shellnscott

hi all,

me and my fiance moved over to nz about a year ago, since then we have had our first child a 7month old little girl. however we are finding it very difficult to meet some friends. we are early-mid 20's from preston so my fiance loves his football and a decent beer every now and again. if anyone is in hamilton give me a shout we would love to meet up.

Flower Pot

Its a shame your all the way down in Hamilton, we would have loved to meet up otherwise!

Sure there are some on here in your area and will pop along soon

If your ever over our way give us a shout. Hubby and I in our 20's from Liverpool, I went to uni in Preston!

Lily77cat

i know what you mean- have been here 2 years now and the first year was awful and didnt meet anyone and was terribly lonely.

i organised a couple of meet ups through websites and met some lovely expats. we also have a 7 month old and i have met some lovely girlies through coffee mornings. if you dont have a coffee group to go too ring up plunket and ask to put a poster in their office. are you going to any baby activities? try the local library they have things on for mums and bubs.

it will get easier and if you want to chat send us a pm.
lily
xx

Genesis

I am afraid they will not come to you, or are unlikely too. 5 years ago I knew no one in NZ. I literally started knocking on doors and made friends that way. Sad? May well be, but NO ONE was going to knock on my door eh? You have to put yourself out there and join clubs, do things in the community, look at your local rag...go to baby morning et al.

nelsonpom

Understand completely, been here nearly 5 years and have a 1 year old. Felt we were ok before baby but now feel quite adrift. Its a long way from a back-up network that we would have in UK. No family on tap makes it very very difficult. No solutions yet, so can't help and as we are in Nelson.....

Bumptious

Although I have been here since late 80's, when I moved to the town we live in now 6 years ago I knew nobody, but having one preschooler and primary school age kid helped heaps. Met lots of people that way and now have a good pool of friends and acquaintances. Having a baby is actually a good friendship starter as long as you get out and about. Can you join a Plunket group in your area. I became involved with mine and organised coffee mornings for other mums, it was good fun and also great for meeting people in the same situation as you in your immediate area (of course alot will be locals). As Genesis said you have to put yourself out there, NZ can be a bit cliquey sometimes but if you start the ball rolling by inviting someone over for a coffee etc it should work out for you. It does take time though, give it 6 months at least.

SamDean

Hey Shell and Scott, if you are ever over in Tauranga for the day, give me a shout, im 25 an my boyfriend is 27, and we are pretty lonely over here, and would love to do something fun. We have been in the are for about 5 months now and am finding it quite hard to make friends, so i know how you feel. I only found this forum today tho so hopefully it may help. p.s are you on facebook.

Nelly Trolley

Just a suggestion - Start a new thread referring to hamilton and it might draw response from those living in that area to make contact with you.

Good luck

shellnscott

hi there, my mum is down in tauranga so we do tend to go over a fair bit, yeh im on facebook search for Rochelle Olorenshaw fortunately the name isnt very popular so i should be the only one! how are you finding it over here? what made you move? many questions but am sure the reply will be similar to most peoples, england is going downhill and we dont want our kids to grow up here.

speak soon

shellnscott

hi. sorry its taken ages to reply, iv been busy busy busy with the little one, maybe i dont have time for friends afterall. thanks for the reply, if we are ever up your way we will be sure to get in touch for a meet up. how long have you been here for ? how do u find it? and what were your reasons for coming over?
shell

zoexr

This loneliness lasts for a year?!?!
Right, that's it, I'm off to dress my bulldog up in a romper suit and a hat and join a mother and baby group....

keeny

Hi Shellnscott

Hi I'm Sarah, we live in Hamilton (Rototuna) we have been here for 15 months and have a 16 month old girl called Leah, I'm mid 20's hubby Ian is early 30's. Hubby is also a football lover and likes a beer every now & again. It'd be great to hear from you - PM me back if you are interested in talking more, look forward to it

Stormer999

And what if someone says "My dosn't he take after his mum........."

zoexr

Hahahaha!!! It wouldn't be the worst thing someone had said to me!

lisamct

I can definitely feel the boredom setting in.
I think once the initial excitement/stress/busyness of first arriving wears off and some form of normality sets in the absence of friends and family really starts to sink in. I have no regrets about coming to NZ itself but think maybe the choice to move, alone, to a small town wasn't the best choice I could have made and makes meeting new people a bit of a challenge.

Now if i could just move everyone I know in NZ to here it would be fine, doubt I could convince them all to move to Rotorua though!