fighting depression
#1
Forum Regular
Thread Starter
Joined: May 2006
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
Posts: 45
fighting depression
Hi everyone,
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
#2
Re: fighting depression
Sorry to hear that you feel like that. Its not nice and yes Ive been there.
I still have my moments now but they are getting less and less.
The one thing thats making me feel more settled is talking to people in the same boat as me. Here in Beachlands theres a thriving British ExPat Community and it works wonders to be able to have a good old moan and get everything off your chest. You can really have a laugh over the odd kiwi things..... moan about the lack of choice in the supermarkets etc.
My passion is horses and I go riding every saturday morning.... its my "me time" and I look forward to it all week. I forget everything and do the thing I love the most.... works wonders for me.
Sorry cant be more helpful.... maybe you are experiencing a bit of culture shock? I certainly did.... things gets better! Good luck.
SarahB
I still have my moments now but they are getting less and less.
The one thing thats making me feel more settled is talking to people in the same boat as me. Here in Beachlands theres a thriving British ExPat Community and it works wonders to be able to have a good old moan and get everything off your chest. You can really have a laugh over the odd kiwi things..... moan about the lack of choice in the supermarkets etc.
My passion is horses and I go riding every saturday morning.... its my "me time" and I look forward to it all week. I forget everything and do the thing I love the most.... works wonders for me.
Sorry cant be more helpful.... maybe you are experiencing a bit of culture shock? I certainly did.... things gets better! Good luck.
SarahB
#3
Forum Regular
Thread Starter
Joined: May 2006
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
Posts: 45
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by SarahB
Sorry to hear that you feel like that. Its not nice and yes Ive been there.
I still have my moments now but they are getting less and less.
The one thing thats making me feel more settled is talking to people in the same boat as me. Here in Beachlands theres a thriving British ExPat Community and it works wonders to be able to have a good old moan and get everything off your chest. You can really have a laugh over the odd kiwi things..... moan about the lack of choice in the supermarkets etc.
My passion is horses and I go riding every saturday morning.... its my "me time" and I look forward to it all week. I forget everything and do the thing I love the most.... works wonders for me.
Sorry cant be more helpful.... maybe you are experiencing a bit of culture shock? I certainly did.... things gets better! Good luck.
SarahB
I still have my moments now but they are getting less and less.
The one thing thats making me feel more settled is talking to people in the same boat as me. Here in Beachlands theres a thriving British ExPat Community and it works wonders to be able to have a good old moan and get everything off your chest. You can really have a laugh over the odd kiwi things..... moan about the lack of choice in the supermarkets etc.
My passion is horses and I go riding every saturday morning.... its my "me time" and I look forward to it all week. I forget everything and do the thing I love the most.... works wonders for me.
Sorry cant be more helpful.... maybe you are experiencing a bit of culture shock? I certainly did.... things gets better! Good luck.
SarahB
Well Thanks for that. its just made me laugh I am over in Howick in cockle bay not far away lol
#4
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 3,038
Re: fighting depression
Without being rude and please do not interpret this response other than the well meaning intention, but if you feel that you are depressed, and I don’t just mean unhappy but really depressed then obviously seek professional help, but also seek to remove the cause of the depression.
If the cause is found to be NZ then you must return to the UK.
I sincerely hope you find an answer and in the next 4 months things improve for your mental health well-being.
Can everyone send some Karma to sharkyuk?
Many thanks
If the cause is found to be NZ then you must return to the UK.
I sincerely hope you find an answer and in the next 4 months things improve for your mental health well-being.
Can everyone send some Karma to sharkyuk?
Many thanks
#5
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by sharkyuk
Hi everyone,
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
Last edited by ex geordie; May 22nd 2006 at 9:50 pm.
#6
Account Closed
Joined: Dec 2005
Posts: 527
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by ex geordie
Sorry to hear you feel depressed . are you here alone or with your family? I found the best way to get over feeling like that was to focus on a coming event like family or friends coming from uk to visit or maybe plan a visit back after a certain length of time . It can be hard to cope somedays but you could try taking St Johns Wort as it helps mild depression and can be bought in most supermarkets and health shops. I am sure you will get a lot of replies and I hope you start to feel better soon Linda
There are major risks in taking this - just because it is "herbal" does not mean that it is harmless...
It interacts with other drugs and the production is not regulated.
My advice, go and have a chat with your doctor.
#7
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by sharkyuk
Well Thanks for that. its just made me laugh I am over in Howick in cockle bay not far away lol
#8
Forum Regular
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 246
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by Nice Guy
Without being rude and please do not interpret this response other than the well meaning intention, but if you feel that you are depressed, and I don’t just mean unhappy but really depressed then obviously seek professional help, but also seek to remove the cause of the depression.
If the cause is found to be NZ then you must return to the UK.
I sincerely hope you find an answer and in the next 4 months things improve for your mental health well-being.
Can everyone send some Karma to sharkyuk?
Many thanks
If the cause is found to be NZ then you must return to the UK.
I sincerely hope you find an answer and in the next 4 months things improve for your mental health well-being.
Can everyone send some Karma to sharkyuk?
