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Old Nov 10th 2008, 3:59 am
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Hi All

Only been in Perth for nearly 3 months and already know in deep down that i will go HOME, one day

What is it I/We expected that we dont like.

I actually think the place is beautifull, theres lots to do when it's not raining but I just dont know what it was that I expected.

We've answered the negatives Q's about the Uk and yes it has problems but they actually never effected us.

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Originally Posted by bev1 View Post
Hi All

Only been in Perth for nearly 3 months and already know in deep down that i will go HOME, one day

What is it I/We expected that we dont like.

I actually think the place is beautifull, theres lots to do when it's not raining but I just dont know what it was that I expected.

We've answered the negatives Q's about the Uk and yes it has problems but they actually never effected us.

Answers please
Some places just don't feel like home, Perth obviously doesn't to you. Some people are just too British to live overseas, some people don't like change and struggle to settle. Enjoy what you do like and make plans to return, it gets harder the longer you are here.
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Old Nov 10th 2008, 4:11 am
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Some places just don't feel like home, Perth obviously doesn't to you. Some people are just too British to live overseas, some people don't like change and struggle to settle. Enjoy what you do like and make plans to return, it gets harder the longer you are here.
I don't think it's because people are too British to live overseas. Australia may not be some people, but they may love living in a different place overseas.
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I don't think it's because people are too British to live overseas. Australia may not be some people, but they may love living in a different place overseas.
I did say SOME people. I certainly wouldn't generalise like that
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Is it family that you miss, or friends? That would be an obvious and very very good reason.
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I did say SOME people. I certainly wouldn't generalise like that
I would have thought being too British meant you slag off Britain at every opportunity thus making you more likely to settle in Oz
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Originally Posted by Notts_bloke View Post
I would have thought being too British meant you slag off Britain at every opportunity thus making you more likely to settle in Oz
Its like migration, some day you will always return to the place you where born, its natural more so as you get older and looking towards retirement.

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I would have thought being too British meant you slag off Britain at every opportunity thus making you more likely to settle in Oz
Well as I have never slagged off Britain I wouldn't know
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I think a big mistake we all tend to make is to think that a beautiful place is the best place to live. If that was the way it worked, there'd be a whole lot of places with no one living there!

Beautiful surrounding are great to have,but it's people that matter, I think. Not just family and friends, but the sort of people we meet in the shops, on the street, work with etc. People are different in different parts of the world.

I think the fact that various countries all speak English blinds us to the deep differences in the way people think and act.

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Although my OH and I only in early 40's one thing we have realised after being here in Perth is that we couldn't grow old here. It's just not the place for us and our family to live and grow up in.

I think home is where the heart is as they say and it's not where you want to live but where you want to die too.

We are returning to the UK for good in 8 weeks and are 100% all happy about this.
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I think a big mistake we all tend to make is to think that a beautiful place is the best place to live. If that was the way it worked, there'd be a whole lot of places with no one living there!

Beautiful surrounding are great to have,but it's people that matter, I think. Not just family and friends, but the sort of people we meet in the shops, on the street, work with etc. People are different in different parts of the world.

I think the fact that various countries all speak English blinds us to the deep differences in the way people think and act.

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That's a very good point, although in all honesty I'm not really sure that I prefer the way people are in general in UK compared to here.

To be honest, the only place I have been where I have really noticed a very obvious difference is in the Philippines, where the people are genuinely very much more friendly than either here or UK.

For lots of reasons though, I wouldn't want to live there.
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Sometimes it can be very hard to define that certain 'quality' about a place that makes it feel like home. You could easily live in a beautiful place and yet it still does not feel likes its a part of you. It's a bit like a pretty pair of high heeled shoes, they might look good but they don't feel entirely comfortable on your feet like your favourite pair of slippers, you have to squash you feet a bit to get the best fit you can, but they don't feel right.....
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OP it's good that you can make that decision calmly, some people end up broken emotionally and financially by the decision.

After 11 years here I am well established, so I choose to return as I would rather live in Britain (despite my misgivings about plumbing and fencing...).

But I didn't come for a better life, I married an Australian, so I didn't have that high an expectation of Aus.
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Although my OH and I only in early 40's one thing we have realised after being here in Perth is that we couldn't grow old here. It's just not the place for us and our family to live and grow up in.

I think home is where the heart is as they say and it's not where you want to live but where you want to die too.

We are returning to the UK for good in 8 weeks and are 100% all happy about this.
Good point about what you say about where you want to die, There are so many nice things here and I could probably make myself love it, but I know my husband wont.

i also know he wont change his mind, this was all my idea in the first place and it's no good only 1 person being happy .

So dont know when yet but we will return but i'll just enjoy the summer for now
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You might find that you enjoy it more now the nice weather is coming. We moved from Adelaide at the start of a Perth winter and I suffered greatly. The constant rain really can be very depressing, can't it?

There's a meetup in King's Park next weekend. Why not come out and meet some other people, have a nice day in the park and forget just enjoy yourselves? Take a look in the meet up section of the Australia forum for the King's Park meet thread for details.

And as was previously said, congratulations on making a decision that you both can live with. Sometimes one partner is unhappy and the other happy, which makes things all the more difficult.
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