Lonely in Auckland
 

Hiya guys,

I have moved over to Auckland two months ago with my boyfriend and really love it, problem is i have NO friends and my boyfriend has a job and im left at home all day, i thought it would have been easier to find a job as i have a science degree but my bf who has no qualifications has got a job b4 me.
I was hoping there was ppl on here mayb cud meet up? i am 25 and very sociable :)
CAN ANYONE HELP??
From Jacqueline

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

Hi Jacqueline,

Welcome to NZ. You didn't mention where you are in Auck, it would help if people knew and then maybe they could arrange to meet up with you!

Regarding a job I'm sure you will find something soon. What type of job are you looking for? Maybe while people are browsing for themselves they might find something that would suit you or be able to add links to sites for you to look at.

My daughter (15) has just got a casual job on the weekends and in the school hols so there are jobs around.

All the best
Carol

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

Hiya
Thankyou for your reply, i am in the centre just minutes from Queens st.
I am looking for jobs in criminal investigation or the Police iam willing to do anything. Whereabouts are u living?
Jx

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

Is anyone around in cbd today to meet up??

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

Hi again,

I am in East Auck which is about 40 mins by car.

Your job description sounds very interesting. It is something that my daughter would like to do when she leaves school.

Have a look at these sites:
http://www.kiwicareers.govt.nz/defau...103&id1=J80116
http://www.esr.cri.nz/aboutus/ourpeo...ic-careers.htm
http://www.esrcareers.cri.nz/JobCentre/default.asp
http://www.futureintech.org.nz/profi...m?CategoryID=2
http://www.psych-recruitment.com/
http://www.govt.nz/record?tid=1&treeid=94&recordid=5911

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

Have you considered (are you able to financially) applying to do a grad dip in education/teaching? It only takes one year and would likely open up social opportunities with others as well as providing an additional career path. Science and maths teachers are in high demand.

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

Also living in a CBD can be very socially dislocating. Most are upwardly mobile young professionals who already have a social circle. The feel is more edgy and less laidback. Even going out at night in the CBD, you rarely meet locals.

Picking a decent suburb that's not too dramatic a commute to your b/fs work could be an idea. In a suburb people are more likely to get to know you and you them I think. More a community feel (unless you live in OZ LOL) including the local pub etc.

Also maybe try to find some form of recreational activity that you enjoy and 'forces' you to go out and mix with others, eg, sports, community classes, hobbies, etc

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

havent really got the funds to go back to uni as we would have to rely on my bf's money and its not a great deal at the moment.
I just feel isolated and im the type of person who is sociable and without having a job i cant see of a way of meeting ppl, all im doin is watchin crap on tv and waiting for my bf to come home :(

Re: Lonely in Auckland
 

I think while still looking for work its important to build a level of social interaction by other methods, joining a club that interests you,volunteering at a community agency one day a week, etc. Have you thought of maybe getting a p/t job in a pub or cafe to get you started?

You are isolated simply because you're new to the city and not yet made connections, but you will. NZers are generally pretty friendly.

I see your living in a CBD area as a problem, at least from my way of thinking.
I really think a place in the burbs would open up more opportunities for social contact (not sth auckland though, too rough in several areas there).

Take heart, I have been in OZ for over a decade and have made no 'real' friends in that time at all! Just casual aquaintances that I really don't see that often at all. back in NZ and when I was in the UK I made friends easily.

Spending you day sitting at home is doing you no good! It will just become a rut and make you feel depressed.