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Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by brits1
(Post 13211602)
Hi, We retuned to the UK back in 2010 , we like you were told (mainly by ex brits living in Aus) that we were bonkers ( and worse lol ) but we are so very glad we did, we had a very good life in Aus but ..well still cannot explain it …but it was never home and maybe that’s all….. you need to just think about your life and how you want to live it and where, everybody’s life is different and asking for advice is good but only you can finally make the decision. Our life here has been fab and it’s home. Good luck ps the hardest bit is trying to make up your mind
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Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by St.Georges Girl
(Post 13211718)
Yes, except when you vist you don't have the comforts of your own home to prepare for Xmas in etc. That always got to me as I was the one in the family who made the Xmas cakes, mince pies, rum truffles etc.etc.I envied everyone as they went back to their homes to bed and as we drove around seeing the Xmas tree lights in windows and gardens. I couldn't shop for Xmas 'cos as you know, you can't bring everything back with you, there's no point anyway as Xmas is a non starter for us here. Having a first grandchild in England now has got to me a lot. Waiting for this rope around our necks (legal proceedings) for so long has affected my health and our finances and now, along with the AU$ almost on a parity with the GBP and house prices back home, I sometimes think we aren't meant to be going home at all.
I thought of you when Shane Warne died. I hope you coped okay.;) I never did the Christmas trips back, when my sister's kids were littler we always reckoned if I came in spring or autumn we had more quality time as they weren't hyped up over Christmas, or summer holiday stuff. Sad thing is that I did come home imagining family Christmases, but they still won't happen for various reasons, but I am hoping to have some good festive fun with my best mate for the first time in donkey's years. Never fall prey to the doubts and thoughts that you aren't meant to come home. I'm the world's most pessimistic person and at times it really took an effort to stay convinced that I WOULD get home one day, but when you know in your heart that you don't want to end your days over there, you just have to stay upbeat. Thats why it helped me to set a date and start a few things in motion like shipping quotes. Every little thing was a move in the right direction. The biggest push was when I got back to Brisbane last October, and on Hallowe'en I handed my notice to my boss. I only needed to give him 2 weeks notice, but by telling him over 4 months in advance not only did I give them time to fill my job :rofl: but it also meant I had a date to head for which was soooo important psychologically. (BTW the person filling my job started last week,yep, in August, - so much for advance notice, Qld public service at its slowest!) |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by St.Georges Girl
(Post 13211718)
... along with the AU$ almost on a parity with the GBP ....
AUD/ GBP is currently close to 2:1, and the highest AUD ever was was against GBP was around 1.5:1 and that was during 2011 and 2012. Does "parity" mean something else to you? :confused: |
Re: Many moons ago.....
I am in the same boat trying to decide whether to return after 28 years in NZ. I am 62 and was married to a kiwi until 12 years ago. I have mainly stayed here for financial reasons being a well paying job which at 50 I may not have got back there. I have no family here (extended family in uk though parents are gone) and no kids. Have a mortgage free very small house in uk and £400k savings but would need to find some work if I returned. Not sure how easy that would be. I too have had all the negativity about the Uk but I have been back every couple of years and always loved it.
I guess it’s coming down now to where I want to retire and end my days really. It’s hard when you are on your own to make the decision and go through with it! |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Pulaski
(Post 13211969)
Parity = 1:1
AUD/ GBP is currently close to 2:1, and the highest AUD ever was was against GBP was around 1.5:1 and that was during 2011 and 2012. Does "parity" mean something else to you? :confused: |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by St.Georges Girl
(Post 13212055)
No, lol. Brain freeze. I trained myself many years ago to think of $1 as £1 when shopping and not to compare all the time, I should have said the AU$ is sinking. Frightening for returnees so might have to sit this one out. Not sure if we can edit our own posts?
Pulaski being in the US probably sees it differently. You can edit your post for about 2 hours after you post it, beyond that you need to get a Mod to do it for you :) |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Pollyana
(Post 13211801)
:D now that's a poster with a good memory! It was tough, but I coped; I have my memories, and a copy of his fingerprints!:wub:
I never did the Christmas trips back, when my sister's kids were littler we always reckoned if I came in spring or autumn we had more quality time as they weren't hyped up over Christmas, or summer holiday stuff. Sad thing is that I did come home imagining family Christmases, but they still won't happen for various reasons, but I am hoping to have some good festive fun with my best mate for the first time in donkey's years. Never fall prey to the doubts and thoughts that you aren't meant to come home. I'm the world's most pessimistic person and at times it really took an effort to stay convinced that I WOULD get home one day, but when you know in your heart that you don't want to end your days over there, you just have to stay upbeat. Thats why it helped me to set a date and start a few things in motion like shipping quotes. Every little thing was a move in the right direction. The biggest push was when I got back to Brisbane last October, and on Hallowe'en I handed my notice to my boss. I only needed to give him 2 weeks notice, but by telling him over 4 months in advance not only did I give them time to fill my job :rofl: but it also meant I had a date to head for which was soooo important psychologically. (BTW the person filling my job started last week,yep, in August, - so much for advance notice, Qld public service at its slowest!) |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Chchexpat
(Post 13212045)
I am in the same boat trying to decide whether to return after 28 years in NZ. I am 62 and was married to a kiwi until 12 years ago. I have mainly stayed here for financial reasons being a well paying job which at 50 I may not have got back there. I have no family here (extended family in uk though parents are gone) and no kids. Have a mortgage free very small house in uk and £400k savings but would need to find some work if I returned. Not sure how easy that would be. I too have had all the negativity about the Uk but I have been back every couple of years and always loved it.
