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Old Jan 29th 2008, 10:24 am
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Originally Posted by denzil75
LOL, yeah it was direct to Heathrow but then for us it meant having to get a shuttle flight to Manchester as we had family in that area and Yorkshire, or a long car ride. But at least the flight was with BA and not crappy Continental as we are stuck with now!
hey denzil - I always fly Continental, and like it Would love to know why you think it's crappy and why BA is so much better? Only ask this as I haven't flown with BA yet!!!!
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Old Jan 29th 2008, 10:42 am
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hey denzil - I always fly Continental, and like it Would love to know why you think it's crappy and why BA is so much better? Only ask this as I haven't flown with BA yet!!!!
With regards to being on time etc for the long haul flights I have to say Continental are pretty good (although talk to my husband about short domestic flights and it's a different matter!). But service wise I don't think Continental are that great, the plane always seems a little grubby, food is bad and because they only use a 757-200 (3 and a 3 with 34 rows) it feels cramped and I hate not having your own in seat screen! That said the flight attendants all seem to be great especially when I'm flying on my own with the kids. BA and also Delta (although I've not flown long haul for a few years with them) seem to have better planes, better food and better in flight services. Unforunately for me Continental are based out of Newark (20 min drive from me) so there aren't any other flight carriers that go direct to manchester. I'm sorry I didn't mean to offend anyone, it's just my opinion and experience!
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Old Jan 29th 2008, 11:00 am
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Originally Posted by denzil75
With regards to being on time etc for the long haul flights I have to say Continental are pretty good (although talk to my husband about short domestic flights and it's a different matter!). But service wise I don't think Continental are that great, the plane always seems a little grubby, food is bad and because they only use a 757-200 (3 and a 3 with 34 rows) it feels cramped and I hate not having your own in seat screen! That said the flight attendants all seem to be great especially when I'm flying on my own with the kids. BA and also Delta (although I've not flown long haul for a few years with them) seem to have better planes, better food and better in flight services. Unforunately for me Continental are based out of Newark (20 min drive from me) so there aren't any other flight carriers that go direct to manchester. I'm sorry I didn't mean to offend anyone, it's just my opinion and experience!
Oh, you didn't offend me. I was just interested in your opinion. Concerning the food, I am a vegetarian and always like what they give me to eat. But, I must say the regular food the others get doesn't look very good. I am quite petite, so it doesn't seem very cramped for me, but I know that taller and bigger people seem to be very cramped, like you said. Also, I agree with the inflight movie, as I hate stretching to see the screen three rows down. Much better seeing a movie on the screen on the chairback right in front

The reason I choose to fly Continental when I go home to Scotland is, they fly out of St. Louis connecting in Newark. It is the easiest route for me. I also like Newark airport as it is quite nice and easy to get around. I have flown with other airlines (Delta, American Airlines etc), but a lot connect in Chicago and I HATE connecting in Chicago as there is always some type of problem, and I either have to run through the airport from one end to the other to actually catch the flight due to delays or I miss the flight altogether and have to reorganise my connection. And, don't get me started on losing luggage because of this I have decided never to connect through Chicago again. Connections in Chicago have always been a pain in the arse!!!!!!!!!

