lardyl

/takes off tin skid lid/

erm no...........
sorry but you are wrong about "negative" posters ..... in about 99% of cases anyway.......they are mainly trying to apply some balance and help people think about where they are and where they are going - I'm damned certain that I'd have hit a wall when we arrived in NZ had I never read a post with a "negative emotion", "insult" or "emotional" fuel in it.......
anyhow, who's imposing emotions on anyone?

Bo-Jangles

Isn't that about emotional maturity and insecurities? People usually manage to reach some semblance of emotional maturity, whereby other people cannot impose their emotional state upon you, unless you let them? If I cry because someone dies in a TV programme, doesn't that say more about my own emotional wellbeing? It isn't the TVs fault that I cried, I made myself cry.

Without a doubt positive self-expression, of our frustrations, needs, wants, likes and dislikes makes for a more emotionally balanced person, than someone who keeps quiet for fear of offending another person.

Bo-Jangles

Actually, if may I step in about 'keeping it real', don't you think you may have overacted enormously to an off the cuff, throw away remark, about what is afterall a hypothetical $4 million dollars.

I've read plenty of what could similarly be described as caustic and acidic opinions from your goodself about how unsafe you consider the place where the majority of my family reside and why you would never go back there. You often make it out to sound like Toxteth or Brixton, when in MY reality it is one of the most peaceful, unobtrusive vanilla counties one could come across in the UK. So yes, I'm all for keeping it real.

Genesis

Are all your relatives from central Northampton?? When I talk about feeling unsafe in the UK I refer to a few square miles of Northampton..if your rellies are from there well sorry, as a police officer living and working there maybe I saw the worst it had to offer. It is not acidic saying I felt unsafe in my old neighbourhood. If you knew of the serious crime figures for some of these areas you too may have been concerned. I can back up what I said.

Saying wouldn't go back anywhere for a large sum of money in my opinion is childish..especially as this person is often trying to score points over her new life in Oz over what she left here....maybe that puts it in some context.

I possibly finally reacted to one of what I consider to be way too many bitter digs at NZ from this person.

Browner_

If people are not personal or offensive, then let them have their opinion. Obviously, the more constructive a comment is, then the more use it will be.

However, lets get real and say that NZ drivers are frightening indeed, I witness it all the time. There are a hardcore of drivers who think that the road is literally a playground where they can go out and have some fun in their cars, and sod everyone else.

Now in 40+ years in the UK I have never witnessed an attitude anything like that in the UK, maybe its just where I was from, I dunno.

Not only that , there are another hardcore of drivers that think that making their cars as noisy as possible by removing exhaust or "tuning" is a good thing.
I stood at the garage tonight and was just amazed at the number of these idiots going past. God help you if you want some sleep in this country.

luvwelly

Just a tad yes....it was a flippant remark no more no less....anyone who changed their mind about coming to NZ because of it, isn't psychologically stable enough to pass the medical probably and no it wasn't me who made the original remark.

The forum is called 'Living and Moving Abroad'...to me that implies the good and the bad from those who are actually experiencing it or who have done so in the past.
It is not called 'NZ - good news only forum' .

My own view of NZ is that it is a fabulous place for many reasons but seems to be a bit tough financially for most posters on here as many have taken cuts in salary to come here.......this plus the isolation are probably the most important aspects for people to appreciate before moving over here lock stock and barrel.

I am only here for a few years however much I like it (and I do) so none of this truly affects me but that in itself allows me to more easily see the tendency for people to justify their own decision to relocate constantly and for the less positive ones to want to make sure others are not 'misled' because let's face it that is what an overpositive censored forum does..it misleads more than it informs....a forum with a freedom of speech ethic...achieves a balance.

Bo-Jangles

Yes it is childish and I am sure that is how it was meant. Very few people coud turn down $4million with no strings attached, all barring those that may already have enough millions that a few more don't matter. It ain't real, it ain't going to happen, there is no $4 million up for grabs, so why make a big issue out of it?

Having family in the 'force' often bring home the worst of their jobs, have first hand experience on that one. Often unless you go looking for crime you won't find it. It bubbles under the surface, usually in quarters and places where most of us would not or do not venture. I don't see any real crime in the criminal 'hellhole' that Auckland is often painted to be, it's very easy to avoid, but it doesn't mean it's not there.