"You must be mad to move back here"
#31
Re: "You must be mad to move back here"
Lucy, I feel for you - and I don't handle it well at all. My family are happy that I'll be going home - as for my 'friends' and their negative attitude, that's a different matter. I find it very hurtful and have not yet worked out a way of coping with it
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Your friend is right Carole - we lived in a Melbourne suburb and just couldn't believe how built up it was - so many people had sold their back yards for house building and everywhere was so crammed in. It took an hours drive to see any green fields
On my return home I openly wept when I saw the beautiful British greenery. I now live in a village surrounded by fields and appreciate it so much more
On my return home I openly wept when I saw the beautiful British greenery. I now live in a village surrounded by fields and appreciate it so much more
mind you she went to see the new seekers in her local park.gold coin entry about 40p sat with friends had a barbie and all the children just played games with their friends and all the families were there with their extended families...grandparents and great grandparents...
she says its like the 6o's in N.Z
carole
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Re: "You must be mad to move back here"
We're moving back too - well my husband is from the UK - not us, but comments from his parents are along the lines of "it's a mistake", "it's not a good idea" etc. But you know reading a few of the replies you got to your question has made me feel better - we don't need to justify especially to people who have never lived outside of the UK (and my OH is the only one in his entire extended family to have lived outside of the UK). We know why we are going to live there, and if we decided it's a mistake, then that's our decision alone.
You know, I think that people who say that should be forced to emigrate for 5 years. That'd shut the buggers up!
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When they ask why you did that, just say that you weren't violent before you moved to Oz, but in an effort to get on you've had to act like them, and there are still traces of it in your system.
Remember to thank them for helping you work through it
#35
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Unless it's your parents, (in which case tell them to stop reading the Daily Fail ) then just punch em square in the face, BAM!!
When they ask why you did that, just say that you weren't violent before you moved to Oz, but in an effort to get on you've had to act like them, and there are still traces of it in your system.
Remember to thank them for helping you work through it
When they ask why you did that, just say that you weren't violent before you moved to Oz, but in an effort to get on you've had to act like them, and there are still traces of it in your system.
Remember to thank them for helping you work through it
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I have mentioned it to aussies that we may return and they say ''what about the weather '' and wont you miss the laid back lifestyle and everything else we have here .
I cant help but think well i cant wait to get away from the never ending sunny days here in aussie and the burning sun on my back on the costruction sites on a 40 degree day .
I cant wait to get away from the watching the grass grow lifestyle ,i want action and fast moving pace of life with heaps of interesting places to go close to hand .
In regards to everything else here [aussie ] even the aussies struggle to come up wiith anything more exciting than the beach and the barbie ,unless you want a good punch up in northbridge [perth] thatll soon wake you up out of the slumbering lifestyle perth seems to offer but only as long as the sore head and black eye lasts .
I cant help but think well i cant wait to get away from the never ending sunny days here in aussie and the burning sun on my back on the costruction sites on a 40 degree day .
I cant wait to get away from the watching the grass grow lifestyle ,i want action and fast moving pace of life with heaps of interesting places to go close to hand .
In regards to everything else here [aussie ] even the aussies struggle to come up wiith anything more exciting than the beach and the barbie ,unless you want a good punch up in northbridge [perth] thatll soon wake you up out of the slumbering lifestyle perth seems to offer but only as long as the sore head and black eye lasts .
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Glad to hear I'm not the only one who gets this sort of response from back home.
Actually thinking about it, close friends and my family are thrilled we're coming back. It's people we don't really know as good friends and the parents in law who are more negative about us coming back (me thinks they wanted to come out here for 3 months a year on holiday or even semi retire! Dashed their plans I reckon - hee hee! )
I have English friends here who run down the UK constantly and ask why on earth would I want to move back. This kind of makes me doubt my decision sometimes even though I know it's just their point of view.
I also get aussies looking at me with almost disbelief as if I'm raving mad to move back to the UK (even though 99.9% of them have never been to the uk!). I kind of get a little satisfaction when I say we're moving back because we've chosen to live in the uk over here. Nothing against australia, just want to be nearer to friends and family. They still don't get it though...
One thing I've learnt from emigrating out here is that the grass is always greener on the other side, but on hindsight, the grass was always green at home, I just didn't appreciate it enough!
Actually thinking about it, close friends and my family are thrilled we're coming back. It's people we don't really know as good friends and the parents in law who are more negative about us coming back (me thinks they wanted to come out here for 3 months a year on holiday or even semi retire! Dashed their plans I reckon - hee hee! )
I have English friends here who run down the UK constantly and ask why on earth would I want to move back. This kind of makes me doubt my decision sometimes even though I know it's just their point of view.
I also get aussies looking at me with almost disbelief as if I'm raving mad to move back to the UK (even though 99.9% of them have never been to the uk!). I kind of get a little satisfaction when I say we're moving back because we've chosen to live in the uk over here. Nothing against australia, just want to be nearer to friends and family. They still don't get it though...
One thing I've learnt from emigrating out here is that the grass is always greener on the other side, but on hindsight, the grass was always green at home, I just didn't appreciate it enough!
#39
Re: "You must be mad to move back here"
Glad to hear I'm not the only one who gets this sort of response from back home.
