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Stormer999 Jan 26th 2015 5:44 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by RichieRich80 (Post 11545377)
Why does no one go to the pub? That is weird!!!

They do...I have some lovely friends at our watering hole......all denominations ;)

BEVS Jan 27th 2015 3:02 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by RichieRich80 (Post 11545377)
Why does no one go to the pub? That is weird!!!

Pubs are Friday after work things. The 6 o'clock swill.

Justcol Jan 27th 2015 8:24 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by RichieRich80 (Post 11545377)
Why does no one go to the pub? That is weird!!!

Only weird if your a Brit.No one else anywhere in any country has a pub
culture like the UK.
In saying that I go out 2 or 3 times a week. My local for beers and talking rubbish with
a couple of close mates or to one of a few other places if I want a busy pub with live music and plenty of people.

Robbo25 Jan 28th 2015 1:54 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 
Been here 6 years, still feel as unsettled as ever. Plenty I love and plenty that sends me bats!#t crazy especially work!!

scrubbedexpat094 Jan 28th 2015 3:15 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by Robbo25 (Post 11547407)
Been here 6 years, still feel as unsettled as ever. Plenty I love and plenty that sends me bats!#t crazy especially work!!

Can I join you? Been here 8 years now and feel exactly the same except about work. I haven't worked in 6 years :(

Robbo25 Jan 28th 2015 7:42 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by Vitalstatistix (Post 11547434)
Can I join you? Been here 8 years now and feel exactly the same except about work. I haven't worked in 6 years :(

Maybe we can start a trust? They seem the in fashion item at times here.

Charismatic Jan 28th 2015 8:04 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 
Being employed and working are related activities? When did this begin? :confused:

Robbo25 Jan 28th 2015 7:37 pm

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by Charismatic (Post 11547551)
Being employed and working are related activities? When did this begin? :confused:

I'm cool with sitting at home and having a pay cheque given to me, however having to pretend that I'm working and making a difference on a daily basis really screws my mind!

Caveat - I never said I WANTED to work, just don't want to pretend either :)

scrubbedexpat094 Jan 28th 2015 9:08 pm

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by Robbo25 (Post 11547538)
Maybe we can start a trust? They seem the in fashion item at times here.

I'm game :flirtyeyes:. I don't have any trust issues :rofl:

britsinnz Jan 31st 2015 10:34 pm

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 
Hi desperatebrit, I"ve sent you a private message.

Sparkleydiva Feb 1st 2015 12:34 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by Robbo25 (Post 11547407)
Been here 6 years, still feel as unsettled as ever. Plenty I love and plenty that sends me bats!#t crazy especially work!!

Me too 😁😁😁 although irritating stuff seems to supersede the stuff i like currently 😟

psa2570 Feb 14th 2015 8:57 pm

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 
We've been in NZ for 19 months now and love it, felt settled straight away. My Missus has family over here, the nearest ones are a 3 hour drive away, and they took us under their wing for the first 4 weeks.

Once we'd moved to Kerikeri I joined the local Facebook notice boards and asked if anyone would like to take the new boy fishing. Worked for me, got quite a few new mates from that one.

Bumptious Feb 16th 2015 7:06 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 
When I moved to our current town 11 years ago I didn't know anyone except my inlaws. My kids were 3 and 7 and I met my friends through kindy and school and now have a really close knit circle. We also adopted a couple of greyhounds and have met some great people through that, plus volunteering and part time work for me. I have friends who are ex-pat Brits and Kiwis. I lived in Auckland for 16 years before that and also had good friends, I never see them now as we don't ever go back to Auckland. I am very chatty and don't have any problems starting up conversations which I think helps. I first got invited out with a group of women my age to a local restaurant and met one of my best friends there (we ended up sitting next to each other). If it wasn't for the kindy and primary school I think I would've found it a bit different, so for me it was a good starting point.

j19fmm Feb 16th 2015 8:01 am

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 

Originally Posted by Charismatic (Post 11543956)
"Settle in." Just like that. So business like and pragmatic. I never felt like that about her really. It was her sunshine and warm demeanor that first attracted me but attraction is the superficial projection of what you want rather than learning to love her for what she is.


I fell in love with the little things at first. Kids making the customary bare foot ballet dance across hot footpaths to buy an ice cream from the dairy, the four fingered wave so obligatory when you pass someone on a rural road and net curtains blowing in the wind on hot summer afternoons. As my eyes grew accustomed to that vibrant, bright light I couldn't help but marvel at her colours, the sky a super Azure, sea like Lapis and every shade of green adorned the hills.

The people where unpretentious, joyfully free of many of the trappings of the hierarchical societies of parochial old Europe. While in Europe friendships would require an intricate social dance in which both parties would have to partake. In New Zealand the plain, simple honesty of folk had disposed of such unnecessary contrivances that had trapped their forefathers...this is the New New World after all.

So when I say I settled because it's sunny, beautiful and the people are hospitable what I'm really saying is I was seduced. It wasn't a transaction, I never made a choice to give up one life to have another but just chose not to swim against the current.

That is just blooming lovely, Charismatic, good on you xx

suza712565 Mar 22nd 2015 8:24 pm

Re: how do i settle in nz??!!
 
Hi Gemma, I have been here 4 weeks. Have 3 young children. We are living in tauranga. If you want to chat please pm me.

I am also feeling isolated so would be great to meet up.

Sue


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