The only time I will allow myself to fly home from Chicago will be a direct flight to Manchester (me driving up to Chicago from St. Louis) when I fly home for good sometime soon (one way) with my cats. Then I have to drive up to Scotland after that.
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Hi everyone
I'm 22 and moved to California from England (east midlands) last year. I came here disillusioned with life at home and hating England, but once I got here I missed England so bad! I've been in CA almost 8 months and I just don't fit in, I haven't made that many friends, and I spend half of my free time in British style pubs homesick and missing my English friends and pie and chips. I love California but I love it as a vacation destination, living here doesn't feel right. But I'm scared to just go back to the UK as I remember how I hated it before.
Do you think I should bite the bullet and go back, or stay here and see how it pans out?
Also, I was thinking of going back to go to school for a couple years to try it out. I have a green card though and I know travelling abroad can be tricky. I would maintain my residence here and would come back for 3-4 months at least each year, but does anyone have any more advice on the GC issue?
Thankyou for your help
If it doesn't feel right then go home. Maybe down the track you'll move somewhere else that does feel right. Just listen to your gut feelings they won't steer you wrong. Life's an adventure and you're young with no ties so make the most of it because when you've got a family in tow it's an awful lot harder,not impossible, but harder.
I came to Aus when I was 20 and it didn't feel right and when I went back for a holiday after 2 years everything in myheart etc was telling me to stay but I came back anyway.....big mistake. Now I have a family and an Aussie husband and I'm stuck here like it or not.
Whether you move within the US or go home,all the very best to you. You've got the world at your feet at your age, make the most of it.
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"Concerning the food, I am a vegetarian and always like what they give me to eat. But, I must say the regular food the others get doesn't look very good."

My friend recently came to visit with Continental and is also a vegetarian, she said her food was fine, except for the sandwich they gave her before landing which contained only cucumber and tomato!

Have to agree with you on Newark airport, it is one of the nicer airports, easier to navigate than JFK
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If it doesn't feel right then go home. Maybe down the track you'll move somewhere else that does feel right. Just listen to your gut feelings they won't steer you wrong. Life's an adventure and you're young with no ties so make the most of it because when you've got a family in tow it's an awful lot harder,not impossible, but harder.
I came to Aus when I was 20 and it didn't feel right and when I went back for a holiday after 2 years everything in myheart etc was telling me to stay but I came back anyway.....big mistake. Now I have a family and an Aussie husband and I'm stuck here like it or not.
Whether you move within the US or go home,all the very best to you. You've got the world at your feet at your age, make the most of it.
I totally agree with this statement. Move back, or move somewhere else in the US, it's a great big country with many different types of places and people. But, don't waste time wondering about it, do something about it before you have ties that bind you to where you are.
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Originally Posted by denzil75
"Concerning the food, I am a vegetarian and always like what they give me to eat. But, I must say the regular food the others get doesn't look very good."

My friend recently came to visit with Continental and is also a vegetarian, she said her food was fine, except for the sandwich they gave her before landing which contained only cucumber and tomato!

Have to agree with you on Newark airport, it is one of the nicer airports, easier to navigate than JFK
The food in my opinion is good, but the snack I got last time had hardly anything in the sandwich. And, my sandwich was half the size of everyone else's. I felt like asking them if they had given me a kids size

I pass through Newark airport every year at Christmas time and am very familiar with all of their food offerings, and take full advantage of them. I love food, and have figured out where the best places to eat are when I have to wait a couple of hours between flights. And, it's a good airport to wander in and get some exercise, which I need after drinking cappucinos, eating ice cream, pizza etc

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Old Jan 30th 2008, 1:03 am
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I think coming back to england after only 8 months would be a mistake.
You cant expect to move from a place you have lived all your life to a new place and you will feel right at home. There has to be some adjustments made and that takes time.
Remember why you left in the first place? Those problems are still here and growing worse by the day..its freezing cold, young kids are getting stabbed on a daily basis, gas bills are going up by 17% etc etc etc , I hate it.
Yes i would miss the shops and the food and great tv (compared to other countries) but overall when you watch the news it makes you think... "whats to miss"

Stick it out, try and make some more friends, find an apartment share near a beach so you can have people to socialise with on tap! plus everytime you look at that lovely ocean you will remember why you are there...
you'll be fine you'll see...Failing that You can try moving to perhaps florida, where you can get a low cost charter flight from orlando to go home as often as you like and friends can visit you more easily/cheaply
Dont just hop on the first plane home, a couple of days after returning home it will all come flooding back to you, the reasons you had to move are still there, get happy, you can make this work!