Actually thinking about it, close friends and my family are thrilled we're coming back. It's people we don't really know as good friends and the parents in law who are more negative about us coming back (me thinks they wanted to come out here for 3 months a year on holiday or even semi retire! Dashed their plans I reckon - hee hee! )
I have English friends here who run down the UK constantly and ask why on earth would I want to move back. This kind of makes me doubt my decision sometimes even though I know it's just their point of view.
I also get aussies looking at me with almost disbelief as if I'm raving mad to move back to the UK (even though 99.9% of them have never been to the uk!). I kind of get a little satisfaction when I say we're moving back because we've chosen to live in the uk over here. Nothing against australia, just want to be nearer to friends and family. They still don't get it though...
One thing I've learnt from emigrating out here is that the grass is always greener on the other side, but on hindsight, the grass was always green at home, I just didn't appreciate it enough!
Actually thinking about it, close friends and my family are thrilled we're coming back. It's people we don't really know as good friends and the parents in law who are more negative about us coming back (me thinks they wanted to come out here for 3 months a year on holiday or even semi retire! Dashed their plans I reckon - hee hee! )
I have English friends here who run down the UK constantly and ask why on earth would I want to move back. This kind of makes me doubt my decision sometimes even though I know it's just their point of view.
I also get aussies looking at me with almost disbelief as if I'm raving mad to move back to the UK (even though 99.9% of them have never been to the uk!). I kind of get a little satisfaction when I say we're moving back because we've chosen to live in the uk over here. Nothing against australia, just want to be nearer to friends and family. They still don't get it though...
One thing I've learnt from emigrating out here is that the grass is always greener on the other side, but on hindsight, the grass was always green at home, I just didn't appreciate it enough!
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Actually I was just sitting here eating my lunch, thinking about how much eating I'm doing. It's amazingto think that since I live in Bris-Vegas, and it's hot, how much eating and the lack of exercise I do due to me avoiding the sun - no wonder I'm going up a size. I'm not an exercise freak, far from it, but I did spend my time doing lots of hiking and walking before moving to Australia. I now take the car to avoid the sun so I am really looking forward to going for many many walks when we get back to the UK, in normal temperatures, without the mozzies for company.
Bring it on
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However, this has not deterred me from moving back. In fact, it has made me far more determined. Yet, I can't say that the things that he said and the behaviour of the rest of my family didn't upset me, cos it did.
Fingers crossed I get a call at the end of the week for some other jobs anyway...but I won't be moving anywhere near them!
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And also take away their pension (so they have to work of course) and throw in a couple of snotty nosed brats and I totally agree .
Actually I was just sitting here eating my lunch, thinking about how much eating I'm doing. It's amazingto think that since I live in Bris-Vegas, and it's hot, how much eating and the lack of exercise I do due to me avoiding the sun - no wonder I'm going up a size. I'm not an exercise freak, far from it, but I did spend my time doing lots of hiking and walking before moving to Australia. I now take the car to avoid the sun so I am really looking forward to going for many many walks when we get back to the UK, in normal temperatures, without the mozzies for company.
Bring it on
Actually I was just sitting here eating my lunch, thinking about how much eating I'm doing. It's amazingto think that since I live in Bris-Vegas, and it's hot, how much eating and the lack of exercise I do due to me avoiding the sun - no wonder I'm going up a size. I'm not an exercise freak, far from it, but I did spend my time doing lots of hiking and walking before moving to Australia. I now take the car to avoid the sun so I am really looking forward to going for many many walks when we get back to the UK, in normal temperatures, without the mozzies for company.
Bring it on
That is so true, you do get unfit in Oz as it is to hot to take any exercise, I am a runner and just could not run in Oz due to the heat my health actually suffered in Oz.
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What a timing for a post! I recently went back to the UK for an interview. So I rang my family to tell them the good news. OMG! My brother went absolutely mad on the phone! You're making a big mistake, this country is rubbish, you've got that place out there (which he means my parents-in-law's villa with a swimming pool which isn't MINE). We had a massive massive row. I went to the job interview (sadly didn't get the job) but whilst I was in the UK, I rang my family also to find out how my father is getting on (he's been very sick for some time). My brother put the phone down on me. Now this brother has never ever lived anywhere different in his life. He has spent his whole life living in the same village in Cornwall, in the same house! How can anyone preach to me about life? How can he feel justified? My family have never ever worried about me and I've even been homeless here in Italy. So why all of a sudden is he so interested in me not moving back? Possibly because he came to Italy for my wedding (his first ever visit in the 19 years I have lived here) and saw everything so wonderful and is now planning to come out more often. Bah! Families!
However, this has not deterred me from moving back. In fact, it has made me far more determined. Yet, I can't say that the things that he said and the behaviour of the rest of my family didn't upset me, cos it did.
Fingers crossed I get a call at the end of the week for some other jobs anyway...but I won't be moving anywhere near them!
However, this has not deterred me from moving back. In fact, it has made me far more determined. Yet, I can't say that the things that he said and the behaviour of the rest of my family didn't upset me, cos it did.
Fingers crossed I get a call at the end of the week for some other jobs anyway...but I won't be moving anywhere near them!
Its sad you wont get any support from your family; but regardless you must do what is right for you regardless of anybody eles' opinion! Good luck