Originally Posted by Mummy in the foothills

It's hard when they are that age and think they are worth so much more and deserve so much more. If he won't take a 10k apprenticeship I bet he'll have lots of applicants for the job, maybe it's time to cut back on what you pay for and have him start forking over for his own luxuries in life. I know we had Ds find a job and pay his own car insurance and petrol he had very little left over, but after a year of doing that he became a lot more frugal.
I also made a deal with him at 16, I'll pay the first driving lesson (they have to have three professional ones here) I'll pay half the second lesson and he had to pay for the third. I kept reminding him of the cost and start putting aside the money and he did it reluctantly, but it was a good lesson.
We did the same for the one thats 16 now, but he a more eager saver and has his own plans

Originally Posted by aries_bird

The thing is we don't pay him anything. I stopped it all the day he got his NI card through he has a part time job paying him between £30 & £60 a week depending upon how many hours he does and he pays for his own social life, although I do pay for some of his essential clothes, the rest he funds himself, so he isn't idle.

He just believes it is his right to go to University as do 50% of his peers and probably his entire generation.

Still £30 a week won't be enough for driving lessons as well as a social life now will it! ...........