want to go home
#16
Re: want to go home
Just want to say, all the best, and thinking of you, I know a very close friend who went through the same situation, and it is so hard and draining, that I can only offer {{hugs and support}}
Bj
Bj
#17
Just Joined
Joined: Feb 2009
Posts: 22
Re: want to go home
Hi i'm new to all this so please bear with me.
I have been in australia 3 months and for 2 months its been pretty bad. I feel like I want to go back and be with my friends and my small family who I trust and love.
My marriage was struggling before we arrived and to be honest for a few years before that since my husband had a one nighter with a friend of mine, I thought coming here would be a positive move to get us back on track but who was I kidding.
I guess it was a bit like thinking a baby would bring us closer to together (luckily we didnt do that)
I feel my life is disappearing before my eyes, I am 40 and need to make a change now before we go on like this for another few years, I dont feel I can bring this back. I guess I am scared to make the decision and move back lots of emotions running through my head I dont want people thinking the worse of me and me admitting my marriage has failed is something i'm not looking forward to.
I really hope people who feel their marriage is struggling before they arrive dont think that moving abroad is going to mend their marriage the chances are it wont.
thanks for listening to me ramble I had to get it off my chest
I have been in australia 3 months and for 2 months its been pretty bad. I feel like I want to go back and be with my friends and my small family who I trust and love.
My marriage was struggling before we arrived and to be honest for a few years before that since my husband had a one nighter with a friend of mine, I thought coming here would be a positive move to get us back on track but who was I kidding.
I guess it was a bit like thinking a baby would bring us closer to together (luckily we didnt do that)
I feel my life is disappearing before my eyes, I am 40 and need to make a change now before we go on like this for another few years, I dont feel I can bring this back. I guess I am scared to make the decision and move back lots of emotions running through my head I dont want people thinking the worse of me and me admitting my marriage has failed is something i'm not looking forward to.
I really hope people who feel their marriage is struggling before they arrive dont think that moving abroad is going to mend their marriage the chances are it wont.
thanks for listening to me ramble I had to get it off my chest
#18
Banned
Joined: Aug 2007
Location: the dry part of Washington State
Posts: 1,333
Re: want to go home
Hi i'm new to all this so please bear with me.
I have been in australia 3 months and for 2 months its been pretty bad. I feel like I want to go back and be with my friends and my small family who I trust and love.
My marriage was struggling before we arrived and to be honest for a few years before that since my husband had a one nighter with a friend of mine, I thought coming here would be a positive move to get us back on track but who was I kidding.
I guess it was a bit like thinking a baby would bring us closer to together (luckily we didnt do that)
I feel my life is disappearing before my eyes, I am 40 and need to make a change now before we go on like this for another few years, I dont feel I can bring this back. I guess I am scared to make the decision and move back lots of emotions running through my head I dont want people thinking the worse of me and me admitting my marriage has failed is something i'm not looking forward to.
I really hope people who feel their marriage is struggling before they arrive dont think that moving abroad is going to mend their marriage the chances are it wont.
thanks for listening to me ramble I had to get it off my chest
I have been in australia 3 months and for 2 months its been pretty bad. I feel like I want to go back and be with my friends and my small family who I trust and love.
My marriage was struggling before we arrived and to be honest for a few years before that since my husband had a one nighter with a friend of mine, I thought coming here would be a positive move to get us back on track but who was I kidding.
I guess it was a bit like thinking a baby would bring us closer to together (luckily we didnt do that)
I feel my life is disappearing before my eyes, I am 40 and need to make a change now before we go on like this for another few years, I dont feel I can bring this back. I guess I am scared to make the decision and move back lots of emotions running through my head I dont want people thinking the worse of me and me admitting my marriage has failed is something i'm not looking forward to.
I really hope people who feel their marriage is struggling before they arrive dont think that moving abroad is going to mend their marriage the chances are it wont.
thanks for listening to me ramble I had to get it off my chest
I am finished
Its too late etc etc etc
Just make sure that isnt clouding your judgement, and you arent projecting that anxiety onto your life as a whole. Most people have semi breakdowns and do silly things as that birthday approaches
A lot of spouses have cheating spouses - they just don't know about it thats all... So dont imagine that yours is a baddy and everyone else's is a goody
Life sure isnt perfect and we sometimes mess up a 'not quite good enough' life and turn it into a horrible life, by trying for a perfect life
Wait til 3 months after your birthday and reassess
#19
Forum Regular
Joined: Feb 2009
Posts: 94
Re: want to go home
That's one of the most true statements I've heard. I've had one myself and when I found out about her I simply kicked her out but the pain is still there after many years. I do not believe in forgiving cheating spouses because they will cheat again. Just let them go, you'll be better off w/o them. If you have no kids you've lost nothing at all. Try not to feel sorry for yourself as that will stop your brain functioning properly!