Stay or Go.... Dilemma...
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I haven't purchased a house in NZ.... not been able to afford anything that I would consider a house (i.e. not damp and built to a reasonable standard). We have been renting since arriving.... so we are effectively portable.
Maybe I should have bought a house.... or should buy one if we stay.... have felt very transient for the past 3 years, and not felt like I have been able to lay down roots.
Just been discussing with a mate, and I think another big issue to me (which may be a personal issue) is the worry of if work here drys up.... there are very little options, and that would effectively force me back to UK / EU. Whereas if I was in UK / EU I would most probably have more options.
Maybe I should have bought a house.... or should buy one if we stay.... have felt very transient for the past 3 years, and not felt like I have been able to lay down roots.
Just been discussing with a mate, and I think another big issue to me (which may be a personal issue) is the worry of if work here drys up.... there are very little options, and that would effectively force me back to UK / EU. Whereas if I was in UK / EU I would most probably have more options.
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Re: Stay or Go.... Dilemma...
Work in the UK/EU won't dry up......it already has........
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Work may have dried up in many sectors.... I totally agree.... but this is somewhat a sweeping statement and I think it is very much dependant on spcific employment sectors.
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Edt, you're not the only one who has doubts about the wisdom of staying on here. Like you, we decided to rent when we first came as the houses we felt were ot worth the price. So we have always rented. We were also w aiting for the exchange rate to get better and perhaps bring our money over. However, we have now decided thaat we don't want to buy anything here as they are not worth the money. Also, we are fed up with the general cost of things here and don't want to spend years always watching the prices and shopping at Throw n' Go.
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Re: Stay or Go.... Dilemma...
Hi Forum Members,
I moved to NZ in early 2010 and both my partner and I have found relatively good permanent jobs (very good by kiwi standards). We love NZ, but the costs, fx, missing home etc. play on our minds a lot. This combined with a number of close friends and family in the UK having children, and parents who are sick.... plus the extortionate cost to fly back to UK and the lower number of holidays per year.... has all been stacking up. We love NZ, and the country.... but I wonder deep down inside if in a few years time I will want to stay.... I also think it may be a nice place to retire.... but again this is a long way off.
I have been approached by a BIG global company for the job of my dreams and it would be based back in UK. This job would consolidate 15 years of study (much of which worthless in NZ) and would be a springboard to my career.
So.... do I stay or do I go? This has consumed our lives for 3 weeks... and I just can't reach a decision.... do we stay for another 3 years and get citizenship and then look for a similar job (which may no longer be achievable as I will have been out the industry for 5 years) or do we go.... with Permanent Residency (and the potential risk that changes to this may be imposed in the future)?
Many people I have spoken to say I am thinking about it too much, but the decision can only be described as a perfect balance between staying with a mediocre job or leaving back to the home land for a great career move.
Any advice / thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks.
I moved to NZ in early 2010 and both my partner and I have found relatively good permanent jobs (very good by kiwi standards). We love NZ, but the costs, fx, missing home etc. play on our minds a lot. This combined with a number of close friends and family in the UK having children, and parents who are sick.... plus the extortionate cost to fly back to UK and the lower number of holidays per year.... has all been stacking up. We love NZ, and the country.... but I wonder deep down inside if in a few years time I will want to stay.... I also think it may be a nice place to retire.... but again this is a long way off.
I have been approached by a BIG global company for the job of my dreams and it would be based back in UK. This job would consolidate 15 years of study (much of which worthless in NZ) and would be a springboard to my career.
So.... do I stay or do I go? This has consumed our lives for 3 weeks... and I just can't reach a decision.... do we stay for another 3 years and get citizenship and then look for a similar job (which may no longer be achievable as I will have been out the industry for 5 years) or do we go.... with Permanent Residency (and the potential risk that changes to this may be imposed in the future)?
Many people I have spoken to say I am thinking about it too much, but the decision can only be described as a perfect balance between staying with a mediocre job or leaving back to the home land for a great career move.
Any advice / thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks.
UK: Good job offer. parents are ill - you can be near them to offer support and comfort.
NZ: beaches, sunshine, great place to bring up children, but as you stated - lack of future for your career, being far away from family.
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Don't go back!!!!!!!!
You probably don't realise how rubbish things are getting in the UK... We're trying to get out of here at the moment cos I honestly don't see any future for my little one in this country (UK)
You can get a good job but you can change the situation GB is in at the moment.. and it's not good.
My advice - STAY!!
You probably don't realise how rubbish things are getting in the UK... We're trying to get out of here at the moment cos I honestly don't see any future for my little one in this country (UK)
You can get a good job but you can change the situation GB is in at the moment.. and it's not good.
My advice - STAY!!
#53
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I know. So many feel that way don't they. But so many don't feel that way either. Many of our family and friends are perfectly fine with where they are and where they live. It's not perfect according to them but they love it , enjoy it and have no plans to leave....
...although they don't mind a visit down under
...although they don't mind a visit down under
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Job is important in life. Without it life is not so good. So I would probably go
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Don't go back!!!!!!!!
You probably don't realise how rubbish things are getting in the UK... We're trying to get out of here at the moment cos I honestly don't see any future for my little one in this country (UK)
You can get a good job but you can change the situation GB is in at the moment.. and it's not good.
My advice - STAY!!
You probably don't realise how rubbish things are getting in the UK... We're trying to get out of here at the moment cos I honestly don't see any future for my little one in this country (UK)
You can get a good job but you can change the situation GB is in at the moment.. and it's not good.