Good luck whatever you decide to do.
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Hi - I don't know what part of CA you live in but I'm from England and live in the East Bay, been here one semester, I'm at college in San Francisco and love that, the people in San Fran are soooooo different from anywhere else in the US, college is basically a lifeline for me as I do love it here but the partner I'm with is a nightmare! I sometimes dream about going back to England but also know that I romanticise the memories I have of it - the realities - expensive, wet, cold, dirty will still be there. Try going to college if you can. I don't know if you can do that straight away without a student F1 visa which would mean you going back to the American Embassy in London but maybe you can be accepted without having to be an International Student as you have a Green Card - BTW how did you get one? - you need to pick any college and go and talk to the counselors there. I have found them to be more knowledgable (sp?!) than ANYONE when it comes to the laws around students from foriegn lands - they deal with and get students into college who are from countries that the US deem "unstable", so you would have no trouble, I'm sure. Take care.
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Originally Posted by koolgirl
I think coming back to england after only 8 months would be a mistake.
You cant expect to move from a place you have lived all your life to a new place and you will feel right at home. There has to be some adjustments made and that takes time.
Remember why you left in the first place? Those problems are still here and growing worse by the day..its freezing cold, young kids are getting stabbed on a daily basis, gas bills are going up by 17% etc etc etc , I hate it.
Yes i would miss the shops and the food and great tv (compared to other countries) but overall when you watch the news it makes you think... "whats to miss"
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Absolutely correct it does take some time. Also as said you need to have a clearer idea on why you left the UK and what you would gain by moving back there.

For example, the main reason I moved out to the US was because of work, I was single and only thought at 6 months at a time. Now I'm married and my wife and I, have been thinking how we would want to bring up our future children. For us we believe that being near their Grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins is vitally important.

The current situation is such that being in the US, that wont happen. So a move back to the UK is likely, the question is when.

If the reasons for your consideration for a move back to the UK is such that you can't have them in the US. You'll need to consider moving back... the thing is though you really want to make sure that this is the case. Living anywhere is a comprimise and you'll have to make sure that what your getting makes you happier than the comprimises you'll have to make will make you feel.

Good luck.
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Originally Posted by koolgirl
I think coming back to england after only 8 months would be a mistake.
You cant expect to move from a place you have lived all your life to a new place and you will feel right at home. There has to be some adjustments made and that takes time.
Remember why you left in the first place? Those problems are still here and growing worse by the day..its freezing cold, young kids are getting stabbed on a daily basis, gas bills are going up by 17% etc etc etc , I hate it.
Yes i would miss the shops and the food and great tv (compared to other countries) but overall when you watch the news it makes you think... "whats to miss"

Stick it out, try and make some more friends, find an apartment share near a beach so you can have people to socialise with on tap! plus everytime you look at that lovely ocean you will remember why you are there...
you'll be fine you'll see...Failing that You can try moving to perhaps florida, where you can get a low cost charter flight from orlando to go home as often as you like and friends can visit you more easily/cheaply
Dont just hop on the first plane home, a couple of days after returning home it will all come flooding back to you, the reasons you had to move are still there, get happy, you can make this work!

Good luck whatever you decide to do.

That's why I no longer watch the news - it seems that if you're not feeling miserable, they see it as their job to change that. Even the supposedly impartial newspapers and TV channels seem to report nothing but doom and gloom.

They love using words like "horrific", "terrifying ordeal", "abused", "stabbed", "bombing", and their all-time favorite, "victim" :curse:
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I bet they actually have script writers who decide on the words that will cause the most fear and have the biggest impact on our gullible society!

Britain is starting self destruct, and its getting ugly.....
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I bet they actually have script writers who decide on the words that will cause the most fear and have the biggest impact on our gullible society!

Britain is starting self destruct, and its getting ugly.....

This is it, the UK is not half as bad as the media make out...a strong wind in the UK is a twister to the UK media.
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