Jules Europe

I think I have but one doesn`t need to live in say a particular country to have a fairly accurate opinion about it. Example, I have never lived in Russia but I don`t imagine its a great place to live. Example, I have Canadian friends that know very little of life outside of Ontario, so how well do they know the country where they live?

LouiseD

Not sure how anyone can be an expert when it comes to other people's lives or feelings. Surely these are unique to that individual

We knew within five weeks that we'd made a massive mistake moving to Oz - we stuck it out for longer but wish we'd listened to our gut instincts and left earlier - we'd have saved ourselves a fortune.

So many people I've spoken to since I returned have said the same thing to me - you don't appreciate just how good the UK is until you've lived somewhere else.

Good luck to the OP - hope it works out well for you.

Flogger

Digging again

canzoet

SO you are basically talking out of your backside as you have not lived in Canada.

Jules Europe

Decent as in large metropolitan areas with lots to do and see, plenty of opportunities, very cosmopolitan and good links to other countries by air etc You could say hubs of activity. You could mention Toronto in the same breath as either New York or Washington DC. But I suppose if you want small then you wouldn`t like any of these places.

Large cities normally serve as the perfect apetizer when discovering new countries, to not know them and what they offer, is often to not really know the country.

Jules Europe

Digging in what context?

Elaine B.

Take no notice it's only Jules he's mostly harmless

Jules Europe

I normally don`t but if you insist I won`t argue the point.

Unfortunately, I haven`t lived in Canada but as stated earlier I wouldn`t choose Nova Scotia out of choice.

Do you live in Nova Scotia or have some type of affection for it? It so don`t take my comments too personally, I`ve nothing against it...........Its just it doesn`t tickle my fancy as a place to live, thats all nothing more,

Flogger

when in a hole stop.
Hope this helps

Jules Europe

Unless provoked but that`s pretty hard to do.

Jules Europe

You do have a good memory

Flogger

Its my only saving grace

Jules Europe

It now seems, that you are not going to answer my question from thread 38 either. It all seems rather tit for tat doesn`t it? Or do you particuarly like the role of the interrorgator rather than the interrorgated?

dunroving

I agree, none of us is an expert on someone else's situation or feelings (which is why I replied the way I did to the earlier post).

All we can do is give advice, based on our own experiences/knowledge, and for many of us, the experience of reading 1,000's of posts on BE over the years.

I firmly believe that making the decision to return (to the UK, or ping-pong back to expat land) based on feelings after just 5 weeks, or 5 months, is unwise.

Any time this opinion is expressed on MBTTUK, the response is usually the same - someone will recount their own experience of hating (wherever) after a very short time, sometimes from the second they stepped off the plane. They give it a go for another year, return to the UK, and live happy ever after. So, sometimes these early gut reactions do turn out to be correct (i.e., the person feels the same after a year, or 5 years, or 10 years - or gets on the first plane home and subsequently reports it was the best decision they ever made).

The message "It's too early" to threads like this one is therefore often misinterpreted as meaning "You must be wrong". On the contrary, I think it's entirely possible the OP's early reactions could turn out to be correct. It's just that, from the dozens of posts I have read where initial reactions turn out to completely change, I think making major expensive and personal decisions based on an early dislike to your adopted country is very, very risky. It's like waking up a week after getting married and deciding you don't like your new spouse so you file for divorce. These things need to be given more time, is all I'm saying.

Flogger

I have an affection for NS but then i am not a city person and wouldn't be able to cope in a metropolis like Taronto