Many thanks
Now if you can lie back on the couch and remember how depressed you were in the uk and maybe we can draw a comparison.
#9
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Jan 2005
Location: back in Gods own country..
Posts: 4,007
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by sharkyuk
Hi everyone,
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
#10
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by sharkyuk
Hi everyone,
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
i dont think there is a one size fits all solution...i see you like diving, Nz is great for that, even in the winter so book a trip to the Poor Nights, living on a liveboard for three days is wonderful.....
We have been here 3 1/2 years and my wife still misses family and friends a lot so what youre going through is very normal..
Not sure if this is going to be of any help, we found the 6 - 12 month period the most difficult, because youre here long enough that the excitement has worne off but not yet long enough that you have made good firends and feel settled..
So dont worry if you feel down, i think its natural....
#11
Just Joined
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 10
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by sharkyuk
Hi everyone,
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
Hey thats some sound advice being talked about here. We've been here just over 9 months now, and its been a rocky ride, but am defo starting to feel a gradual change. I've lived abroad a fair bit before, but have never made such a permanent move, and its really hard to take it all in at times - can be very overwhelming.
I've found that not trying to force yourself to like certain things or people helps, plus trying to plan things to look forward to - every wknd we try and do something different and outdoorsy, which I've found really helps. Also not comparing Auckland to London has been a major breakthrough! Talking to friends and family at home is great, but I'm selective about who I talk to, and make sure I only choose the ones I can be really honest with and have a good old yarn with, not people who I feel I have to put a brave face onto.
I'm a big believer in you get out of life what you put in, and everyday I remind myself what a great opportunity it is, trying life in a new country - we haven't decided yet if we'll be staying here for the long term (both have PR) but I'm certainly enjoying kiwi life more and more and 'living it' more than I was say 4-8 months in.
Any change in life is hard and its really important to seek help, whether that be from friends or family or your Doctor, or hey, chat about it here! most have felt it to some degree or other I reckon
Jo
#12
Re: fighting depression
difficult to add anything different other than to say that it is most definately natural. We've been here nearly 8 months and in the main we've settled well but there have been times when it's been tough - missing friends, family, things that are familiar, not being able to physically support people at home when things have gone t*ts up for them, not having people that you can easily turn too - however, things that I've found that have helped me:
being honest with myself about how i'm feeling and just allowing it - not trying to justify / get over it etc etc
trying to do something different - after all, that's one of the reasons we came - we've started camping, we've taken drives out to different places, we've just gone for a stomp along the beach - whatever!
getting work and starting to make friends - and it does require effort - people are very welcoming and friendly but they've got their friendships and don't always think about including new people into their social circles.
I would also echo others that if you feel that you are clinically depressed rather than sad / unhappy / generally low then do go and seek advice - you don't need to struggle on without help.
Best wishes to you
being honest with myself about how i'm feeling and just allowing it - not trying to justify / get over it etc etc
trying to do something different - after all, that's one of the reasons we came - we've started camping, we've taken drives out to different places, we've just gone for a stomp along the beach - whatever!
getting work and starting to make friends - and it does require effort - people are very welcoming and friendly but they've got their friendships and don't always think about including new people into their social circles.
I would also echo others that if you feel that you are clinically depressed rather than sad / unhappy / generally low then do go and seek advice - you don't need to struggle on without help.
Best wishes to you
#13
Forum Regular
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 232
Re: fighting depression
Originally Posted by sharkyuk
Hi everyone,
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
I have now been in New Zealand 4 months and I am still fighting depression after leaving the UK and it has been hard. I knew the things I was letting my self in for and I want to hear from anybody else on how they couped in the first couple of months of being here. Is it one of those things that you just got to go through. I dont know so anybody with any ideas.
Thanks
Kiwis are a generally friendly bunch. If things don't improve I would take NG's advice in so far as having a chat with your doctor or other health professionals. Also how about posting your interest on BE (meet ups forum) to get together for a night out with other expats? This could become a regular social event.
Best of luck
#14
Just Joined
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 29
Re: fighting depression
kept an eye on this thread as i have suffered with depression since last september (well "officially" shall we say !) and have only come out the other side very recently.
we have been thinking about moving away for quite a while and this year is our first opportunity as emma can quit her job in july.
what some of you have said is eyeopening, but very useful all the same.
thanks
we have been thinking about moving away for quite a while and this year is our first opportunity as emma can quit her job in july.
what some of you have said is eyeopening, but very useful all the same.
thanks
#15
By name and by nature
Joined: Mar 2005
Posts: 1,852
Re: fighting depression
Hi
This article really helped me in the first couple of months. Once I could put a name on what was wrong with me I felt an awful lot better. Rescue Remedy can be very helpful too to get rid of the stressy feelings. I hope things get better for you.
http://edweb.sdsu.edu/people/CGuanipa/cultshok.htm
This article really helped me in the first couple of months. Once I could put a name on what was wrong with me I felt an awful lot better. Rescue Remedy can be very helpful too to get rid of the stressy feelings. I hope things get better for you.
http://edweb.sdsu.edu/people/CGuanipa/cultshok.htm