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Rete Oct 5th 2017 7:08 pm

Re: Married at First Sight
 
Good for him and her. We have that here in the US for several seasons now and most of the married couples opt for divorce after the time period. There are I believe 3 couples still married after several years.

:fingerscrossed: Hoping it works out for the two of them. Nothing like love to get the blood pumping and the heart racing and your outlook on life uplifted.

BEVS Oct 5th 2017 8:40 pm

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by Woodlea (Post 12354428)
hopefully it'll stop him whinging on about exchange rates!!

:lol:

Pulaski Oct 5th 2017 8:47 pm

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And to think, America used to lead the world in televised schlock. :(

scrubbedexpat094 Oct 5th 2017 9:36 pm

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by BEVS (Post 12354507)
:lol:

I thought that too!

Give it 6 months and he'll be whingeing on about being on a reality TV show :eek:

Dorothy Oct 5th 2017 9:41 pm

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by paddy234 (Post 12354069)
TV like this rots the mind and is part of the reasons why many men lack true masculinity and women femininity

What? :confused: Define "true masculinity" and "femininity".

Pollyana Oct 6th 2017 1:12 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by Dorothy (Post 12354536)
What? :confused: Define "true masculinity" and "femininity".

Maybe his is one of the minds that has rotted? :lol::sneaky:

Mishclark Oct 8th 2017 3:39 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 
Oh rats, it's unfair, I'm still in Oz and can't watch it!

Oh well, good luck to them, I think he has scrubbed up pretty well!

Michelle :)

Catchafire Oct 8th 2017 3:51 am

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Originally Posted by Dorothy (Post 12354536)
What? :confused: Define "true masculinity" and "femininity".

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paddy234 Oct 15th 2017 11:10 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by Dorothy (Post 12354536)
What? :confused: Define "true masculinity" and "femininity".

It isn't a bunch of vain egotistical men and women who would vow to spend the rest of their lives with someone they never met just to appear on tv. It's a mockery of marriage for entertainment no different than people who enter big brother and become guinea pigs for people's entertainment. I will make sure my son's and/or daughters one day will never become as shallow minded and inward as to think these things as normal and to make a mockery out of themselves and others to entertain people and enhance their ego. I feel embarrassed for people who take these shows seriously

Masculinity and femininity is certainly not selfishness, egotistical, vain and devoid of responsibility toward themselves and each other and most of all downright dim which many of these people choose to be. Based on both the Christian and atheist naturalist world view people as small minded as this are dangerous for the progression of future generations as look how selfish and hedonistic we are becoming without any desire for self control. Perhaps it's easier to roll around in the dirt with not a care in the world than to accept we have a duty to future generations and not be so weak

paddy234 Oct 15th 2017 11:18 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 12354628)
Maybe his is one of the minds that has rotted? :lol::sneaky:

Perhaps it's for the better if the minds that aren't rotten take these shows seriously 😉

Pollyana Oct 15th 2017 11:34 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by paddy234 (Post 12361338)
Perhaps it's for the better if the minds that aren't rotten take these shows seriously 😉

I do watch shows like this (though not this particular one) at times, well, 'watch' is a loose term, they are often on youtube in the background, while I'm doing other stuff. I view the likes of Big Brother as interesting experiments into how people interact when thrown together, and I often feel sorry for those who become a figure of fun - without even realising it. I don't really like the idea behind this particular one, as personally I think it cheapens marriage, but at the same time that's only my personal view, and if others see it in a different way then that is their prerogative, and I wouldn't condemn them quite as strongly as you did :o
Unfortunately this type of programme is part of today's society, for better or for worse (no pun intended!) and I think the best way to approach it with kids is to make sure that they know its broadcast as entertainment, and as such if they get involved they have to be prepared to become figures of funin the wider world.

