Any one come to NZ as single person?
Sep 5th 2007, 12:18 am
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Any one come to NZ as single person?
Hi
As title says.
Did any one arrive in NZ as single? ie divorced, no partners?
Just wondering what life here is like for the single person.
My kids (13 and 16) say that they will miss me if i go, but my daughter wants visit at half term in summer for 3 months, had to explain that it is winter in NZ lol
My son is working but says if I pay he will visit....
once a week four times a year!!!!
But both of them are supportive and say that they if i want to emmigrate, that i should go for it!
Even my ex wife said she would visit..... :curse:
As title says.
Did any one arrive in NZ as single? ie divorced, no partners?
Just wondering what life here is like for the single person.
My kids (13 and 16) say that they will miss me if i go, but my daughter wants visit at half term in summer for 3 months, had to explain that it is winter in NZ lol
My son is working but says if I pay he will visit....
once a week four times a year!!!!
But both of them are supportive and say that they if i want to emmigrate, that i should go for it!
Even my ex wife said she would visit..... :curse:
Sep 5th 2007, 1:23 am
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
As a single you will have a bit more flexibility, that's for sure.
Sep 14th 2007, 8:04 am
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
Hi
I intend to arrive in Wellington at the end of October. I'm single and don't know a soul out there, nearest I've been was Australia last year. I'd like to think Kiwis have a different approach to life than people in the UK, who only seem willing to accept you if you come as part of a 'set', i.e. couples or families. I'm quite happy with my own company, but enjoy talking to others too - without any intentions other than being friendly. I think, unless you're young and in a group of friends, being single means being solitary. I'm looking forward to exploring the country and seeing the similarities and the differences, and if I come across like-minded souls to share the experience wih (no strings attached!) this will be an added benefit.
If you want to go, then go, but in my experience, you have to REALLY want to go to deal with the stress of applying for a visa. Anyone who's half-hearted about it will give up long before they book their flights!
If you've got family and friends to support you, then go for it and enjoy the experience. You can keep in touch easily by phone and email, if there's someone there who's waiting for your call. Good luck!
I intend to arrive in Wellington at the end of October. I'm single and don't know a soul out there, nearest I've been was Australia last year. I'd like to think Kiwis have a different approach to life than people in the UK, who only seem willing to accept you if you come as part of a 'set', i.e. couples or families. I'm quite happy with my own company, but enjoy talking to others too - without any intentions other than being friendly. I think, unless you're young and in a group of friends, being single means being solitary. I'm looking forward to exploring the country and seeing the similarities and the differences, and if I come across like-minded souls to share the experience wih (no strings attached!) this will be an added benefit.
If you want to go, then go, but in my experience, you have to REALLY want to go to deal with the stress of applying for a visa. Anyone who's half-hearted about it will give up long before they book their flights!
If you've got family and friends to support you, then go for it and enjoy the experience. You can keep in touch easily by phone and email, if there's someone there who's waiting for your call. Good luck!
Sep 14th 2007, 8:48 am
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
When we lived in NZ (1999 - 2001), we met a single bloke in his mid 20's who simply left the UK and arrived in NZ not knowing anyone - and 8 years on he is still there and loving it. The thing about NZ is that it is very hard not to make new friends, especially with the expats as friends become a family substitute. Go for it!
Sep 16th 2007, 6:59 pm
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
Originally Posted by andy480
Hi
As title says.
Did any one arrive in NZ as single? ie divorced, no partners?
Just wondering what life here is like for the single person.
My kids (13 and 16) say that they will miss me if i go, but my daughter wants visit at half term in summer for 3 months, had to explain that it is winter in NZ lol
My son is working but says if I pay he will visit....
once a week four times a year!!!!
But both of them are supportive and say that they if i want to emmigrate, that i should go for it!
Even my ex wife said she would visit..... :curse:
As title says.
Did any one arrive in NZ as single? ie divorced, no partners?
Just wondering what life here is like for the single person.
My kids (13 and 16) say that they will miss me if i go, but my daughter wants visit at half term in summer for 3 months, had to explain that it is winter in NZ lol
My son is working but says if I pay he will visit....
once a week four times a year!!!!
But both of them are supportive and say that they if i want to emmigrate, that i should go for it!
Even my ex wife said she would visit..... :curse:
I am also thinking of emmigrating as a single person in the new year. Need to get a job first for my EOI. I have supportive family and they don't want to hold me back from doing this.
For me it is worth taking the risk to find a better quality of life - I don't want to live with regrets later in life and from what I have seen of NZ and from the threads I have read, it looks like i will be too busy trying everything out.
I have read the NZ people are very friendly and life is what you make of it and new friends are on the horizon. You only get one life, live it for yourself!
My very best wishes
Sep 16th 2007, 7:30 pm
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
Go for it Roland! If you survive the NZIS experience, you can survive anything! Don't spend the rest of your life wishing you'd had the guts to do it. One life, it's yours to spend as you wish. All the best!
Sep 16th 2007, 7:43 pm
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
Originally Posted by sol133
Go for it Roland! If you survive the NZIS experience, you can survive anything! Don't spend the rest of your life wishing you'd had the guts to do it. One life, it's yours to spend as you wish. All the best!
Hey just what my mum said last night to me
last few years have been dire for me, in debt (ex-wife), CSA taking 40% (ex wife!)
She said go "for it son, you're only early 40's, you kids are growing up... and i want to visit NZ!"
Just this weekend i had my kids over, but lad just came over on friday night and went home saturday dinner time
Sep 17th 2007, 7:22 am
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
I've seen how the CSA operates from both sides - myself and my friend, who hasn't even been allowed to see his kids for years. My own case wasn't sorted out until the kids were in their early twenties, despite having been transferred as one of the first cases when the CSA came into existence.
I seem to remember that they can't get at you if you're abroad, unless the rules have changed? My kids' dad went self employed to avoid paying.
Still, all done with now, thank god.
Happy emigration!
I seem to remember that they can't get at you if you're abroad, unless the rules have changed? My kids' dad went self employed to avoid paying.
Still, all done with now, thank god.
Happy emigration!
Sep 17th 2007, 7:42 am
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Re: Any one come to NZ as single person?
Hi there
I just thought I would add that I am heading to NZ on my own in November initially on a visitor permit but intending to stay for good. I am 33 years old and heading for Christchurch (I hope). I had a holiday in NZ this year (on my own) and spoke to a few expats and kiwis and they were all positive about me finding work and settling. So I am going for it.
I am giving up a steady job with good income, a nice house and a good golf club not to mention leaving friends and family behind so this is by far the biggest gamble of my life so far but hopefully it will be all worth it in the future in NZ.
The good thing about doing this single is that you only answer to yourself so any decisions you make only effect you and nobody else which gives you a bit more freedom.
Good luck
Barry
I just thought I would add that I am heading to NZ on my own in November initially on a visitor permit but intending to stay for good. I am 33 years old and heading for Christchurch (I hope). I had a holiday in NZ this year (on my own) and spoke to a few expats and kiwis and they were all positive about me finding work and settling. So I am going for it.
I am giving up a steady job with good income, a nice house and a good golf club not to mention leaving friends and family behind so this is by far the biggest gamble of my life so far but hopefully it will be all worth it in the future in NZ.
The good thing about doing this single is that you only answer to yourself so any decisions you make only effect you and nobody else which gives you a bit more freedom.
Good luck
Barry
Last edited by Barpolo; Sep 17th 2007 at 8:29 am.
