Undecided
 

Hi All

My wife and I have been in Canada, Ontario for 14 years. We have a golden oppurtunity to move back to U.K. with a job. But feel uneasy about selling up and moving our present lifestyle, even though my wife hates the winters. We have to kids 8 and 13, both born here. The decision to move back is made worse by the huge difference in house prices and exchange. Do we pass up the oppurtunity or just carry on here. that is the question.

Both our families are in the U.k. and it seems we have spent a small fortune on flights back and forth over the years.

Any comments welcome.

TTFN

Re: Undecided
 

1) Go with your gut feeling

2) Talk it out thoroughly with every family member before you make a decision

There are many other similar threads on this site. If you search you should be able to find them. In my opinion, many of the lengthy responses are very helpful, but it all comes down to the fact that you just talk it out, be well informed, and go with your decision 100%, no regrets. The deciding part is the hardest, after that your mind is at rest.

We've been in NZ 12 years (hubby a kiwi tho) and have never been able to make that decision, altho have come close a couple of times, to the point of booking flights!!! Could you do what we have done and come to a different decision. We couldn't decide to go and live there instead of here, as in emigrate back there, but we 'have decided' to go on a one way ticket for at least one year in May 06. That is the agreement and even since deciding we have gone up and down with our feelings. After all the years of this emotional rollercoaster I know that the decision has to be made regardless of feelings. We knew we had to do this for me to settle in one country or the other, it was never going to happen without us 'living' in the UK again for some period of time - not just a holiday. So we have to do it for our future. Some days we are scared, other days we're excited, but at least if it's planned, we know whatever we feel, we are doing something positive long term. We have chosen to keep our house in NZ and rent it out so that if we want to come back after a year we can, if we don't - we carry on renting it out. I think selling up would be too big a move for us and one we may regret further down the track. Our biggest fear is having to start again financially if it all goes pear shaped in the UK, so keeping the house will help avoid that.

Just a thought, might be worth doing it that way.

I think just like people going the other way it is better to do it rather than think about it.

Your decision is made easier in that you have a job and maybe some assistance in accomodation when you arrive in UK from the company.

You do not have to cut ties with Canada and it's easy to rent something here for a few years. It's a great experience for the family to live overseas for a few years. The only issue I guess is the kids education will be disturbed but only you will know what effect that will have.