In the case of this particular programme I guess the premise is not impossible, there is the possibility that a couple can meet, marry, and THEN fall in love - not unlike many arranged marriages in countries like India.

paddy234 Oct 15th 2017 11:51 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 12361341)
I do watch shows like this (though not this particular one) at times, well, 'watch' is a loose term, they are often on youtube in the background, while I'm doing other stuff. I view the likes of Big Brother as interesting experiments into how people interact when thrown together, and I often feel sorry for those who become a figure of fun - without even realising it. I don't really like the idea behind this particular one, as personally I think it cheapens marriage, but at the same time that's only my personal view, and if others see it in a different way then that is their prerogative, and I wouldn't condemn them quite as strongly as you did :o
Unfortunately this type of programme is part of today's society, for better or for worse (no pun intended!) and I think the best way to approach it with kids is to make sure that they know its broadcast as entertainment, and as such if they get involved they have to be prepared to become figures of funin the wider world.

In the case of this particular programme I guess the premise is not impossible, there is the possibility that a couple can meet, marry, and THEN fall in love - not unlike many arranged marriages in countries like India.

I'm not meaning to personally attack anyone however I'm only 28 so when I was a good bit younger reality tv shows like Geordie shore were only becoming popular and the excuse many people had for watching them was they found it comical but as the years progressed I saw how young people in terms of their way of thinking is influenced by such shows as these. Surely if young girls and boys are exposed massively to shows like these to the point the characters are glorified then they will be influenced by such people. Not all but many will and I see this on a day to day basis.

Shows like this would never have existed 15 years ago as people would have seen right through the idiocy of it, today because reality tv is so prominent especially in NZ people take this nonsense seriously. These shows are made because they are cheap to make while they bring in huge profit, why create an engaging story with high paid actors to immerse you in when you can get cheaply paid or non paid gullible small minded people to embarass themselves on live tv where for the most part they are destroying their lives. Most of them take years to recover after these shows

Justcol Oct 16th 2017 12:46 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by paddy234 (Post 12361337)
I will make sure my son's and/or daughters one day will never become as shallow minded and inward as to think these things as normal and to make a mockery out of themselves and others to entertain people and enhance their ego. I feel embarrassed for people who take these shows seriously

:goodpost:

Dorothy Oct 16th 2017 3:45 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 
Strangely enough, someone young enough to be my child has given me a lecture on the morality of marriage and the mental capacity of the people who are on these programmes while never answering the question he quoted that I originally asked. :confused: I'm not sure why my question was quoted since I am not looking for moral guidance.

My own opinion on the subject is that marriage is an ever changing thing. It wasn't that long ago that marriages were not for romantic purposes, but to breed like classes. In some cultures marriages are arranged between families when children are still very young and once they reach adulthood they marry. "Love" and "romance" and the whole western idea of marriage is foreign and seems wrong. And who are you, or anyone else to judge someone who is looking for a life partner in a (in your view) non traditional way? 15 or 20 years ago people were ridiculed for meeting partners on the internet! Now it's not only accepted, but dating sites/apps seem to be the way to meet now.

paddy234 Oct 17th 2017 5:35 am

Re: Married at First Sight
 

Originally Posted by Dorothy (Post 12361834)
Strangely enough, someone young enough to be my child has given me a lecture on the morality of marriage and the mental capacity of the people who are on these programmes while never answering the question he quoted that I originally asked. :confused: I'm not sure why my question was quoted since I am not looking for moral guidance.

My own opinion on the subject is that marriage is an ever changing thing. It wasn't that long ago that marriages were not for romantic purposes, but to breed like classes. In some cultures marriages are arranged between families when children are still very young and once they reach adulthood they marry. "Love" and "romance" and the whole western idea of marriage is foreign and seems wrong. And who are you, or anyone else to judge someone who is looking for a life partner in a (in your view) non traditional way? 15 or 20 years ago people were ridiculed for meeting partners on the internet! Now it's not only accepted, but dating sites/apps seem to be the way to meet now.

There is no point trying to justify these reality tv shows and compare it to more modern forms of dating such as online dating as most people aren't idiots.They know that half the reason people appear on these shows is to appear on tv and experience that few hours of fame hoping it will be more. Do you think on these reality tv shows like first dates that people aren't playing up for the camera to some extent especially when you have a film crew a few feet from your face, it's an illusion, nothing more so please stop taking it so seriously. As for answering your question, I'm catholic and I look through the lense of my world view when defining masculinity and feminity as does everyone whether they be Atheist, Muslim, Buddhist etc. Most people on reality tv shows that I've seen are egotistical, vain, shallow and downright dim as you'd have to be to let yourself used as a guinea pig for people's entertainment.


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