Jan n Neil

what Jan isn,t telling you is that we where both really good mates with her so she lost 2 mates wich must have been really hard, I think she should let it go and our mate might come good in the future

Neil

BEVS

Noes. I know it's a lovely offer but folks have their pride n'all. She may well be letting you go fly as she feels she can't keep up? she obviously cares for you both.

I do hope she does come good my lovelies.

Meanwhile, I still say , keep the line open.

love30stm

[QUOTE=Jan n Neil;9693473]She doesn't answer the phone - nothing to do with me, she just doesn't, she stares at it to see who it is. I've seen this in the UK with her. My overseas number comes up with "not known" so she doesn't bother. [/

Well I'm upset that some of my family, my niece to be precise don't keep In touch hardly anymore, I find it upsetting that when I'm on facebook
She never talks to me or comments on my wall but she does to others? And we were very close, well I thought we was, plus hardly any of my family have the time to go on Skype.

Now friends that's another story! Luckily my
Best friend from the uk Is living in Napier.

Jan n Neil

I've done it before and she was fine with it

pricklykina

Sometimes I find it too upsetting to stay in touch with overseas people.
My friend moved overseas in December and I was so devastated that I couldn't face talking to her until July. I haven't spoken to her since. I haven't returned her last email as can't put myself through the emotions right now.

It may appear that I am snubbing her but I am just too sad to hear about how her life is going on without me right now. Especially as I may not see her again.

It may seem selfish but ultimately I have to keep myself sane for my day to day living and my family. She certainly was an important person in my life and I love her and her daughter dearly but I can't do this with her right now.

love30stm

I'm bring ignored on here too

Tray

A double blow do you have any mutual friends you can contact to check she is ok?

I have a close friend,not my best friend but definitely a close 2nd! We were great friends & colleagues back in my Cornwall days.. for 10 yrs..been through a lot together etc..when I moved to Yorkshire she seemed to let go of me but then I found out from her x that she had a terrible health scare. She contacted me once she had the all clear, just didn't want to worry her friends...she has since been to my wedding in Yorkshire we e-mail & she plans a trip to NZ

It is amazing how quickly the phone seems to be an outdated means of communication,good friends are definitely worth fighting for good luck guys

luvwelly

I suspect you are not alone in this reaction hence why I said best to keep the lines open.

Jan n Neil

Who said that

faye_h

I've had exactly the same experience with my 'best friend'. We would see each other at least once a week, more most weeks. She was even the first person to come out and visit us when we moved out here 2 years ago. Things were great right up until then. Once she went back to the UK I heard from her very sporadically and only when I had struck up the conversation and sent her an email or text.
More recently though I will try numerous times before I get any response from her and a couple of times we have arranged skype she doesn't show.

I'm amazed at who I have kept in touch with though. Old collegues and old uni friends have kept in touch much better than her, people who I saw maybe once a month back in the UK. It really makes you think about who your true friends are.

Jan n Neil

me too, interesting isn't it!!!

Jan

love30stm

Agree! People I hadn't seen so much I'm the uk have kept in touch with me, but in my case it's some of my family I'm surprised about?

love30stm

Meant to say in not I'm. Anyway its one way of finding out who your friends and close family are.

BEVS

Who said what