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Emotional at leaving the Uk. Why !!!

Old Nov 6th 2010, 2:43 pm
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Now the reality has finally hit me that we are really emigrating in December Did anyone feel quite tearful at the prospect of going ? Don t get me wrong I really want to go and Im looking forward to our new life. But I m feeling so emotional lately at the prospect of leaving people and what is actually ahead of us.
Friends have said its only natural, but Im bursting into tears at the thought of everything ahead of us and the what if scenarios.I know it d daft as we ve wanted this for so long...
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Sounds normal to me

I used to get tearful and well-up during the last six weeks or so - at just about anything!

But when we had our farewell party, I thought I'd be an absolute heap, and I didn't cry at all - by that time, I was so knackered, excited and stressed, it all felt right after all.

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we leave in december too so i'm half excited and half nervous, i'm just not going to say bye to people as though i'm never going to see them again just say see you soon. If i think like that then it doesn't seem to upset me. My mum lives in NZ and i haven't seen her in over 5 years but its been fine as we've talked every week on the phone. I don't think you have to think too much about what you are doing and just do it.
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Now the reality has finally hit me that we are really emigrating in December Did anyone feel quite tearful at the prospect of going ? Don t get me wrong I really want to go and Im looking forward to our new life. But I m feeling so emotional lately at the prospect of leaving people and what is actually ahead of us.
Friends have said its only natural, but Im bursting into tears at the thought of everything ahead of us and the what if scenarios.I know it d daft as we ve wanted this for so long...
I remember about 3 months before we flew to Australia, I was at a London train station listing to the Salvation Army doing their xmas carols and I was crying my eyes out. In fact I never realised I could cry quite so much, neither did my husband when it came to the day before flying out to Perth after I said goodbye to my Dad, two hours later Mr PP looked at me and said 'Are you still crying?"

It is normal, it can be likened to saying 'goodbye' to your old life and jumping into the unknown. Dont be too hard on yourself, take each hour as it comes, split the day into chunks and tell yourself its normal, it lessens and if you are kind to yourself, you do get there - mentally as well as physically.

Dont underestimate how hard it is but at the same time try not to be too overwhelmed. Take a step back and go with the flow.

But what you are feeling is totally normal.

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PS, if I can give you any advice at this point - don't allow relatives to come to the airport with you
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PS, if I can give you any advice at this point - don't allow relatives to come to the airport with you
Yep, airport taxi and no "well wishers" of any kind, they really don´t help anyone at that point.
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Yep, airport taxi and no "well wishers" of any kind, they really don´t help anyone at that point.

I agree with that each time we go to NZ when we are leaving our Grandson always says I don't have to do the airport thing do I. He has only been once and that was enough for him.

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Now the reality has finally hit me that we are really emigrating in December Did anyone feel quite tearful at the prospect of going ? Don t get me wrong I really want to go and Im looking forward to our new life. But I m feeling so emotional lately at the prospect of leaving people and what is actually ahead of us.
Friends have said its only natural, but Im bursting into tears at the thought of everything ahead of us and the what if scenarios.I know it d daft as we ve wanted this for so long...
Ha, remember that so well Made the mistake of ringing my dad from Heathrow to start sobbing all over again. All completely normal. You aint exactly going just across the channel are you? . Enjoy the journey and look forward not back. Good luck Bevissa
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Yep, airport taxi and no "well wishers" of any kind, they really don´t help anyone at that point.
Ditto what he says!!
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Now the reality has finally hit me that we are really emigrating in December Did anyone feel quite tearful at the prospect of going ? Don t get me wrong I really want to go and Im looking forward to our new life. But I m feeling so emotional lately at the prospect of leaving people and what is actually ahead of us.
Friends have said its only natural, but Im bursting into tears at the thought of everything ahead of us and the what if scenarios.I know it d daft as we ve wanted this for so long...
It didn't affect me at all.......until the airport. Both my parents, my Dad's partner and my wife and kids were all there to say goodbye (the wife and kids came over a month later). I was fine with it all until my Son started to cry....then it all hit home!
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Originally Posted by ann m View Post
PS, if I can give you any advice at this point - don't allow relatives to come to the airport with you
I agree with this too. I went to the airport when my sister emigrated because I wouldn't have been able to live with myself if I hadn't. Then when it was our turn, I didn't want anyone there. It felt more like going on holiday than emigrating even though we'd sold up, packed up and spent 2 nights in a hotel!!!! Good luck with the move over.

PS how you're feeling is completely normal
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Originally Posted by yjx1nt7 View Post
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Now the reality has finally hit me that we are really emigrating in December Did anyone feel quite tearful at the prospect of going ? Don t get me wrong I really want to go and Im looking forward to our new life. But I m feeling so emotional lately at the prospect of leaving people and what is actually ahead of us.
Friends have said its only natural, but Im bursting into tears at the thought of everything ahead of us and the what if scenarios.I know it d daft as we ve wanted this for so long...
Totally normal Its a massive life change and that in itself is scary. But it's fab at the same time. That's the best piece of advice from Simonsi as well, defo no well wishers at the airport! You'll just be ready to collapse at the bar with a well-deserved drink. Or boo-hooing like I was - I mean why on earth would I ever miss Heathrow airport???!

Enjoy it all and good luck
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Originally Posted by yjx1nt7 View Post
Friends have said its only natural, but Im bursting into tears at the thought of everything ahead of us and the what if scenarios.I know it d daft as we ve wanted this for so long...
Don't get too upset with the "what-if" scenarios. Although small, New Zealand is a very flexible country. There is something for everyone.
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oh my ..... you describe exactly how i am feeling at the mo.

We fly out in January and extremes of emotion are definitely being experience .... one minute so excited and cannot wait......... the next terrified and thinking oh my god are we making a big mistake.

If it was just me and hubby i would maybe feel (i think) a bit easier as if things didn't work out I am only responsible for me and my life !!! .... BUT we have three kidiwinks who I hope that we are not about to totally mess things up for them

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