I guess it’s coming down now to where I want to retire and end my days really. It’s hard when you are on your own to make the decision and go through with it! |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Chchexpat
(Post 13212045)
I am in the same boat trying to decide whether to return after 28 years in NZ. I am 62 and was married to a kiwi until 12 years ago. I have mainly stayed here for financial reasons being a well paying job which at 50 I may not have got back there. I have no family here (extended family in uk though parents are gone) and no kids. Have a mortgage free very small house in uk and £400k savings but would need to find some work if I returned. Not sure how easy that would be. I too have had all the negativity about the Uk but I have been back every couple of years and always loved it.
I guess it’s coming down now to where I want to retire and end my days really. It’s hard when you are on your own to make the decision and go through with it! https://britishexpats.com/forum/usa-...utions-874408/ Agree that giving up a well-paid job aged 50 to move back would have been high risk, but it's right to reassess the situation now. |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Chchexpat
(Post 13212045)
I am in the same boat trying to decide whether to return after 28 years in NZ. I am 62 and was married to a kiwi until 12 years ago. I have mainly stayed here for financial reasons being a well paying job which at 50 I may not have got back there. I have no family here (extended family in uk though parents are gone) and no kids. Have a mortgage free very small house in uk and £400k savings but would need to find some work if I returned. Not sure how easy that would be. I too have had all the negativity about the Uk but I have been back every couple of years and always loved it.
I guess it’s coming down now to where I want to retire and end my days really. It’s hard when you are on your own to make the decision and go through with it! |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Reading the thread, St. Georges Girl' is "English" and England is her home.
There's a text in a John Le Carre book, the Tailor of Panama, that sums it up: ‘And you don’t feel — having skipped around the globe so much - family here, there and everywhere - dual passports - that you’re as it were too un-English ... Too much a citizen of the world, rather than one of us? ‘England’s where I keep my toothbrush, he replied ... " It's sensible to pay heed to people saying a location has changed, but not too much. Most western countries appear to have experienced similar changes, both positive and negative in the past few years / decades (and a particular change can be either, depending on your circumstances and outlook). And whether a location suits you is very much personal - relationship with family, preferred climate, lifestyle, personality, financial circumstances, job situation, etc. Lists are often published of the best / worst places to live, but they are very broad brush - a person may enjoy living in a "bad" location and dislike life in a "good" location, depending on their personality and circumstances. |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Chchexpat
(Post 13212045)
I am in the same boat trying to decide whether to return after 28 years in NZ. I am 62 and was married to a kiwi until 12 years ago. I have mainly stayed here for financial reasons being a well paying job which at 50 I may not have got back there. I have no family here (extended family in uk though parents are gone) and no kids. Have a mortgage free very small house in uk and £400k savings but would need to find some work if I returned. Not sure how easy that would be. I too have had all the negativity about the Uk but I have been back every couple of years and always loved it.
I guess it’s coming down now to where I want to retire and end my days really. It’s hard when you are on your own to make the decision and go through with it!
Originally Posted by Shard
(Post 13212092)
What's wrong with NZ ?
Finding basic work shouldn't be a problem (if flexible) and you constantly hear businesses can't find staff. |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Pollyana
(Post 13212056)
.... Pulaski being in the US probably sees it differently. ....
Even in lower cost areas of the US the cost of buying or renting a home has doubled in the past decade. I thought that massive house price inflation was something I had left behind in the UK, but my home that I bought in 2012, is now worth three times what I paid for it, which is madness! |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Originally Posted by Pulaski
(Post 13212110)
Same in the US, living here has become very expensive. Would be/ soon-to-be immigrants seeking advice often don't believe the advice, and even some people who live here (and post on BE) are in denial (I'm not sure how that happens, but I suspect in large part it's because they bought their home many years ago and don't see the massive increase in housing costs - see below v ), but I wouldn't recommend coming to the US without a job that pays very well if you're moving to Boston, New York, DC, California etc.
Even in lower cost areas of the US the cost of buying or renting a home has doubled in the past decade. I thought that massive house price inflation was something I had left behind in the UK, but my home that I bought in 2012 is now worth three times what I paid for it, which is madness! |
Re: Many moons ago.....
Whether renting or buying, high property costs are a problem, whether caused by population growth exceeding house building, quantitative easing (money printing) creating asset inflation, or whatever. It's happened in many countries over many years, and under both left and right wing governments, none of which appear to have an effective solution. China has managed to combine inflated property values with an over supply.
It can't be good for society that it's so difficult and expensive to get decent accommodation. As an aside, I recently read an article about life in Rome 2,000+ years ago and it was similar, so it's far from a new problem. You'd have thought we'd have s solution by now, though. Sorry if I'm getting off the point of the thread. |
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