My advice - STAY!!
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Youth unemployment is very high here, in fact one of the highest in the world (higher than the UK)
Must say we hardly ever hear much doom & gloom from family & friends in the UK in fact most seem to be doing well.
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Just interested, we know many families here who are saying the same thing about NZ. One British family we knew flew back to Blighty last Monday after 7 years here with the same reasons.
Youth unemployment is very high here, in fact one of the highest in the world (higher than the UK)
Must say we hardly ever hear much doom & gloom from family & friends in the UK in fact most seem to be doing well.
Youth unemployment is very high here, in fact one of the highest in the world (higher than the UK)
Must say we hardly ever hear much doom & gloom from family & friends in the UK in fact most seem to be doing well.
Don't make the mistake of coming here at great expense if moving to a 'better area' within the UK could fix your issues.
Even the NZ PM and the Labour Leader of the Opposition (till 13 Dec) have 3 kids between them currently living overseas.
One thing many of us have learnt being expatriated is that there is no Press/media in the world which revels in painting its own country in such a bad light as the UK's because it sells papers. An instant way to feel better about the UK is to stop reading the knocking press especially the Daily Mail etc . Get your news from the BBC website instead - much more balanced and less sensational.
Last edited by luvwelly; Dec 4th 2011 at 7:25 am.
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Youth suicide is also shockingly high here. Does geographic isolation have anything to do with it? It tends to mainly be the better-off kids who go off on their 'overseas experience'. Some take years to find their way back or indeed never permanently return.
Don't make the mistake of coming here at great expense if moving to a 'better area' within the UK could fix your issues.
Even the NZ PM and the Labour Leader of the Opposition (till 13 Dec) have 3 kids between them currently living overseas.
One thing many of us have learnt being expatriated is that there is no Press/media in the world which revels in painting its own country in such a bad light as the UK's because it sells papers. An instant way to feel better about the UK is to stop reading the knocking press especially the Daily Mail etc . Get your news from the BBC website instead - much more balanced and less sensational.
Don't make the mistake of coming here at great expense if moving to a 'better area' within the UK could fix your issues.
Even the NZ PM and the Labour Leader of the Opposition (till 13 Dec) have 3 kids between them currently living overseas.
One thing many of us have learnt being expatriated is that there is no Press/media in the world which revels in painting its own country in such a bad light as the UK's because it sells papers. An instant way to feel better about the UK is to stop reading the knocking press especially the Daily Mail etc . Get your news from the BBC website instead - much more balanced and less sensational.
Ok so a few families in UK are doing well, but can you not see the general situation?
I live in a very good area in the UK, probably one of the best, but I just can't stand people's mentality, the benefit culture, the chav culture (if you can call it culture) , there's too many people here - I'd be gutted if my little one had to go to school with all these kids who swear and think that all there is to life is football. (bit of generalisation here)
There is no way in the world we will ever be able to buy land here in the Uk (not in the good areas we are talking about) and our friends in NZ have and are now building their own house.
I'm not actually English myself, my partner is, but I have lived in the UK for the last 10 years or so and frankly speaking I have had enough.
The whole world seems to think that the UK is a growing, prospering, rich, privileged country when in fact it's going down every day. And it's not just news scaremongering stories.
Uk had its peak and sorry to say but it looks like the only way now is down.
There's about 60 million people in this country - isn't that a reason good enough to leave?
Why are you so pessimistic about people wanting to come to NZ, haven't you done it yourself?
I know that NZ has its own problems, I'm not stupid. But I'm afraid it's looking like in the UK things are only going to get worse.
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All the welfare dependency/high unemployment stuff exists here too among a smaller population.
Although certain areas are very safe, overall crime in NZ is pretty much the same as in UK which is surprising but look at www.stuff.co.nz and see what went down in NZ today....yes most major incidents get reported but still a lot of horrible things happen and if it were so perfect here, it wouldn't be on a par with UK but I am afraid it is. The NZ media doesn't 'play it up' in the same negative way though. They are in on the Godzone thing too lol.
I agree in UK that state education can be a challenge. But it can here too (look for decile 10 rather than decile 1).
I also don't relish living in an earthquake zone especially after feeling a tremor yesterday and after Christchurch and Japan bringing home the reality.
The only thing which is truly better is the weather, the scenery, the Electoral system and the cafe culture in Wellington. Everything else is the same/similar or worse.
If a large plot with a big house on it in a remote location floats your boat forever then you may very well really enjoy it. It will likely be a slower pace of life but it is very expensive to travel anywhere else from here (even Australia) and until you get here you just don't get how remote it is and how this impacts your life. Even when cost is not really an issue but for most on the lower NZ wages, cost is a very real factor in why people cannot afford to escape to Oz on holiday, let alone go back to UK/Europe.
Also pension, maternity, holiday entitlements and sick leave entitlements tend to be much worse here. You pay tax on every dollar with no tax free allowance at all. Financially I doubt it stacks up favourably for many people with the exchange rate as it is.
Just come with open eyes though...it is a big deal...because it is a long way away and the only reason you are really considering it is weather and the fact they speak English. The property is not cheap when based on NZ salaries, it only seems cheap to you as a 'cashed up Pom' . The quality can be horrendous as well although if you build your own you will have more control.
Last edited by luvwelly; Dec 4th 2011 at 9:13 am.