Sally Redux

Oh Gawd I don't know what to do.

Because my family don't want to go in the summer it seems too long until we can next go...thanks for all the input though.

Jerseygirl

After an almost 7 yr break I've been able to go back and forth the last 4 yrs and not feel down when I got back to the US.

Sally Redux

That's good

Are you still going to buy a place? I think that's quite a good solution.

Jerseygirl

Bought a house a few months ago.

Sally Redux

Oh congratulations.

Bevm

Sally, I assume there's no question of actually moving back. It might be best not to go back so often then. Take a holiday somewhere else.

FWIW.

We went back every few years, and never had a particular pang at leaving no return to Canada. Then a few years ago there was this "been here, done this" awareness that Canada wasn't where we wanted to live out our lives.

We're prepared to change our minds later and return, but we came here so going back is no more extreme. Except for a few picky organizational details.

Bev

englishinfl

My thoughts on it? Go back and try and get your head sorted out, spend as long as you can there too, and enjoy every second of it. You know you will anyway.
I go home every year, once or twice. I was home at Christmas, and I'll go again in April, and if I can, in September too. I wouldn't miss being here, but I'd miss the trips back there. It's one thing that I can actually look forward too, rather than just think about
How long have you been here in the US?

englishinfl

Wish I could say the same.
Whenever I go back, I never feel great for a good while once I get back here, and no, I wouldn't dream of not going there on holiday at every chance I get.

Sally Redux

I've been here 3 1/2 years and am stuck in one of the early stages of culture shock

Jerseygirl

I'm in a good place right now...I can go back to the UK whenever I want...for as long as I want. Although it's taken almost 13 years to get here.

terese677

We're still at the very early stages of living in Canada ( only been here 7 months) and my OH and I agreed that we wouldn't go back until after 2 years so we wouldn't be tempted to stay in the UK just from homesickness.
7 months have passed and I am homesick and I would like to visit but I too feel this might not be the right move at the moment
it's hard when you feel you just want to see familiar things and family/close friends who really know you.

englishinfl

I know what you're saying.
5 1/2 years here, and the feeling hasn't changed much

englishinfl

IMHO, there's no harm in going back for a visit, it's the one thing that made it easier and that keeps me sane. (well.. sorta )
If you have the money to do it, then do it, and just enjoy being back there for a week or two.

englishinfl

So can I for the most part, I just don't because we have family come out to see us, and right now, for some of the time it's just a lot easier if I'm actually over here and not over there..

Chorlton

I think its good to go back every so often. A good test of where you belong is whether you're happy to go home afterwards, and how gut wrenching (if at all) it is to leave the UK.