/living abroad, then they only have have the framework of their experiences at home.

I love this country because, its beautiful, our lives are so completely different to what I had experienced in the UK, I am my own boss, we have children here now, I make my own award winning wine, my wife gets paid to work with horses (her absolute dream job), we often barter for produce, our kids go bare foot in school, I fish and dive, you can ski a hours drive away, you can have a whole beach to yourself, I get to have a BBQ on Christmas day, teenagers say good morning to me, business is done on a hand shake, we have friends from many different nationalities, my eldest came home and did a haka, the stars at night always amaze me, there is always a new playground to explore, we have a world class trout river a kilometer away, our small and modest home is the best I ever owned, I feel like a rich man in everything except money.

Plus I can walk into any dairy and get the best ice cream in the world, Hokey Pokey!

DandJMay

Cos I can

simonsi

Don't beat about the bush, what's your real reason?

Charismatic

It looked nice on post cards...

Also to be fair the UK is a real mess at the moment, especially for people on lower wages. New Zealand isn't a very egalitarian place but at least young and working class people have made some strides (though those are now getting smaller).

TommyLuck

I read this and applauded (in my head);


I then read this and actually applauded out loud, much to the bemusment of my Director who thought I'd got a deal in;

Spacecake799

That's exactly why we went 6 years ago, and why we left in Dec.

It was harder coming back to the UK, much harder but so right for us.

MrsFychan

because hubby want out of UK, I didn't want Turks and Caicos, Australian Government pissed hubby off, USA was to hard and hubby got talking to a bloke on FB who lived here and he said "pop on over"

Persephone

My reason won't help you M and M

Short version: to be with a Kiwi

AndyEvs

It scares me how hard it will be, but I guess we'll have to deal with that as and when.

Snap Shot

+1

Spacecake799

Hi,
It did seem much harder and all the questions about am I doing the right thing resurface. It was very hard for us, part of my heart has stayed in NZ so I will always have a tie to the country, but we had to come back for the others within our family. It can work and is working and I am loving being back.

M_and_M

I said goodbye to my parents today. We used google earth to help them understand where it was. It's miles and miles away.

I leave next week. Right now I am heart broken. I don't have kids, I am not that close to my parents to be honest but I still heart broken.

I'm excited, terrified, everything. Is it right, will it go wrong, will I be simply older and even more broke and wanting to return? Or will I love it.

I'm tearing myself in two right now.

Persephone

It's normal to feel like this when you say goodbye-and that's even if they are all supportive
It's a big step to take, yeah it might not work but then again it might.
Have an escape plan for if you're not happy and enjoy the adventure. And if it doesn't work for you then try and look back on it as such rather than a big mistake. That's how I saw it; NZ might not be for me, the relationship might not last and so on but I made sure I had enough in the bank to get back to the UK if I wanted to. We are now married [so downhill from here then]

Best wishes, you'll be fine. Most of us have been through how you're feeling at the moment