Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
As you'll know Bevs, plenty of Kiwis are talky to anyone type of people but it's usually on a very superficial basis and has no depth or meaning for a long, long time before any warmth or real friendship is extended. One can still be left feeling pretty lonely despite having hundreds of daily conversations with Kiwis. I met a lovely woman yesterday who had been in NZ for similar amount of time as me and honestly after ten minutes of conversation I felt like I had known her an age and she could easily become a life long friend - you will rarely strike up those instant kind of connections with Kiwis.
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
If you two have finished playing conkers it's time to
Here? You mean the UK/Europe.
Being a talky to anyone person wouldn't necessarily relieve a loneliness if that is what a person is feeling. In fact that could be incredibly off-putting to some folk.
Wherever in the world one is, it is best to just be yourself & one way or another one can hopefully find some like minded people to get along with.
Oh. I took you to be British but from the wording you are a returning Kiwi ?
Here? You mean the UK/Europe.
Being a talky to anyone person wouldn't necessarily relieve a loneliness if that is what a person is feeling. In fact that could be incredibly off-putting to some folk.
Wherever in the world one is, it is best to just be yourself & one way or another one can hopefully find some like minded people to get along with.
Oh. I took you to be British but from the wording you are a returning Kiwi ?
I am definitely British btw sorry for the confusion We did a lot of walking when we visited New Zealand and I just thought that it was a funny alternative to hiking/trekking and that this was definitely the place to use it.
I think the quote on talkativeness/loneliness was from escaped and not me and was relating to NZ. Whilst I agree that it is a very complicated and subjective issue as to how deeply you relate to people you meet, I guess it does create more opportunities to develop deeper friendships provided you have the motivation to do so.
Does anyone else have experience of this kind of superficial interaction in New Zealand or maybe different experiences int he opposite direction? I didn't get that kind of impression like in the US (Where people ask you "How are you?" with a smile on their face but are 100 meters away before you even have a chance to answer), but then I didn't really get the chance to bond with anybody in such a short time.
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
Hi BEVS
Does anyone else have experience of this kind of superficial interaction in New Zealand or maybe different experiences int he opposite direction? I didn't get that kind of impression like in the US (Where people ask you "How are you?" with a smile on their face but are 100 meters away before you even have a chance to answer), but then I didn't really get the chance to bond with anybody in such a short time.
Does anyone else have experience of this kind of superficial interaction in New Zealand or maybe different experiences int he opposite direction? I didn't get that kind of impression like in the US (Where people ask you "How are you?" with a smile on their face but are 100 meters away before you even have a chance to answer), but then I didn't really get the chance to bond with anybody in such a short time.
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
Does anyone else have experience of this kind of superficial interaction in New Zealand or maybe different experiences int he opposite direction? I didn't get that kind of impression like in the US (Where people ask you "How are you?" with a smile on their face but are 100 meters away before you even have a chance to answer), but then I didn't really get the chance to bond with anybody in such a short time.
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
You're talking about casual greetings.
A polite Hi or G'day as you pass people
We all do it every day when we deal with folk, it's just being polite
Aren't you over thinking this a bit
A polite Hi or G'day as you pass people
We all do it every day when we deal with folk, it's just being polite
Aren't you over thinking this a bit
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
I think it comes down to personal experience.I have been living in the UK on and off for more than 20 years and your comment above completely applies to my experience with British people.Meanwhile I am still in touch with a good portion of Kiwi friends met when living in NZ for 3 years.
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Re: Introduction & Concerns From A Potential Immigrant
I think it comes down to personal experience.I have been living in the UK on and off for more than 20 years and your comment above completely applies to my experience with British people.Meanwhile I am still in touch with a good portion of Kiwi friends met when living in NZ for 3 years.