nearly nurse

Hi,
We are thinking of moving back to Scotland after being in nz for 15 years. My 10 year old son was born in nz and I’m worrying about how he will settle and make new friends at that age. Has anyone been in a similar situation and what was your experience?

Justcol

Kids make friends very easily, they are more resilient than we give them credit for.
it's no different than going UK to NZ, and within very little time the kids who come here are usually settled before the parents.
We all think our kids are special or sensitive but the truth is they just get on with things, and it's us adults and parents who tend to worry more than they do.

BEVS

I would echo Col in this. It will be more about how you as parents make it for your son and less about how he settles. You settle , he settles.

In NZ they often make new friends at age 13 when they move schools .

nearly nurse

Hi,
I think you might be right. I’m definitely a worrier and I think more so because he’s an only child so doesn’t have anyone other than us to bounce off. We only have a small family and we’re quite spread out so no cousins close by etc.
He did move schools in NZ once and coped we’ll making friends so maybe I need to remind myself of that 😊

nearly nurse

That’s a good point actually, moving into high school is scary at the time but we did make new friends from other schools easily, I guess the principal the same 😊

brits1

Hi, The times I spent worrying about our two sons and I can now look back and think “why did I worry like I did” our sons are grown men and they love their life experiences when I told them not so long go I use to worry about moving as often as we did and changing schools they were very surprised and said “why ? we had a great life”

nearly nurse

I’m really glad I asked this question, you have all definitely put my mind at ease and helped me seen things from a different perspective 😊.