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Old Mar 5th 2008, 8:35 pm
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Getting the impression that it can be pretty isolated in NZ, so what happens when, ultimately, one of a couple dies?
Does the remaining individual sell up and come back?
Is it the same without someone to share it with?
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Old Mar 5th 2008, 9:05 pm
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I've never thought about that. Interesting question. I'm not sure if there's a trend or not.
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Old Mar 5th 2008, 9:39 pm
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I have been thinking about this a little, but have no definitive answer for you.
I can see that if I 'go', then himself will stay here in NZ . However, if he were the one to 'go, I am not sure I would remain. I rather feel that as long as I had my health and some $$$, I would become something of a nomad.

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I know of a couple in their 40's that migrated here to NZ. He suddenly popped his clogs leaving the OH utterly on her own. Close neighbours helped and supported her. She was given a part-time job within her local community and that community kept an eye on her . She went back to the UK to explore the options of returning but chose to return to NZ. Really special friendships were formed between herself and the local kiwis here . She was included and nurtured. A couple of years later, she is thriving and happy.
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Old Mar 6th 2008, 1:39 am
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It's the same for couples who split up once they get here. From my own personal experience, I know it is possible to pick up the pieces and carry on. I moved from Hamilton to Porirua last November and have started a new life here for myself and my daughter. The ex-pats from this forum have been amazing - I honestly don't know how well I would have managed without their support and encouragement, so thanks again people
So, life goes on when there is one - and it ain't that bad
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we've had some discussions around this - as morbid as it might be!
the harder question for us has been what should we put in our will re: the children if we both left this world! Logically they should go back to the UK where the majority of their extended family is, but emotionally, they are very settled and have strong friendships here - my daughter doesn't even have any memories of the UK!!
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Does one have nooky in heaven???
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